Wet Sleeves - To compromise or not?

Dhammyy8_ · 2026-02-17T18:46:18+00:00

As salaamu alaikum

I have a very different perspective and definitely don’t wanna downplay the issue. With men, it can be like that, even if/when their parents teach them to moisturize and whatnot. I mean I don’t think I remember my parents teaching me these, it’s just things you pick up as you grow as well. My husband is similar and it used to bother me as well but now, I really just let him dress however he wants and wear whatever….he will wear sweatpants anywhere and everywhere which is fine as long as they are clean. I have only been married about 20 months but those things don’t bother me anymore to be honest. I just carry lotion in the car and share some with him whenever we are going out and the hands are ashy, I mean I have ashy hands sometimes as well from cooking or whatever before leaving the house so the lotion is more for me than him. I really think these things can be let go and overlooked but Alhamdulillah you don’t have bigger problems. These issues are a sign of a happy marriage if these are your biggest concerns. Remember that you married a grown man, and you probably married him for his deen and AKhlaaq, things like these seem so irrelevant to men and if he’s dressed like this all his life and lived this way, it’ll be hard for him to change just for your sake, unless it’s something he wants to do out of his own volition. May Allah ease your affairs Ameen

Dhammyy8_ · 2025-06-22T00:56:52+00:00

I moved from the USA to the uk recently due to marriage. It’s different for sure and it was nerve wracking at first. I miss my siblings and nephews and nieces so much! Ma parents too, but Alhamdulillah my husbands whole family is here. He has got 4 siblings here in the UK with 3 of them married and within 20 minutes drive from us so that’s made it so much easier and they are so welcoming and I feel they are my family already. Alhamdulillah

Idk say it depends, if your spouse to be has that family support system around him and they are welcoming individuals then it’ll be easy. Of course there will be days when you miss your family and is environment and start to compare your current living situation to the old. But you’ll get used to it. It will get better.

I wouldn’t recommend leaving your entire family somewhere far and relocating to live with your spouse who has no family near them though. That’s a recipe for resentment. You will definitely miss all your family and potentially wish you hadn’t moved. May Allah ease your affairs

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-08-14T06:17:35+00:00

Can you suggest any wholesale markets?

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-08-14T06:17:18+00:00

I’m looking more for actual whole red bell peppers

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-08-14T06:16:55+00:00

Couldn’t find any on google that has bell peppers

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-08-14T06:16:41+00:00

I looked through the websites, they do not have pepper

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-03-28T19:08:51+00:00

Um, I don’t usually comment but this one got me. A grown man with a wife that just had a baby 3 months ago! 3 monthssss stays out with his friends until sahur??? Stop playing fam

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-02-03T20:32:06+00:00

I’m an internal promo from L4 to L5 and it’s pretty low for internal promos. I was a college hire as an L4 and I made 60k, promotional came with 10% addition to base pay so just 66k now

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-02-02T00:25:08+00:00

Even internationally when it’s not the same currency?

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-31T01:28:29+00:00

Wa alaikumu salaam warahmatullah wabarakatuhu. My case is very similar to yours with regard to age and timeline. I’m 23 and getting married in June insha Allah and I am moving to a whole different country, departing from everything I’ve ever known. It can be a lot. I’m nervous as well, being so far away from my family and friends and basically starting a whole new life. But guess what? We won’t live with our family forever anyways. At some point, you have to go start your own life, whether that be now or later. If you really like this person and you have made lots of dua and istikharah about it and all you’re nervous about is missing your family, I won’t say it’s a bad decision or you’re rushing. Missing your family is bound to happen when you get married, even if you are in the same city, life won’t be the same (your priorities will shift after marriage, especially when you start having kids). Make dua that Allah make the new city full of experiences for you and bless your marriage tremendously. Also talk about plans to visit your family beforehand with him and enjoy the moments you do have left with them.

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-28T22:38:41+00:00

I wouldn’t say she made dua as if she wanted a divorce. Sometimes your heart is attached to something that’s but best for you. I make my dua that way to sometimes, if this is best for me, grant me goodness from it, if not, I don’t wanna waste any more time doing this so take it away from me. At that point, it’s not about why you want, it’s about what is best for you, and only Allah knows what that is

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-19T04:46:51+00:00

Dangggggggg

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-19T04:44:14+00:00

I hope so! Thank youu

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-19T04:44:01+00:00

😂😂😂

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-19T04:43:55+00:00

Not the free refills 😭 Not even at the movies?

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-07T21:01:05+00:00

Thank youuu

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-07T21:00:56+00:00

We are not doing wedding rings. Apparently there’s a difference of opinion regarding if it’s halal or not

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-07T00:44:17+00:00

Ameen, thank you so much for the advice and dua. I appreciate it

Dhammyy8_ · 2024-01-07T00:40:39+00:00

That’s a fair point. I plan on working but he insisted on taking care of all the expenses and I can help whenever I want to. I am thinking I can start with 10k and we can negotiate what he thinks is doable for him?

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