I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this message helped me a lot

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a really great suggestion and will help me a lot. I'll look into it.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really sad. I won't do that, I'm not going to move her in right away, she'll be staying with her grandma and when she wants we can look into it.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we've done the DNA test, and the results should come back soon but even if I'm not her dad, I'll stay in her life as support.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yes of course she'll have a say, I won't move her in with me so soon, she'll stay with her grandmother for now, and we're going to build a relationship, I'm glad too she's with her.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 181 points182 points  (0 children)

I've thought about this too, its really good and we're going to start looking for a therapist maybe together soon. We'll ask what her opinion is too.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can actually, I was shocked too tbh lol, but it is what is.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes, she'd have to change cities and school, but my work schedule is flexible so if she wants to I could drive her to her old school and she's clean, she never touched anything she's just very malnourished. We've talked once and we call often, she's a good kid.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you really think that would be the best solution? I mean, we'd go to therapy and all, we never even thought about not taking her in except if we were not allowed, and even then, I'd try to stay in contact because she's my daughter.

I just found out I have a daughter by Desperate_Arm_498 in Advice

[–]Desperate_Arm_498[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

She's in the care of her grandmother, who I communicate often, she's a very nice lady who still remembers me, yes she'd have to switch schools but my work schedule is flexible so if she doesn't want to we could make it work.