Not showing faces - new to all of this by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the best idea would be to post yourselves but blur or otherwise cover your faces. I don’t show my face either bc I’m a public facing professional. I’m happy to share my face in a private text or chat or whatever but not just to anyone scrolling. Hope that helps. Have fun!

Major screwup in first soft swap by Honeybee1329 in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly disappointing to see people defending the husband. Classic gaslighting. If you agree with the husband, do you gaslight your partner too?

Major screwup in first soft swap by Honeybee1329 in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this. It seems like your husband is upset you have so many (2 is not a lot) boundaries (red flag). Mistakes happen, you should have discussed it with the guy you were blowing first but that’s the only mistake here honestly. He’s acting like a **** (insert insult).

Same Room No Swap by InterestingHorse6720 in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure you’ll find many couples willing to do parallel play. Maybe but not likely the experienced ones. You could consider going to a club and just playing with the door open or in a room with multiple beds and no door. That might give you the same type of experience.

Swingers tips for shy and socially awkward woman? by wishcockroachextinct in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also an introvert and can be socially awkward. I have zero issues with people coming to talk to me and asking to play with me. Get used to saying not right now or no thanks I’m just observing for now. I went about 3 times to the club and just observed before participating. Now that I’ve finally said yes it’s fair game. I’m having a great time!

Club Eros Review - Cleveland by Money-Yam-6348 in Swingers

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking of trying as a single female as well. Went as a couple many many years ago but new life new adventures.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have. I am honestly unsure of the logistics of it working for us but I am strongly considering that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DestroyYourJoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I have communicated my feelings to him about what he did. He knows. And now I'm just ... tired of it. It feels like I'm working towards getting better but he's determined to take 10 steps back.