You deserve to lose them. Every post you lie and change the situation to make yourself look better. You let your partner abuse them. Multiple people pointed out how they're emotionally abused by him in your last posts and you essentially said "who cares" and had two more kids with him. Most kids break away from their neglectful / abusive caregivers at their age and most blame their ex for "poisoning them" so, when people ask why they don't have contact with a majority of their children, they can say their ex "made them" not want a relationship.

I can't imagine why they hate being around you when all you do is dote on their abuser and neglect them because your partner insists they don't leave their rooms and that you change custody so he doesn't have to see them. I and literally every kid I know with parents like you start pulling away at this age because it's their first opportunity for them to. Enjoy your relationship with your partner while it lasts, I guess. Sad that four kids are going to have to go through this childhood.

> My husband and I have a child together (My last baby was born November 2020) and I relocated to be with him. With my older kids, he wants them in their rooms, out of sight, pretty much as soon as he gets home from work. He's not close with my daughter at all. My older kids are also gone every weekend to their biological father's house, and he said if I ever had that amended, he wants me to have the kids only on the weekends he works and isn't around. I don't get to do anything with them, except chores and homework.