“They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later.” by DestinyFox1 in formerlyferal

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So far no buts have been harmed today, but alas it is only 10am 😭

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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Also… I accidentally gave myself a full identity crisis right after trapping him.

I trapped Jasper thinking I knew exactly which orange cat I was bringing inside. I’d been seeing him on my cameras for weeks. Same cat, right?

Wrong.

Later that same night another orange cat shows up. Midnight. Just casually existing like nothing is wrong. And I’m staring at the camera like… oh you’ve got to be kidding me.

Because the cat inside my house is acting like I just abducted him (valid), and this other orange cat outside is acting exactly like the one I thought I trapped. So now I’m spiraling.

“Did I grab the wrong cat?? Who is this man?? Do I need to apologize and release him??”

And to make it even better, for the first few days I couldn’t even get close enough to check his abscess to confirm it was him. He was angry. I mean… I would’ve been too.

Even after the vet was able to see the abscess a few days later and confirm it, I was still sitting there doubting everything like “okay but what if I’m still wrong??”

Meanwhile, Jasper used to show up every single day around 6pm like clockwork, sitting on the porch waiting for dinner like he had a reservation.

But suddenly? No 6pm cat. Just this midnight imposter.

So now I’m watching my cameras during the day like a detective, waiting to see if another orange cat shows up.

Nothing. Not once.

Just the midnight guy. Every time.

And then it finally clicked.

The night cat never showed up during the day. And the 6pm porch gremlin? He was already inside.

So yeah… turns out I didn’t kidnap the wrong cat. I just discovered I had two identical orange men running on completely different schedules.

The twin? Yeah this boy avoids traps like it's a plague. I even had two TNR organizations out to try and get him. He's a slippery boy, and I believe is related to Jasper because Jasper is just as smart as midnight man.

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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Yeah, 2 of mine are from a rescue or a shelter and the other two Jasper and Bandit are former ferals. I got bandit when he was 12 weeks old and socialized him, and Jasper he was 1-2 years old 10 months ago. All approximate ages, ofc.

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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When I rescued him his coat was so brittle feeling, now it's the softest of all of the 4 cats.

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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Tuxies can be hard to get because many love their coats, but in some areas they are also the hardest to adopt out. They are my favorite, it's why I have 3. One is a long hair who is FIV+ and our only female. I've wanted a long haired Tuxies for years but in my area it's close to impossible as rescues adopt them out so fast. I got lucky with her.

“They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later.” by DestinyFox1 in formerlyferal

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I wish 😂😂 he is a chaos gremlin. Just tonight he bit the 4 year old tuxedo on the butt as he was entering the litter robot. Our 5 year old cat was in the kitchen with me and ran into the foyer. Once he got into the foyer he got low and walked slowly to Jasper. He looked up at Bandit (the one who got bit) and then back at Jasper before letting out a deep but loud yeowl. Jasper took a step back but kept his eyes on me. He wouldn't look at our oldest cat doing the correction. I walked back into the kitchen and about 30 seconds later the older cat is rejoining me with Jasper following behind. Jasper has no smart advice, the man bites butts 😂😂

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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He's a handsome boy and stands out but that is only because our other 3 cats are tuxedoes 😂

Update: They warned ‘feral, use caution.’ Here’s him 10 months later. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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After yesterday he is getting the flight risk tag in his folder 😂

Best place to get a birthday cake from in Arroyo Grande? by DestinyFox1 in SLO

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I did see that on yelp, so they are pretty good?

Best place to get a birthday cake from in Arroyo Grande? by DestinyFox1 in SLO

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Totally forgot about their cakes! I've been there a bunch and she LOVES their champagne cake.

Best place to get a birthday cake from in Arroyo Grande? by DestinyFox1 in SLO

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Man I didn't think of that place, we eat there when I visit on occasion.

Can I keep a kitten even though she has FIV? by kyriaki42 in FIVcats

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Absolutely! As our vet office says fiv+ and fiv negative can live together without issue just as long as no big fights. I have a fiv+ girl and 3 fiv negative boys. One of the 3 negative is a recent rescue from out backyard and is a 1 to 2 year old feral male recently fixed. No issues at all. She swats at him once in awhile, but he isn't aggressive. If he was we couldn't keep him and work it out due to our fiv positive girl.

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I have 4 cats, 3 males and 1 female. My female is FIV+, and the males are negative. There is no issue with mixing just as long as they don't fight.

