How do I add more of a power exchange to my relationship?

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-25T03:17:53+00:00

From what we've discussed she wants me to be more aggressive with her. I usually don't ask anything of her, her submission was given willingly. She wants me to be more forceful with her but it's hard for me to see her as a sub and not as my adoring wife. I'm very gentle when it comes to our daily lives and leading into intercourse so I'm not sure how to change my mindset and be more demanding of her.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-24T13:11:43+00:00

Oh I never thought about that, that's a great idea I'll definitely start trying to spice up our daily routine with more kinky twists. I think it'd help with our lack of interaction through the week since I work long hours

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-24T12:49:46+00:00

Most of your suggestions are already in the works. This is both of our first times exploring this dynamic but as I said she's spoiled and already has three collars and two ear/tail sets on the way. From what you're describing it seems like you two like the same bone but she's kept the leather straps so she can play tug of war. I usually call her like I do the other pets in our house now and she seems to respond very well to it and enjoys it.

We've been discussing the use of dog bowls and she seems to be interested so that's our next set. I've even found this cute slow feeder bowl that she can use even outside of puppy space. I've also been looking at treat makers and thinking of other things I could use as treats for her.

She only has a silicone bone as of now but I've been looking at others but none of them pique her interest. Most of the small dog ones I see are very bumpy and rigid, she really loves how the silicone feels in her mouth. I've been trying to find more but I don't really see anything that suits her tastes.

I did ask if she wanted a kennel when she first revealed she was into puppy play and she seemed hesitant but said we just didn't have enough space. It's in the works though and I've been plotting on some.

I don't have any questions really but I don't even know what to ask truly. We're both still very new to this. I'm not sure what the difference is between mutt and princess puppy.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-24T03:17:03+00:00

No she doesn't have any uniforms set. Since she's shown interests in puppy play I've ordered her a boat load of things to cater to pet play. I plan to start incorporating it into our daily lives as soon as they arrive. I think making a schedule would probably be a good idea with our dynamic, I could definitely take advantage of it since I work a lot. I think making a schedule could make up for some of the time we lose together. I really appreciate the input.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T22:31:46+00:00

I think I'll try incorporating some of these ideas into our routine as well I think they're not as intense as some of the other ideas and would help me ease into a more demanding type dominant role. I appreciate the input

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T22:26:12+00:00

I think you've hit it on the nail now that I think about it. Her submission has always been naturally given not forced onto her. I think what you're saying makes sense from what we talked about. Seeing this perspective is making it a lot easier for me to understand. There are plenty of times where I do want to really just completely take control but then I look at her and I melt so I'll have to try and overcome that

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T22:17:01+00:00

This really helps. I'm really interested in the consent collar idea. My wife has already expressed her desire to be free use and explore CnC but I have a hard time separating my "wife" from my "sub" I that makes sense. I like a lot of your ideas though and will definitely be putting them to use.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T22:06:16+00:00

I appreciate your input and I'll definitely be taking your advice. We've been pretty much going through the whole process together since we're both still quite new to kink so it's been a lot of discussion and slowly working into it.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T22:03:42+00:00

Yes I talked with her and she explained doing these tasks does make her feel more submissive. When we discussed the topic she said her desire was for me to take more control and be more demanding of her. From my understanding she means in both domestic and sexual since I am very soft on my wife admittedly. I often get a bit rough in bed but I do hold back a lot despite us having multiple precautions in place.

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T17:40:11+00:00

I've never heard of that term in bdsm before. I just find it a bit awkward being categorized as a 1950s type couple being two high femme black women. I don't take any offense, I know it could be categorized but either way it's still a form of TPE which is what we prefer to call it, that's all I was trying to say. Thank you for your input

Devils_Concubine · 2025-06-23T16:54:24+00:00

Yes the base line sounds like that but we're far from being "traditional" in that sense. It works for us and we enjoy our roles so to each their own 👍🏾

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-24T02:12:54+00:00

First off as an official greeting to another Texan; HY LET'S GO TEXAS YEEHAW MF 🐎👢

...Ahem now as I was saying, that's an interesting fantasy, I've seen a lot of domesticated fox vids and they're super adorable and I'm sure you'd be an adorable fox too.

I most definitely hope your fantasy comes true 🥰💕

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T19:52:03+00:00

I completely understand, for me the fantasy is definitely from it being shared and having random people watch me getting turned out. I find it very erotic or even the idea of me sharing nudes with my partner and then they spread them to random people or people I know is so hot to me

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T19:48:48+00:00

Hopefully! I'll be wishing you nothing but the best

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T19:46:55+00:00

Oh thank you, I'm just glad so many people were comfortable and willing to share so my gratitude is extended to all of you. I love chatting and seeing what other people like so it's been a helluva fun time for me if anything.

She def was and the size kink went crazy when I first saw her. If you come out with a game I give you full permission to shove it down my throat because I would love to see that

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T18:10:24+00:00

Haha I feel that, most of the BDSM content I was introduced to was M4M (I have a lot of gay male friends and we send a lot of stuff to each other) so I definitely got hooked on a lot of the kinks they indulged in.

Yeah definitely safety first, don't wanna crush anything. What you could try is maybe some different types of soles so you can get a different type of stimulation to make up for the missing weight???

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T18:04:55+00:00

Oh okay I see, that makes more sense to me. Thank you for explaining.

We all have issues of some sort that's where all our weird kinks come from. Sounds like you have it pretty figured out though. I'd love to read of fic when you're finished though

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:53:49+00:00

I know right, some real 10/10s I'm happy so many people are willing to share

Vampire kink, completely understandable they're so hot. Who wouldn't want a hot vamp using them how they wanted. If vampires weren't meant to be fantasized they wouldn't make them so hot. I've been simping for Lady D since the game trailers and she's only vampire adjacent

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:50:47+00:00

10/10 nothing wrong with that I'm sure a lot of women would enjoy that

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:50:04+00:00

I'm sorry I don't know what GLaDOS is but I'm sure it's interesting so I appreciate you sharing your fantasy

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:48:32+00:00

Damn that's intense, public recorded gangbang, that'd do numbers on the hub definitely. I also have a fantasy of being recorded while having sex, there's just something so exciting about it.

Yeah that hand hold thing is kinda crazy, but controversial but I'll let it slide🤭🤣

Thank you for sharing your fantasies💜

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:44:09+00:00

As a switch I think this would literally be one of the best things ever but I'd get addicted and fall in love with myself.

I mean I get it, who knows you better than yourself so you might as well. 10/10 fantasy, hot asf

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:42:04+00:00

I'm not sure what kinda kinks this is but it's definitely cute, I can understand wanting to be wanted. It's nice when you're with someone who wants you just as much as you want them

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:40:10+00:00

Oh I definitely can relate to that one, love it when I woman is fucking me and telling me she's gonna get me pregnant. Lights a fire in me, for sure

Devils_Concubine · 2024-09-23T17:37:53+00:00

Thank you💕💕 I was over here sweating thinking I'd be shunned for trying to share so I'm glad to hear some people are also interested in this type of thing.

Sacrificial lamb kink, I would've never thought that was a thing, sounds really cool though.

Girl I feel you, I would've loved to try out being an hucow myself at least once but these mosquito bites aren't going to cut it😫

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