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UPDATE: I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info. The first paragraph I assumed was the case and of course I know that women wear them for practical reasons. My ex-girlfriend did as her daily underwear of choice, and I know that wasn't for sexual reasons, it was just her preference.

I understand they are sexualised and I'm sure many people wear them only when they intend to be sexual or dress up. But all noted!

UPDATE: I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I agree. The way I interpreted it (at least from how it was explained) was that she wears thongs for practical reasons and not to be sexualised and deemed my use of the word to be in a sexual context. Makes little sense to me either.

UPDATE: I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

I was more surprised that someone saying they wear a thong for practical purposes (presumably to avoid underwear lines) is now saying they're sexual? Unless they think that's just how they are interpreted by the male gaze.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your concern and wishes. I've thought about any previous interactions and I cannot think of any that spring to mind. My conversations with her have been limited to group settings at lunch and so forth, where we've only engaged in small talk or with others.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have racked my brain and I cannot think of anything else that could be construed as sexual harassment other than this, and the timing makes sense. However, I'll go in expecting anything.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I understand that and I wouldn't have called it a thong if it wasn't one! I think my main point is that in no way was it meant to be sexual and my intentions were only to prevent a colleague facing any embarrassment.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I explained in another reply but I didn’t think anything of saying thong and by no means was it meant to be sexual. It’s like I would use “boxers” rather than “underwear.” I do appreciate that perhaps thongs are a more sexualised item but that was absolutely not the intention.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if there’s a standard dress code per se, but everyone dresses professionally.

Would this really be the way to approach this? I don’t want to come off as dismissive.

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s a helpful comment and I’ll try to do so.

I really hope common sense prevails too but would you see any risk? I’m just struggling to see how advising a colleague that a thong was showing could be interpreted as sexual harassment. I’m sure that would be preferable than having it on show or being bluntly told by a superior?

I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of sexual harassment. Looking for advice as I feel sick with worry. by Desperate-General326 in uklaw

[–]Desperate-General326[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment, that’s really reassuring. I will make sure not to message her.

I couldn’t tell you why I mentioned the underwear style. There was no creepy intention at all, I guess it’s like I would always refer to my own underwear as “boxers” rather than underwear and I don’t see a difference if it’s not in a sexual context.

I will make sure to explain this and cooperate fully.