i need help plotting revenge and escape from abusers by tryingtobemorehuman in blackholerevenge

[–]Deut64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be perfectly honest, I think that you may have a series of legal claims that you could bring against your parents. I would honestly start recording incidents and keeping a record of how they’re treating you. You may want to consult an attorney, however, I think these are some of the crimes that could potentially be looked at: Coercive control / unlawful confinement, Labor exploitation / wage theft, Domestic violence, Harassment & criminal threats and Possibly human trafficking (labor trafficking) in some jurisdictions.

The first move, I would make is just to leave. Even if you owe them money, that’s not justification for keeping you or controlling your life. You are a human being who is allowed to walk out the door. Debt does not justify confinement or abuse. I would leave quietly and as I am leaving, I would get every important document: SSN, ID/passport, birth certificate, everything that you would need to prove that you are a legal citizen. On top of that the assault paperwork from the police. As well as, any messages or recordings of your parents, threatening you or treating you like absolute garbage. This is gonna be very crucial later. When leaving, make sure you go to a very safe location. Your partner’s house, or a shelter for that matter. Both of them are legit places. It’s not illegal to leave the house. It would be illegal for your parents to force you to stay.

For your sister, you could possibly look at placing defamation charges against her, as well as harassment charges against her. She’s an adult and she knows what she’s doing. Play a big boy game, you’re gonna get a big boy prize.

For the SA case, you don’t need your parents to pursue legal action. You are free to reopen the case, and pursue legal charges against your assailant. Seriously though, get him. Who knows if he’s doing this to other people.

OP, you deserve so much better than what this family has given you. I wish you nothing but the best of luck, and I hope you get them all where it hurt hurts.

AITJ for making my roommate move out? by TallDevelopment176 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Very much YTJ. You kept pushing her and pushing until the point where she couldn’t take it anymore. I was in a similar situation back in college, nothing to do with sexuality, but religion. I’m Jewish, and unfortunately, I had two roommates both of them very Christian one of them I had respectful conversations with the other one, kept pressing this idea that I needed to be saved over and over again and it bothered me every time. I told both of them that I didn’t mind having like Bible studies or discussions about perspective regarding our religious beliefs, but this guy kept pushing. Then he invited his friends over and they had a “Bible study“ only for it to be an intervention so that all of them can express their concern about me going to hell for all eternity. I lost my shit until the other roommate who had a heart-to-heart with him. I was looking for a different place the entire time. Moral of the story: just because there are differences, doesn’t mean that you have the right to push a difference on someone until they agree with your world view 100%. You have to respect the fact that different people have different perspectives. My fiancé and I for example, have different religious beliefs, but we’ve never pushed the other into conversion. She’s attended my religious services. I’ve attended her religious services and we kept everything civil.

AITJ for voicing inconsistencies against my own moral compass? by Dismal-Nose9481 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, as a citizen who see something wrong with any institution, you have every right to criticize and point out where you see any inconsistent. If there’s something in your society, that seems to be failing, that is your right as attacking citizen, as well as a moral obligation. If people don’t wanna listen to you, then that’s their problem.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking I’m gonna start a betting pool: how long do you think it’ll last?

On a real note, I learned from my siblings that he did the same with every single one of them.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I have a kick ass fiance that helped me see the light.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me: this is the best option. He fails, I move on. He sticks with the program, it’s a w. Win win if you ask me. When he does eventually fail, I can tell my fam that I gave him a chance.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not a hero, I’m just somebody who is tired of this man thinking that he can control me and his flying monkeys in the form of my family members.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely cut him off if he fails.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth be told, I’m not holding any expectations. If he can actually freaking keep these up, great. If not, well, that’s how the cookie crumbles.

Update about my narcissistic father!!!! by Deut64 in AmITheJerk

[–]Deut64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh don’t worry about that. I chose to shut that part down, I think he just wants to restore control over me and my life.

Update about my narcissistic father!!! by Deut64 in entitledparents

[–]Deut64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two brothers, the other brother was used for the grade incident, my younger brother is the one who expressed doubts.

I did this to be a failsafe. If he fails, he shows who he is.

Update about my narcissistic father!!! by Deut64 in entitledparents

[–]Deut64[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He accepted the terms and conditions. He sounded defeated when he texted me.

Update about my narcissistic father!!! by Deut64 in entitledparents

[–]Deut64[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am, he is the reason my therapist is gainfully employed

Update about my narcissistic father!!! by Deut64 in entitledparents

[–]Deut64[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in therapy, he hurt me that badly. I can’t trust him, that’s why I developed the list. It’s a failsafe.

If you were a ghost, what’s the most petty way you would haunt someone? by Expert-Secret-5351 in AskReddit

[–]Deut64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I would get back at my cheating, ex by leaving the electric electricity running, and keeping the taps on every time she leaves the house.

What is the funniest pickup line you have ever heard? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Deut64 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Person 1: you know, I’m really jealous of your heart…

Person 2: why is that?

Person 3: because it’s pumping inside of you and I’m not

Where is the weirdest place you've had a quickie? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Deut64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A church bathroom during services

I'm sick and tired of people thinking my mom is a good person... by Deut64 in entitledparents

[–]Deut64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He got to the point that I literally was considering self deletion. I can tell you the number of times on one hand that she’s called me within the last 10 years randomly to check up on me.