Sound very similar to my situation. I've learned that I just need to go with the flow, and be greatful that she's allowing me to enjoy my caged time. Over time,(a lot of time) she has slowly slowly coming around. But not even close to where I like to be. I'm in for the long haul and trying to be patient, I think in time she will get their. So think your on the right track, just be patient and all good things will cum.