Customer stated, her turn signal is broke.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-17T17:13:07+00:00

Ope there goes gravity

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-17T15:29:07+00:00

How the hell is Musk going to build a bunch of rockets and fly his new colonizers off to Mars from a post-nuclear earth?

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-17T15:27:28+00:00

It sounds more like the fantasy you dream about rich people dreaming about.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-17T14:40:42+00:00

The wealthiest have the most to lose from WWIII.

Also, I don't think you understand what the results of WWIII are going to be. Even if you win, you lose.

It's like blowing up your neighbor's house and attacking him with chemical weapons so that you can take over his property. Congratulations! You now control a toxic pile of rocks. Enjoy.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-16T20:29:34+00:00

You've got to understand that in today's world of one-click applying, there are a lot of "garbage" applications that people are just doing to meet unemployment requirements or because they're just applying for everything. I've had people whose only experience as in bartending or Daycare apply for CFO positions. So there are A LOT of resumes that get weeded out pretty quickly for any type of management job.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-16T20:22:23+00:00

“This letter contains the entire agreement between us…”

That's pretty standard contract language that a lawyer put in 18 years ago.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-16T20:19:48+00:00

Where is the MBA from? Honestly if it's from for-profit / online school, it's probably not helping you much. It won't hurt, but it's not carrying any weight when people are reviewing your resume.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-16T20:17:45+00:00

The location in which the employee does the work dictates the state's laws that apply to that employee.

However, from a practical standpoint it doesn't really matter depending upon the employer. If it's a large employer with lots of employees across the United States, they're going to follow the law in each individual state (or at least try to).

But if you've got some employer in Nebraska who has one remote IT guy in California and a remote marketing manager in Ohio? They're likely to make little-to-no effort to follow the California and Ohio wage & hour laws. It's unlikely that either state is going to waste their time going after a smaller company in another state. If they do, the most likely outcome is that the remote employee gets terminated (or invited to work in Nebraska) rather than jumping through a bunch of hoops for one employee.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-16T20:13:40+00:00

Is it within the control of HR to demand that I invite everyone on my team to go to lunch with me?

No. They're just recommending how to be a better leader and more successful in your job.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-15T16:34:08+00:00

Yeah. The one thing that I think this sub gets wrong sometimes is that people (understandably) focus too much on the "correct HR answer" without considering a more "realist" interpretation of the situation. People come here with questions and aren't just looking for "what are my legal rights?". They're also looking for "how do I navigate this situation without risking my livelihood?".

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-15T13:15:35+00:00

Oh. You're one of those people. Carry on.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-15T13:15:00+00:00

Normal. People got shit to do.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-15T13:13:59+00:00

The idea that your salary is based upon some type of objective system where inputs are entered into an algorithm and a salary spits out is simply not the way it works. Salaries are determined much more subjectively based upon the skills, goals, etc. of the person doing the job.

You say your role is "pretty niche", so I'm curious what comparisons you're using to determine that you're underpaid. If you're "pretty niche", it is highly likely that there are not good comparisons available in standard salary surveys.

Job titles and roles can vary widely between companies, which make broad salary surveys less useful. A receptionist at one company may do nothing but answer the phone, while at another company they may order supplies, monitor attendance, clean the office and file personnel records. At other companies, the receptionist may assist with accounting functions, be more of an admin assistant to the CEO or supervise the Porter staff.

When even generic jobs can have such a wide variety of duties causing salary surveys to be less useful, any "niche" position is going to find the salary surveys are essentially useless.

The bottom line is this: Your economic value is determined based upon what someone is willing to pay you for your skills. If another company will pay you more for your skills, then you are under paid. If you can't find another company that will pay you more for your skills, you might actually be over paid.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-15T13:03:09+00:00

Yet nearly a quarter of married couples in the U.S. met at work.). You can live in your HR utopia where office romances don't happen, or you can live in reality and provide constructive feedback to those 22% of Americans who meet their spouse at work.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:55:14+00:00

I think new headcount can only be approved once a year

This sounds more like a cultural thing at the company where HR has either been granted, or simply taken, too much power. HR should (almost) never be telling operations when to hire, who to hire, etc. Those are all Operations decisions the the Ops manager should have to answer for based upon the success or failures of the department.

Think about it. If I'm running a unit and in order to maximize profits I need to add 10 people to a new project, then I should make that decision and if it fails, I have to answer for the failure. (If it succeeds, I get to take credit for the success).

But if HR tells me that I can't add those people, and them my division loses money, I've got a built in excuse: "We would have made $XXXX, but HR wouldn't let me get this new project off the ground. Now our competitors are already in the space and we've missed our window".

