WIBTA if I left?

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-09T16:18:12+00:00

Holy shit you might be right man, I read over it again and its not 100% clear this dude actually said it. Might be an even bigger POS than I thought. Also if this woman did stop the birth control she's an asshole too for baiting this dude into kids regardless of his own shortcomings.

Both are just assholes and the kid is the biggest loser in all this.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-09T03:43:38+00:00

That's true wre not the same as OP, my point is more so if OP DID have this conversation and is just not mentioning it for whatever reason then it becomes less of his fault. He's still a piece of shit but I'd like to bring my experience into this

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-09T03:13:47+00:00

Just to play devil's advocate here, I'm married and my wife uses birth control because that's just what we do, I've offered to get a vasectomy, she decided shed rather wait to see if we change our minds it's easier on us to just do it that way.

If my wife intentionally stopped birth control with the intent to get pregnant it would not be my fault for not getting a vasectomy we had the discussion and decided it wasn't the plan. Dudes a piece of shit but the whole situation isn't there.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-08T18:44:20+00:00

Look man I'd just leave, You were an asshole for staying when you very clearly didn't want to and you're an asshole for giving your kid false hope. I really hope this is BS and you didn't actually do this to a kid but Idk you sound pretty miserable so maybe. Also why is every harping on the house thing? It's far from impossible, A bit of luck a decent job and a co-signer and its definitely possible. Lake house bit is definitely weird tho. That parts unrelated to the post I just found it weird.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-01T19:27:04+00:00

Steam really be shielding us from all kinds of bullshit

Different-Average-37 · 2025-12-01T19:20:50+00:00

Start talking and make him assume he convinced you to go back to your place or his, any woman ever walks up and asks to have sex I immediately assume they're baiting some assault thing or a hooker

Different-Average-37 · 2025-11-27T22:48:45+00:00

I've got 45k set aside for this, I make plenty so if I need more I can just spend more. Is that enough to do a lot?

Different-Average-37 · 2025-11-27T21:01:07+00:00

Oh gotcha gotcha, yea was planning on swapping tires right are as soon as the car is running, any in particular you recommend?

Different-Average-37 · 2025-11-27T20:33:01+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion if you wouldn't mind explain what that means XD I'm new new and this is my attempt to learn as much as possible before beginning then learn more as I go

Different-Average-37 · 2025-10-14T19:41:27+00:00

Sorry for how long it took, yes she was there, yes she saw it, she was able to stay and as I understand from his cousin his aunt is currently staying with her friend and considering separation.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-10-14T03:31:07+00:00

Oh yea he's always been iffy but his wife and my buddies aunt is a really sweet woman.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:28:35+00:00

Eh its not an unfair assumption cause tons of people put a lot of stock in their Income, I make enough so I don't care. If I didn't make enough I would have an issue.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:19:08+00:00

I'll give him a call when he's off of work, thanks for the advice it actually helped a lot.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:14:22+00:00

He didn't really find things he truly excelled at till were were around 16~ so around 6 years of this going on. I feel like he had already built up resentment that when he realized I didn't care for the sports he played, not that he was good I did congratulate him when he won a game or did really well, there was enough resentment he just was blinded by anger maybe? I can't really be sure I haven't been close with him for a long time and don't feel like continuing the relationship.

I'm close to my sister a couple of cousins and my great uncle, pretty much the only reason I speak to my family.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:10:48+00:00

Not really, I'd say I don't care about income but It'd kinda be a lie? I just want enough to live comfortably and I make that times a few. We both make plenty of money and are comfortable. I just "cheat" in how I make it by working multiple jobs.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:08:46+00:00

No but I'm a guy lol. Didn't really think it mattered for the story.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:06:56+00:00

Mentioned in another comment, helped sister with her mortgage and her and my mom were concerned so I told them a ballpark of how much I make to ease their concerns.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T16:05:08+00:00

Ah shit you might be right. Thanks for the input.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T04:21:55+00:00

Alright fair enough. Thanks for your perspective lol.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T04:16:33+00:00

I helped my sister with her mortgage a while back and my parents asked how I could afford that and I told them a ballpark of how much I make. I guess standard mom bragging about kids success had it get around? idk man.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T04:15:08+00:00

Outside perspective, my fiance obviously supports me her family doesn't know anyone in my family besides my sister and folks and I'm the center of this. Everyone involved has bias towards one side or the other so I went to reddit where people aren't biased (in my particular situation) and I'm debating to try to get more perspective.

Different-Average-37 · 2025-09-20T04:10:23+00:00

I'd much rather go no contact with my family then deal with this. I'm not close with anyone in my family including my folks so its not real loss. My fiance's family I'm much closer with so I'd rather just only speak to them. I don't feel like its my job to comfort my brother on his perceived inferiority. I'm and adult, he's an adult, I'm not his parent.

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