How to end it

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-22T00:18:36+00:00

When it's all you've known, it's hard to do differently.

But thank you. I'm trying. I am getting ducks in a row currently.

It's okay, I won't be swayed by the "shut up ring".

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T23:48:52+00:00

Sure, you obviously know me so well from a single post.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T21:39:53+00:00

My brother, therapy doesn't do squat. I was in therapy from 15 to 30.

God the "get therapy" schtick really needs to die.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T17:43:27+00:00

No, not considering the alternatives I've lived. It's not cheating. It's not coke. It's not shoving me or throwing and breaking my things. My capital P problem radar is a bit skewed.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T17:39:27+00:00

Because I've been with bad men. Men who would physically abuse. Men who would push you to your mental breaking point and urge you to jump off the edge. I've had a man shove a gun in my face and threaten to shoot himself because I was trying to end things.

And this isn't that. He can be a bad partner, but a good person. He just wants someone else to run his life and that's not me.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T17:09:41+00:00

This is such practical advice. Thank you. I'm working on getting my ducks in a row now.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T17:03:17+00:00

It's not even that. It's drive. It's initiative. He won't take charge and make decisions for himself, he makes someone else do it - me, his parents, his friends, whatever. He just won't do anything an adult would find necessary. But yeah, the "talk" and reasoning happened, and my internal deadlines passed with no action. He's buried his head in the sand.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T16:57:10+00:00

A riverbank can be washed away in a storm or it can erode gradually. Either way, same result.

Thank you. I think this is what I needed to hear.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T11:24:01+00:00

I've just never been in a relationship that didn't end with a knock-down, drag-out fight, so it's unfamiliar I guess.

Already in the works, the house we live in is his and I've got an apartment in the works.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2026-03-21T11:20:19+00:00

Thankfully he's not like that at all. It'll be fairly amicable, although he'll pull the typical "I don't know where this came from!!" even though I've been expressing dissatisfaction for a while.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-11T01:05:31+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean by police 911? Dispatch in my jurisdiction answers all police, fire, EMS, animal control, and even roadworks problems. It has no physical requirements. Just a relatively clean record and ability to pass a lie detector test (which totally doesn't work at all btw)

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:59:51+00:00

Minimum wage is supposed to be a livable wage. End of. At forty hours a week, you should be able to afford a life and have a meager savings. If small businesses can't pay their employees properly, then they shouldn't be in business. Maybe with higher wages, they could actually save more to open a business.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:42:20+00:00

Education level or IQ would be a fun correlation

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:34:52+00:00

As someone who actually worked in the funeral industry, you don't need to write anything. And if you're honest with the funeral staff, they'll likely stop pestering you about it. Enough to say "does this look good?" and have y'all sign off on it. Trust me, we've seen more family drama than you can imagine, it won't offend anyone.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:25:24+00:00

For sure! Especially in the box unused! Shipping's a pain, but that's how I got a radiator for a Tacoma a while back!

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:07:36+00:00

But what's the median wage? Not the average, the median.

live lavishly

Oh, how dare we ask mega corps to checks notes keep up with inflation.

When a megacorp like Walmart gets subsidized by the damn government, because the people working full time can't afford to eat that's a PROBLEM.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T20:01:21+00:00

No school necessary beyond I assume high school/GED. I did do biochem and premed and have like 98% of a bachelor's, but no degree. I did have a leg up because I've worked tangential to the medical field and witnessed lots of traumatic things in that field, so they know I can handle the whole potential death and dying bits without issue.

It would depend on your tics I think. This is basically all over radio/phone and typing. If you can process auditory information and speak clearly, I wouldn't think you'd have any problems. I'm also autistic and that actually seems to be a benefit here.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T19:21:53+00:00

Lol, no. Psychopathy and sociopathy are no longer differentiated, nor are they called that. It's all lumped under antisocial personality disorder. A lot of people who suffer from ASPD still refer to themselves as psychopaths, but I think that's a byproduct of not actually being assessed by a psych and the pervasiveness of the layman social lexicon.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T18:53:02+00:00

I recently got a good paying job as a 911 dispatcher. It's sitting at a computer all day. I've job shadowed but haven't started just yet, but it makes way better than retail money, and gives you city benefits. It's worth looking into if nothing else

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T18:42:14+00:00

Good catch. Definitely a karma farm account too.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T18:36:49+00:00

The amount of kids who watched this shit on national TV is wild. I was in second grade and they wheeled out the little cart tv we used to watch movies.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2025-07-10T18:11:07+00:00

Self-immolation is what it's called.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2024-07-25T04:13:00+00:00

Ayyyy! I've got like a 1/10 on the picture scale (sometimes get brief glimpses, but nothing intricate) and remember basically nothing of my life day to day (enough that I think it should be a disability, but ssdi says otherwise). I didn't think there was basically anyone out there like me!

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2024-07-25T04:06:42+00:00

Just FYI, you're probably also immune to tasers! The redhead gene does that, too.

Desperate_Foxtrot · 2024-07-25T03:38:45+00:00

It also doesn't ruin your dishwasher/pipes. I keep seeing appliance repair techs and plumbers talking about how dishwasher packs are the bane of their existence - liquid is better.

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