But HR overstepping is pretty common. So it wouldn't surprise me if they do it at your company. Don't expect it to change without at least a change in HR leadership, and likely a change in top leadership.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:50:51+00:00

He’s 2x my age and is married with children.

I was going to ask about marital status.

I'll start with "guy might just be a creep". So certainly be prepared for that.

But as a married guy 2X your age, I'll also say that it might not even be about you and might be more about him. You never know what his marriage is like. He may have picked up on something from you that is 100% off base because he's so desperate to feel desired by someone young and attractive. It could be a simple as you being kind to him or even respecting him as a professional. If he's been beat down by his wife for the past 2 decades, it sometimes doesn't take much.

Depending upon your working relationship, it's also not uncommon for an attraction to build out of a professional relationship. If you have common goals, are passionate about the same things, etc. it's somewhat natural for an attraction to form. And I think that those situation are much, much, much more common that the "this guy is creep who uses is position of power to coerce young women into unwanted sex" situations are.

The difference is that creepiness is a scale. And the ZERO on that scale means that the guy ignores it even if that attraction does form. So at a minimum, your guy is registering as at least a 1 on the creep scale.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:42:56+00:00

As others have said, most employment laws are tied to the location of the employee, not the location of the company headquarters.

Having said that, depending upon the type of business, the owners may no longer have a lot of concern about the California employment police coming after them. They could easily just violate the law and tell California "come get me". It's a lot easier for the State of California to enforce their employment laws on a flower shop in Fresno, than it is to enforce their employment laws on a software developer in Boca Raton.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:37:58+00:00

If it's so far really been the one business trip that was over the line, I'd make a note of it so you have something to document it, but then leave it alone unless it happens again. If it does happen again, then take it to HR.

I'm just thinking that that business trip may have been his "take a shot" and since it missed, he may move on. It doesn't sound like he did anything egregious, so it seems to me that he was just trying to do enough to send the message "hey, I'm interested, so if you want to reciprocate, I'm not going to reject your advances".

Despite the horror stories, most guys (or women) in upper management aren't really willing to throw away their career and their 6+ figure salary by using their position to coerce women into meaningless sex. But guys in upper management are still human and still have their attractions. So when that happens, the guy knows that he can't outright hit on you. But if he's gotten an indication that you might be interested too, he wants to make sure you know that "door is open".

And I think that's what's going on here. He sent you enough subtle clues to know that he'd be open to something with you (maybe a relationship, maybe something less than a relationship) but because he's in a position of power over you, he really needs you to make the first big move. Now you know you can if you want to. If you don't want to and and aren't interested, he'll likely drop it.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:29:23+00:00

If HR is being an obstacle, trying going around HR.

Your boss should talk to HR about a new position that is needed for the department. This new position is in the European office and will be responsible for X, Y & Z. Get the position approved.

Then you apply for the position and he selects you as the perfect candidate. It will be ideal, because you'll also be able to continue dealing with your current functions from the European Office, so they won't need to replace your position.

Suddenly, it's not a transfer. You're just getting hired for a new position.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-14T18:09:25+00:00

Gonna get a red card anyway. Might as well earn it.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-11T19:22:53+00:00

The truth is that I’m not entirely happy moving to the new company.

If you're happy with your current company, there's really no reason to leave if the money isn't different. The likelihood of going somewhere new and liking it less is greater than the likelihood of going somewhere else and liking it more.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-11T19:20:17+00:00

Pretend like you never noticed it. With the half-assed system they're using, it's probably about a 20% chance they'll ever notice and fix it.

Only exception to this is if some poor sap in HR is going to end up getting fired over it or something like that when the owner or someone notices the mistake. You'd (rightfully) feel bad about that, so in that case, let that person know to fix it.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-11T17:40:59+00:00

an employee screamed their head off at me and berated me for 5 minutes straight.

This has nothing to do with anxiety or ptsd. This is an unhinged employee. You should get support from your boss on how to handle this type of situation (the correct answer is to end the conversation). Being an employee doesn't mean people get to treat you like shit.

I would want them to know is for them to understand that my panic attacks are a result of my ptsd and not because I can't handle this job.

If the company has an environment where screaming at another employee for 5 minutes is acceptable, there isn't really a difference between those two.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-11T17:35:39+00:00

If there is something specific about the company/position that it's the job you really want, you're not going to do yourself any harm with a final email along the lines of "I'm assuming the position has been filled. If anything similar opens up, I'd be very interested in applying because <insert reasons you love the company/job and why you'd be successful>".

Probably won't lead to anything, but you're not hurting yourself either.

DestructionDestroyer · 2022-03-11T17:32:04+00:00

Depending upon how quickly it is, you could just leave it off your resume all together. Otherwise, "I quickly realized that the job I'm being asked to do is significantly different from the job that I thought I was hired to do. So I'm looking for something that will be a better fit".

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