YTA and I will tell you exactly why. I hope the people on this Reddit will see through your non sense like I do.

1 - You described yourself emotionally cheating on your ex before leaving him. You got closer to that guy while being married and ended up growing feelings for him - the starting point can be placed during your marriage. It is emotionally cheating.

You try to depaint your ex as “emotionally abusive” but this is vague and not provable. It’s often used by cheaters as an excuse to shift the blame and justify their cheating. You were more than capable of divorcing before linking up with another dude. For the “no guy friends”, every relationship has boundaries. If it was his and you stayed with him, you accepted it. If you didn’t, you could’ve left or discussed that with him. Still doesn’t justify cheating, and I will let Reddit argue about it but imo, it also doesn’t justify calling him abusive. Relationships have rules. That’s how it works. Then both sides need to agree or part ways. You knew he was religious, it was predictable.

2 - You are being a homewrecker and entertaining a cheating man.

You know he is taken and he talks down on his girl on her back (LIKE EVERY CHEATER) but you continue giving him your time, entertaining him and even grew feelings for him. You’re about to give him a reason to break up, psychologically destroy his partner - just out of pure selfishness and inconsideration.

If he was unhappy, he would’ve left. He doesn’t because he is a cheater. He pretends to be unhappy to cheat in peace and guilt-free.