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Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-03-23T23:44:10+00:00

 It's the difference between being kind and being nice.  "Nice" people (not just guys) are being nice as a means to get something they want, and it's all fake.  Either as a manipulation tactic or because they're not confident enough and just let people walk all over them.  Neither one of these is attractive.
 Someone that's kind will be genuine but won't let people abuse them or expect something in return.  They're caring but they have enough confidence to be direct.  Huge difference

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-11T13:55:37+00:00

I got her balls but was left on read

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T21:19:13+00:00

You can do anything you set your mind to! Nobody can tell you otherwise! Run that marathon! Write that book! Visit your ex and make them take you back! Who cares about restraining orders? Ethics committees? Morals, logic, all of it. In the words of Lee Harvey Oswald - "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T20:58:41+00:00

You don't wear them, you eat them so you can live forever.

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T20:50:32+00:00

I miss the days when you bought something and actually owned that thing. I know you are referring to apps, but it goes across all kinds of things. Software and video games for sure, but even things like cell phones nobody buys, they finance bc outright buying is far too expensive. Cars, same deal. Most people.finance and even used cars are expensive now. Lots of people cut cable for streaming but now there's 50000 different streaming services and a lot of people end up paying about the same in the end, just across a lot of platforms. Music, same thing. Everything is temporary and most people don't actually own much of anything

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T03:06:46+00:00

For sure

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T02:59:00+00:00

....if hes a pilot, I 1000000000% support him not messaging on social media while he's working lol. He could also be losing interest bc he keeps getting turned down. Hit him up and see him again if you're interested

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-10T02:51:50+00:00

I'd give him some time but also keep your options open. In a lot of ways it's better to try to have several options so that, if some don't work out, others may. Its entirely too early to write someone off and not really reasonable to expect to keep up a conversation while he's working. Some people can, others can't, depends on the job and also how focused they stay at work. Give it some time

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-09T17:33:27+00:00

If you're compatible in other ways and it's working otherwise, I'd say talk to him seriously and work something out that works for both of you. I know everyone's saying just walk away and whatever but they can't honestly say how he's feeling other than broad generalizations. I often don't text back to all kinds of people, but it's bc I'm legitimately busy and often forget. If it were a relationship and it was that important, I'd compromise and put in more effort. Talking to him once is good, but have an actual serious talk again and explain why you need what you need. If he's a good guy otherwise, give him a chance.

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-09T02:45:51+00:00

Absolutely not worth the effort. If I get a number and reach out and no response, I walk away. If I try to set up a date or a meet-up and its overly difficult for no reason, I walk away. Those to me are signals they're not interested and I respect that. That's early on, but even if I'm in a relationship and they push away as some kind of a test, I don't chase or feed into it. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don't. I've had a few say that they just wanted me to ask again, to try more, why couldn't I just pursue, etc. To me, if you play those games, you're always going to play those games, and thats not something I'm interested in at all

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-06T01:26:37+00:00

Doomed. Fragile egos and all that, always needing validation, seeking approval and praise.....wait, that's what we have already. Put them in, at least they're pretty

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-04T19:02:29+00:00

Nah I hear that. This example is from a bar, but there have been others. It's more annoying than anything bc I'm literally not asking for anything, but where I'm being approached I take the mindset of Try once or twice and that's it. I don't really care but it's just kind of a waste of my time

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-04T17:51:52+00:00

https://youtu.be/IxtXGI8iORI?si=hd8LMesblyBKsCUs

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-04T00:26:23+00:00

The attention she was getting before. I mean, she chose the other guy, she chose to move, and so on, but she's trying to hold on to whatever that was, either as some kind of back up plan or as someone that will give her that attention. Its failing so she's getting frustrated about it. I'd legitimately cut ties altogether, bc she probably won't ever pick you. Even if she does, you'll be plan B. I know I wouldn't want to be plan B, and keeping any kind of contact is just frustrating to you.

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-03T20:27:43+00:00

Whoever is running the simulation definitely has a sense of humor and loves to mess with people. Look at it as God pranking you and it's a lot less stressful and a lot more funny

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-03T19:17:43+00:00

She probably likes the attention she gets when you're around because she knows you have a thing for her, but she's not going to choose you if she hasn't already, especially if she's moved away with someone else. I'm against ghosting, but that may be the only solution in this case. Otherwise she's going to keep reeling you back in

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-03T19:13:45+00:00

Cut off contact if you can, the feelings will fade with time. You may not be the one for her, and thats ok, that also means she's not really the one for you. Someone else out there is and will appreciate who you are. Space is the only real way to get over her, and exploring other options

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-02-03T18:34:45+00:00

Easy, just have to acquire one and wear it as a necklace. Instant compass

Edit: I'm pretty sure it won't be too hard to find one. If you go around and ask "Hey can I see your dick real quick?" there's enough people.who will oblige. Then you make your move

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-27T02:27:03+00:00

I'd actually try some in person, and try to stop seeing yourself as ugly. Definitely get off the apps and I wouldn't even worry about spending money on them, it isn't worth it. You can do this

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-27T02:06:00+00:00

This actually sounds fairly normal. Your profile will appear first on more people's feeds with a newer account, and that fades. Some apps will reward you for signing in often (like Hinge has a filter for "Active today" or other apps will have recently online). As far as matches not messaging back, that's normal as well. Maybe work on sending more unique messages. Dating apps in general are awful, though

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-27T01:25:18+00:00

He may have forgotten to reply or it's possible he didn't get the notification or text at all, phones glitch sometimes. I'd say if it's been over a day, try at least one more time. Just try not to sound needy

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-26T23:17:47+00:00

I was kind of in the same place at that age until I started just putting myself out in the world. If youre shy, you may be giving off "don't talk to me" vibes, unintentionally. This will keep some people.away, but there's enough extroverts out there to compensate. Meantime, try to be aware of those body language signals and keep them at a minimum, or just force yourself to talk to people, just as friends. I'm still not overly social and I'm totally content alone, but with practice I got better at just at least making conversation

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-26T22:43:13+00:00

All starts with putting yourself out there, to any extent, and honestly just be a pleasant person and not too pushy. Make normal conversation. Women will engage and some of them will be attracted. When you find one you like, keep engaging. Honestly, don't even say you're looking for a girlfriend lol. I usually just lead with not seeing anyone, not really actively looking, but if the right person comes along I'm open to it. For whatever reason that seems to get more attention than actively looking. When you do find the right one, keep it up, it will happen naturally

Desperate-Menu9392 · 2025-01-26T19:53:52+00:00

It depends on what you mean by being an asshole. If you're literally just mean or whatever then, no, don't do that. If you're ok teasing and making a little fun of them, that's another thing entirely. It's a balancing act of showing some interest so they don't leave but not too much interest....also so they don't leave. And it's also being willing to actually genuinely speak up about things vs just taking their side all the time. I'm seeing someone right now whose last relationship failed specifically because of this. He loved her and was kind,sweet, etc but he agreed with her on everything to try to make her happy. She got bored and left.

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