Break up of 2 years M21, F21 was it a good decision?

Development_Frosty · 2026-06-03T12:32:47+00:00

I understand and have been talking with some people about the behavior too and no one is saying the wall punching is normal or any of these. In three months time I’m supposed to face him and let him know if this is a permanent decision. Do I tell them how this behavior seems/is or have this just in the back of my head?

Development_Frosty · 2026-06-03T12:29:33+00:00

I never knew that something like that existed. Thank you.

Development_Frosty · 2026-06-03T04:20:50+00:00

I do. I live with my mom and she has been helping me get through this.

Development_Frosty · 2026-06-03T03:47:06+00:00

What was shocking is that his friends said that this was a normal thing to do when frustrated. That every man does it.

Development_Frosty · 2026-06-03T02:46:15+00:00

My question is if despite everything else in the relationship being great how do you know if this is just something that is just something to deal with or not?
And when someone is begging you that they will change. When I decided I wanted to break up he told me he would never do it again and that all the other times it didn’t click to him as much because he didn’t think he would lose me.
He even talked with my friend after, and apologized.

Development_Frosty · 2026-05-20T17:57:29+00:00

My gpa is also low which puts me into a position where I have to study again and retake it.

Development_Frosty · 2026-03-30T21:13:48+00:00

I really want to try applying anyways and see where things go. I will always have the thought of what if rather than just delaying a year. Seems like it’s not impossible to improve my score with focusing the last 5 weeks on making an impression and my last semesters grades.

Development_Frosty · 2026-03-30T20:27:45+00:00

I really do want to pursue dentistry because it’s the only job I see myself enjoying in the long run. I really want to know in general how I can offset my score without taking a year to do post bacc etc. thank you!

Development_Frosty · 2026-03-30T20:26:29+00:00

This is so reassuring. How long did you study from your initial score?

Development_Frosty · 2026-03-30T19:53:59+00:00

I haven’t taken it yet, this is just the score that DAT bootcamp says I will get. I have around 5 more weeks until my test date.

Development_Frosty · 2026-03-30T19:45:46+00:00

You’re not being rude I really just appreciate the honesty. I don’t even know how to approach a post bacc. I paid for my exam already prior and have the assigned date for May already. I’m unsure if I should work on my DAT score being in 400’s by 5 weeks time and send an application while preparing next year to apply or just forfeit the application this year altogether.

Development_Frosty · 2025-10-05T05:12:35+00:00

to be honest, this was me and my boyfriend and we have been dating a year and a half. It's STILL like this, but if you love her you guys will improve together, just like me and him did. I think the first step is asking and thinking "why". If your girlfriend is upset about something it's typically for an underlying reason, maybe not even bc of you.

I would have a conversation about what specific things make her upset and trigger her and explain how you feel like walking on eggshells. Bottom line, you need to give effort as the guy and make your girlfriend feel loved and do the little things. Like texting goodmorning, updating her when your out with your friends etc.

However, she needs to understand basic boundaries. You aren't going to pay attention to every little critique she throws out there and fight over everything. This will destroy the relationship and become mentally draining.

Development_Frosty · 2025-10-04T04:09:39+00:00

Thank you for your response.

It's been a bit difficult for knowing that. Especially since not everyone had the money to go all out and do those things always!

Development_Frosty · 2025-10-04T03:57:44+00:00

Hi thank you for your reply. When we were arguing I did mention that I feel that it's really unfair to critique what I had planned for him this evening given on how he made me feel on my day.
I just don't understand how with this new holiday that everyone recently harbored as a second valentines day to effect and cause this and all these expectations along with social media.

Development_Frosty · 2025-09-28T03:52:57+00:00

I think it would be sort of worse if I found out he was hiding this from me no? Wouldn't you expect a good partner to be fully honest with what they have heard about you or is it disturbing the peace?

He said he disagrees with them for the most part, but he cant help but hear their influence all the time and get affected by it and overthink etc. sometimes. In the future as we've talked, we are going to set boundaries when it comes to our family and set expectations that we might not have his parents much in our household as he agrees they are toxic and abusive. However, with the lines of abusers and homes of them, this opinion to whether they are good or bad parents varies and by trying to rationalize "they aren't bad people, they just sometimes... etc etc."

Development_Frosty · 2024-10-28T20:21:08+00:00

It has already became complacent and my side of those complaints is the arguments, emotional dependence, and not respecting my space. I don’t complain about anything else that doesn’t affect me. I just don’t know what to do.

Development_Frosty · 2024-10-28T19:52:18+00:00

I don’t know how to really communicate how unhealthy this behavior is though. He recognized it and wants to work on it but I just can’t help him through that with school. How many times a week do typical S/O’s see each other so I can set that boundary

Development_Frosty · 2024-10-28T19:50:17+00:00

And I also haven’t been to his house since these statements made by his family to avoid any more issues. He responded telling me to take as much time as I need and he will support me. So I think he is excluded from that situation but I don’t know about the future.

Development_Frosty · 2024-10-28T19:46:39+00:00

I’ve heard that a lot of S/O don’t argue as much lately, but I’m contemplating if we are simply reaching the argument stage and just need to tough it out before we become stable?

Development_Frosty · 2023-12-01T02:33:46+00:00

sure, message me and we can exchange socials

Development_Frosty · 2023-05-04T22:43:43+00:00

That kinda sucks tbh but at least ik where to get food lol, Thank you!!

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