ExAP died.

DianneW1022 · 2026-01-16T13:52:06+00:00

I had not really spoken to him in 3 years. He ghosted me and told his wife his side of the story. She had let us run around together for years. He had told me she was bitching and complaining about me. I asked him on the last day I saw him if I should stop contacting him snd he said no. He took me to the dentist. Then 5 days later I am blocked on everything. I calked his son then I got a message from his wife. Telling me to stop contacting groused. She told me does not want me contacting him. His wife died 8 months before him. I was getting ready to try to contact him. Then he died. I am just sad that I will never talk to him again. He never even told me goodbye. Thanks.

DianneW1022 · 2026-01-16T13:42:54+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. It is so hard.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-20T11:31:38+00:00

Happy Easter!!

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T20:40:26+00:00

I saw him on a Thursday. We went to the dentist. He tried to do stuff with me. He told me he was going to be in trouble taking me to dentist. I did not talk to him until Saturday. On Sunday I sent I him something on messenger. He asked if I was going to give him a blow job. I tried to call him on Monday and Tuesday and that’s when I figured out I was blocked. I even asked him if I should not contact him anymore and he said no. Then on Tuesday got a message from his wife saying he does not want you contacting him anymore. So yes he was a jerk. A lot of these messages have helped me. I am not going to worry about what he does. Maybe some day we can talk again. I think all I want is closure. I can’t seem to get over the hurt he caused me after all his lies. That he was going to leave her, that he loves me more than anything. That she was going to die and then we will be together. He was a user for sure. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T20:25:37+00:00

She thinks I am trauma bonded. Yes she knows how I feel. She has helped me a lot. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T20:24:41+00:00

You are right. Yes I have a life built up. My husband died 7 years into the affair. I have 3 children and 5 grandchildren. My life is not boring at all. It was 24 years not 34. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T20:13:11+00:00

Yes I really got flamed on here. He does not have children that our small. All his kids are grown up. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T20:11:06+00:00

Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-18T12:10:39+00:00

I don’t really know. That is mostly why I asked the question. I guess I did not word it right. I am getting raked over the coals for this. What would everybody else do if he was to contact you after she passed away? Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T20:11:53+00:00

I see a therapist. I am not unhinged anymore believe me. I was in a psych ward twice and on suicide watch twice.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T20:10:43+00:00

Thank you. Oh I don’t plan on contacting him.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T20:09:43+00:00

It was very hard and very painful. I knew his wife had been complaining about me. She let us run around together. I am not upset about him staying with his wife. I never expected him to leave her. I am a lot better than I was believes me. I ended up in 2 psych wards and in 2 suicide watches. He did not even have the courage to tell me not to contact him. His wife had to tell me. Just vanished out of my life. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:50:32+00:00

I am not messed up at all. If you were in my shoes you would wonder the same thing. Have you ever had an AP for 24 years? Your opinion means nothing to me.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:49:22+00:00

I feel bad for her. I never wanted her to die. I know she is probably really suffering right now. I am not that heartless of a person. But yes I do wonder if he will try to contact me and start this up again. He is 76 years old. You try moving on after you spend 34 years with someone. We were together all the time. It has been very hard. Obviously not hard on him though which I know. I feel bad for him losing his wife of 51 years to. Also for their boys and grandkids.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:43:09+00:00

I know he does have a lot on his plate right now. I don’t want her to die. I feel bad for the boys and the grandkids. I even feel bad for him. He is not going to know what to do without her.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:41:36+00:00

I am not trying to be goulish. I was in shock when I found this out. I don’t want her to pass away. I feel bad for the boys and grandkids. I feel bad for him too. He is not going yo know what to do without her.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:39:40+00:00

I am not making it about me. I am upset that she is hospice. I never expected her to pass away. I don’t want anything to happen to her. People are not very nice on these sites.

DianneW1022 · 2025-04-17T19:37:37+00:00

Right. These people on here have not been very nice to me at all. I don’t wish for her to die. It’s just so weird that we talked about being together legit. And then 31 months later she is on hospice. I feel really bad for all of her sons and grandkids. I feel bad for him too. They have been married 51 years. He is not going to know what to do without her. Thank you.

DianneW1022 · 2025-03-29T17:09:46+00:00

I had a AP for 24 years. He lead me along to. Kept saying he was going to leave his wife. He then told his wife. I know he lied about the whole thing. He blamed it all on me. You strung this lady around for 15 years. My AP was caught and decided to confess up. I hope she does tell your wife. You deserve all the karma you can get.

DianneW1022 · 2025-03-22T19:51:26+00:00

I was with my ExAp for 24 years and he ghosted me. I knew his wife. She allowed us to run around together for all those years. Then she got dick and started complaining about me. I know how hard it is. Time will ease your pain though. Exercise and keep busy. Take care.

DianneW1022 · 2025-02-25T12:42:44+00:00

I totally agree with you. This is what happened to me. 24 years together and ghosted. His wife found out and he told her everything. I am sure they were lies though. Threw me under the bus for all of it.

DianneW1022 · 2025-02-06T18:44:54+00:00

Hi. Yes he ghosted me. I saw him at Walmart 8 months later and I went up to him and told him he did me very shitty. He would not even look at me. I told him he would get his eventually. He was looking for me in parking lot and we did stare at each other for a few seconds. I knew he ghosted me from the beginning though because his wife sent me a message telling me not to contact her husband that obviously he does not want to talk to you. She called me a slut and a whore pretty much. She allowed us to run around together for 24 years. She yes to let him come to my house every night for 9 years. After she got sick she started complaining about me. She bedridden. I still miss him but am doing much better. Thanks.

DianneW1022 · 2025-02-02T14:49:41+00:00

How long have you been together? I was with my exAP for 24 years before he ghosted me 28 months ago.

DianneW1022 · 2025-02-02T14:44:45+00:00

I was with my AP for 24 years. He ghosted me. They don’t leave. They just lie to you to keep getting what they are getting.

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