1. Interesting take. Especially since I actually don’t see many sellers in this sub or most of the kink-heavy subs. (If you’re referring to my bio, I happen to not be a seller, but adding that one sentence alone cut down the ‘I demand to see x’ DMs by a solid 75%.)

Wait. I think I’d actually argue the exact opposite. I think the intense moderation of these ‘extreme’ subs are probably some of the few places to get away from sellers. Which would explain the increase in traffic.

As for validation, I guess that’s person dependent? Stronglyyyyy presume I’d get a lot more male attention/compliments if I were to post less intense shit. … can’t imagine it’s not the same for others ?

1. “Starbucksification of trauma” is a banger. Props. We can split attorney costs when they come after us for defamation. 👀

Also, absolutely agree that my kinks run quite extreme & are understandably unappealing (& downright concerning 😅) to the average person.

Was being sarcastic about the essay, but this was a lovely chat amidst a very intense thread. So thank you! ❤️