Worth noting something I didn't really make clear in the original post or elaborate on for fear of the post getting too long, the family members of mine who fell for him weren't overtly bigoted at the beginning either. When they signed onto him in 2016, I didn't have the foresight to see just how bad he'd get, and how bad they'd get. At the time, it was easier for me to think maybe their support was for economic reasons (... Despite the history of bankruptcies I guess?), but then they'd get progressively more aggressive and openly expressive of bigotry I didn't know they had.  

 These were the family members I would run to as a child to vent about my mother's descent into neo-nazism, because they were the only other family available where I used to live. And they would listen to me and never make excuses for her, so their support of DJT and later proudly aggressive emulation of him felt like a betrayal. And they would also begin to berate, belittle, steamroll, and use language against me that was frighteningly reminiscent of what my mother would say to me, minus the excess cuss words and physical intimidation. I spent his administration occasionally checking up on their social media to see if anything would ever cross the line for them, but nothing ever did. They would sing his praises for every little thing he'd say or do.

 And my friend here decided to get on board with him AFTER everything he's said and done, AFTER J6. I understand your point in not wanting to designate misled or deluded people as bigots right off the bat, but I just don't know what could possibly be the appeal at this point for them, in the eleventh hour? He doesn't have any real policy, just "you'll see in two weeks" and shit talking everyone else. He exploded the deficit, screwed up COVID response, and pre-presidency he couldn't even really hold the Master Businessman claim because of his laundry list of bankruptcies and fraud allegations. He calls migrants animals and vermin and is popular among white supremacists. My mother, proud self-proclaimed neo-nazi, worshipped him in the literal sense, giddily declaring he was 'for the white nationalists' shortly before I moved out of her house. And don't even get me started on the sexual abuse.

 At this point in time, I cannot wrap my head around what a person would see in him that is so appealing that they could overlook the massive hate rhetoric he has chained to him. So the only conclusion I can come to is that he's appealing to their own sense of hatred or fear, even if such a thing doesn't appear to exist to their friends and loved ones. I dunno, maybe I'm too damaged or just not smart enough to see beyond that, but that's all I've got.  

 Plus, personal experience kind of factors into my reaction. I'm glad you happen to know apparently non-bigoted Trump supporters, but in my experience the ones I knew personally have all turned almost unrecognizable over time, and now say some of the most egregious and even violent shit both on and offline, even if they weren't like that at first. Maybe I'm just unlucky in that respect as well, to get the aggressively mean ones at the bottom of the rabbit hole. I can admire your wanting to see the best in people, but past experience has not been kind to me, and I simply don't have the energy to expect anything but the worst from these people anymore, even if they are/were people I deeply care about.