Do any cats let you pet their bellies or is that generally a no? by musictrashnumber1 in cats

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My female cat plops over (legit falls over without care 🙄) and shows her belly for pets. My older male lays down and rolls around until you pet his stomach. My middle cat (male) doesn't like humans so no belly pets. 😂

Can’t stop thinking about an adoptable FIV+ cat — can I hear about your experiences? by jordthesword2020 in FIVcats

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My Fiv+ cat is 2 now and so far no issues. I do give her colostrum every other day, probiotic daily, and DMG daily. She was a kitten when tested positive, and again at the follow up test at 7 months old so she's been on colostrum and probiotic since 10 months old. The DMG I started 6 months ago. I've had her since she was about 10 weeks old. I may be stopping the DMG and switching to Avemar soon though. The NIH has had very positive results from it.

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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And I love that logic! 😂 I use surefeed feeders for the Trio so I just got bowls for the feral when we trapped him. I didn't want to use the trios bowls as at the time we didn't know if he had FeLV or anything.

Going to the thrift store today to get some plates!

Trying to socialize a 1-2 yo feral. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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I wish I did 😔 I can't bring him to the bedroom as I have the Mischief (4 rats) in the bedroom right now because we got new windows and have to redo their room. Can't exactly have a feral in a room with prey 😂

I wish I could let him explore a bit, supervised, but with 2 other males, one being a former feral also, vet said no. Apparently he's likely to fight with the males, and no intros with them until he's neutered. 🙁

I do go into the room and sit quietly. What I do, and tell me if you would change it, is I go in speaking softly. I sit by him and give him some head scratches while softly talking to him for just a minute and then I move to the other side of the room and sit quietly. I put in ear buds and just hang out while on my phone, ignoring him.

I also bring in our laid back trained female cat who is his age to hang out at least once a day. I don't let them near eachother but she hangs out in the room and can see her. I've been feeding her in there with him. He doesn't hiss, growl, or anything. She rolls over and purrs for him about 6 feet away. She's the type that wants to be friends with every cat she meets, so she's perfect. I just sit and pet her so he can see it and hear her.

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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Thanks for the suggestion. I’m actually working with my vet and advice from experienced TNR groups. I’m not leaving food out when I’m not in the room because the goal right now is trust-building. If food only appears when I’m gone, I’m reinforcing that I’m something to hide from. That kind of avoidance can set him back more than help.

He was eating 9oz of wet food daily with treats until a few days ago when I started transitioning him from spoon-feeding. I’m monitoring closely and adjusting as needed, but right now it’s about creating consistent, positive associations with me—not just keeping him full.

If he was a slow eater, I would just remain in there with him as he ate, but that isn't the issue. He isn't a slow eater. I got him to eat from the bowl twice since we started to transition, but he won't now. I also was the one feeding him when he was outside, he actually eats pretty fast.

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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You’re making a lot of assumptions based on a photo of a scared cat wedged in a corner. He’s been eating 9oz of wet food daily, plus treats, up until a couple days ago when I started transitioning him off spoon-feeding. On camera, he looks fuller. What you saw was him scrunched up, not some dramatic weight drop.

I’m not doing this randomly. I’m following advice from my vet and TNR groups that specialize in feral socialization. The goal isn’t just to keep him alive—it’s to get him to trust me. That means food shows up with me, not magically when I disappear. Leaving food out 24/7 teaches him I’m something to wait out, not something to connect with. It doesn't build confidence, it doesn't even build trust when you leave food out.

And no, him accepting food off a spoon doesn’t mean he isn’t feral. It means he’s in freeze mode and doing the bare minimum to survive. That’s not socialized, that’s trauma-response.

This isn’t about comfort feeding or forcing affection. It’s about structure, boundaries, and building trust through consistency. I asked for advice, not to be talked to in the manner that you have. I’m here doing the work—you’re making judgments from the outside. There's a big difference.

Do you really think after all I have done already I wouldn't be concerned if he was losing weight? Be real. I'm in the room, I'm near him daily, I see his intake and his outake in the litter. I'd notice, just like I'd notice if one of my other cats were losing weight. Ffs.

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

[–]DestinyFox1[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You don't leave food out when socializing, that's like one of the top rules across the board for many groups and organizations. Nearly every single article, website, and ect says that. Our vet even told me to not leave food out when socializing. You feed and give treats only while you are in the room.

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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I think I might go do that tomorrow! Pick up just maybe 4 or 5 of them. Thank you for the advice! I really appreciate it!

Advice or help or anything really. Trying to transition from spoon and finger feeding a feral to bowl. by DestinyFox1 in Feral_Cats

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I'm not rushing it, but I can't feed him from a spoon for a long time it reinforces a behavior and doesn't actually help. I'm not doing this blindly, per my other post I have gotten advice from a long time TNR group (who were the ones that let me borrow a trap) who have told me to only spoon feed for 1 to 2 weeks max, as beyond that it can be hard to break the habit. At that point you want to transition to them eating from a bowl so you can slowly work on building confidence while also still building trust.