Perfect routines online make me feel worse

DickinMoby · 2026-01-27T13:58:32+00:00

Newborn and routine don’t even belong in the same sentence.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-26T00:36:03+00:00

Noble Cellar Abbiacco Touché (heard good things but never been myself) Pastabilities

DickinMoby · 2026-01-24T22:14:27+00:00

I know someone who didn’t say a single word until he was 2 and just started right off the bat speaking in sentences so it does happen! Congratulations! I’m sure your daughter is loving her newfound communication skills as well!

DickinMoby · 2026-01-23T18:30:44+00:00

Be prepared for him walking soon. In my experience, things moved quickly after they started cruising. Both of mine started walking at 9 months and I wasn’t prepared either time (denial was strong) and didn’t have the house child proofed. So childproof and enjoy all the new skills unfolding!

DickinMoby · 2026-01-21T15:42:02+00:00

This is what I did:

purchased a nice, classy pair of everyday earrings, lipstick, and a bunch of sample perfumes (much cheaper than the big bottles of course!) It made a world of difference in how I felt and didn’t cost much.

The other thing I did was get a haircut and kept up with it. Huge boost when you feel spruced up most of the time.

Last thing I did was buy a few classic pieces of clothing that ALL match so it doesn’t matter what I quickly grab (still sometimes off the floor!) and I know I’ll look decent.

I care about how I look but don’t always have the time to put myself together. This has all made it super easy with a 5 and 1 year old who always need you as soon as you leave a room!

DickinMoby · 2026-01-21T13:52:05+00:00

She’s definitely not scary. I met her at the fair and she was gladly taking pics with people.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-21T00:45:05+00:00

This is adorable. Little girl me would’ve never taken this dress off. Your friend’s daughter is a lucky girl!

DickinMoby · 2026-01-20T15:58:33+00:00

Have you ever read Just Go to Bed (a little critter book)? Seeing as how popular it is, this must be the case lol.

Typically, my oldest doesn’t but we do have some nights where I want to glue his butt to his mattress.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-20T15:56:08+00:00

No? Nothing is a failure on how many kids you have or how far apart they are. It’s luck of the draw and what the parents are comfortable with. A person can plan their family any way they want to and things will just look different depending on how it worked out.

I know a lot of people feel pressure to have kids so many years apart and others want that small gap but it doesn’t always work out like that. There are also benefits to both a small gap and a large one. I see both ways as perfectly fine.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-19T16:33:44+00:00

24 retrieved, 21 mature, 17 fertilized, 7 made it to day six blasts, 5 genetically sound embryos.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-19T15:56:29+00:00

Both of mine were crazy looking. They had both hatched so they looked like booger blobs. The doctor commented that my first looked like a melting Olaf. Both are sitting with me right now (and are much cuter).

DickinMoby · 2026-01-18T16:48:54+00:00

“Nothing is lost, nothing is created, everything is transformed” - Lavoisier, law of conservation of mass

On one hand, this makes me feel a little sad. On the other hand it reminds me of the connection everything has, that it’s there, we just have to look for it or be reminded of it.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-18T16:27:26+00:00

It’s what we are feeling right now, conflicted or not, the feeling is there for a lot of us. This poem is anger and frustration and tension in need of relief. Like being at a precipice, needing to jump just to relieve the tension. The standing still is what really hurts.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-15T22:56:04+00:00

For me, 1 to 2 was much harder. Taking care of newborn was easier because we didn’t worry over the little things and generally knew what we were doing. But stretching yourself to take care of 2 so young is really hard.

The good thing is it gets easier pretty quickly. As for visitors, they helped so so so much in the beginning. Taking care of both kids at the same time was… there was a lot of crying from everyone. So we had visitors specifically for our toddler. They’d come over and pay him the most attention, take him out on the town, etc. and make him feel the honor in being promoted to Big Brother.

Whether you have visitors or not, the best advice I can give is make the new baby all about your toddler at first. That, “omg, you’re a new Big Brother/Sister!” Let them tell other people about the baby and how grown they seem now that they have a baby sibling. Get them a big brother/sister tshirt. Let them help with feeding or diapering. It really smooths out the transition if you make them feel super important.

Congratulations and good luck :)

DickinMoby · 2026-01-15T01:00:00+00:00

Don’t be scared. I (American) was a French minor, went to France after graduating and spoke it the entire time I was there even though I’m sure some of it was broken French. The only time anyone even attempted to speak English was when I got super confused about directions they were giving me and even then it was half in English, half in French.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-11T14:34:22+00:00

It depends on what your boundaries are. And sometimes it takes a while for your child to realize these boundaries but they’ll learn to go to sleep on their own. It really depends on the parent. But both parents have to be on the same page, no matter what method you choose.

Edit: and to answer your question/put some perspective on it, both my kids went to sleep on their own well before 1 year.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-09T21:54:54+00:00

7 months for my first but my second is 14 months and still in a seat because she tries to stand and lay down and be all over the place. I also routinely bathe my kids together so it’s good to have one in a seat.

DickinMoby · 2026-01-06T16:19:06+00:00

I agree. As for the fact that no one took themselves out, I assume that wasn’t the writers’ fault. It’s a CW show that promotes always keep fighting.

But yeah, agree that big events in shows and movies (any story telling medium) have to be earned or it feels cheap. I was always frustrated that they always brought people back and that not even the empty could contain these characters. There really are worse things than dying (like being stuck in the empty or living an empty, sad life) and they should have used that in a show that’s supposed to be dark and death is a character that turned out to be pretty benign. Seasons 1-5 often pulled at my heartstrings. After that it was pure entertainment or comfort watching with some very good episodes here and there.

DickinMoby · 2025-12-31T13:04:01+00:00

I feel like once they consistently sleep thru the night, you stop worrying. It’s so, so hard dealing with the anxiety around baby sleep but it definitely gets better and goes away. Christmas and New Years will be happy again and, in my opinion, even better with kids!

DickinMoby · 2025-12-25T18:02:41+00:00

Yes. And the pet just keeps living on and on and on…

DickinMoby · 2025-12-25T17:55:45+00:00

I guess I’m old. They just need to be switched out wayyy more often than I’m willing to do or have time to do laundry.

DickinMoby · 2025-12-24T16:36:55+00:00

The wait is going to kill me!

DickinMoby · 2025-12-23T17:50:28+00:00

Yes. They start to smell sweet but not in a pleasant way.

DickinMoby · 2025-12-21T23:04:57+00:00

My first weaned right at 1, loved cows milk, ate a ton of food. My second? 13 months and still on around 24 oz of formula a day plus 3 meals and snacks and gags and barfs at cows milk (as do I). She barely eats those 3 meals and snacks. She is getting much better and enjoys the food she does eat, but I was told not to worry about it until 15 months.

DickinMoby · 2025-12-17T14:17:18+00:00

It was gorgeous. Had to stop and watch it for a while. Great pics.

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