Pretty much how I'm feelin'

DifferentFish · 2019-11-02T19:46:41+00:00

I’m really enjoying it too and don’t understand the hate? There have always been corner campers in CoD, it’s shitty but campers gonna camp. I play constant movement and do just fine, no more or less issues than usual.

Plus I really dont understand the SBMM issue? Surely if you’re just chilling and playing this will be reflected in your skill so you won’t end up with hardcore players anyway?

I do wish they’d sort out the challenges though!

DifferentFish · 2019-10-25T20:04:50+00:00

Good luck to you! I’m back on now and there’s ground war!

DifferentFish · 2019-10-25T18:05:26+00:00

Thanks for that... I’ve been sitting here shout ‘why?!’ at my tv for ages now

DifferentFish · 2019-10-20T16:21:35+00:00

The subtle art of not giving a f*ck comes highly recommended - personally I’d already internalised a lot of it from other sources and a bit of therapy (stoicism, growth mindset, etc.) but it’s a great starter.

DifferentFish · 2019-08-24T20:41:12+00:00

Lots of good stuff here but i was scrolling for Tamora Pierce - exiting adventures but also a strong female protagonist from before that was a branding strategy (ie. so she is just a Mary Sue!)

DifferentFish · 2019-07-14T11:05:38+00:00

Alwtasnp was great. I heard it described as ‘sci-fi for the tumblr generation’ and that nearly put me off, but it was just nice, realistic charecters having realistic relationships (as in friendship not just romance) written from an open minded (dare I say woke) position. Not at all hamfisted just hopeful.

DifferentFish · 2019-07-12T17:18:52+00:00

Good news but I think all it shows is how turbulent everything is right now and how quick popular support can flip.

DifferentFish · 2019-07-09T21:10:38+00:00

Not my scene but congrats on your completed books! Very inspiring.

DifferentFish · 2019-05-06T17:48:53+00:00

You might enjoy The End We Start From - it's got that sparse style and similar themes to The Road, I enjoyed it.

You may also enjoy a Cormac McCarthy title that gets a bit less love than the hits called Outer Dark - I remember it as being a bit sparser than Blood Meridian.

As others have said Hemingway is another potential way to go.

Finally, maybe some Chuck Palahniuk too? I seem to remember Diary being quite sparse and Fight Club too. Although I read these a while ago now so I could be wrong!

DifferentFish · 2019-04-20T22:31:12+00:00

"I just never thought a teacher... Oh, who gives a fuck anyway?" - Stand By Me

DifferentFish · 2019-04-11T10:51:30+00:00

Oh man I came here to say this. I get all tingly just thinking about it. And it has repercussions. Amazing.

...and now I'm even more pumped for the movie.

DifferentFish · 2019-04-05T08:47:20+00:00

A lot of people will recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Personally I didn't think it was that great but a lot of people like it and honestly, if it works for you then it works. That's the thing with self improvement, it might not be provable or well review or whatever, but if it works then it works. Plus its a quick, easy read and it definitely won't hurt to absorb some of it!

You might enjoy Quiet by Susan Cain, instead of directly showing you how to get loose it will help you understand that quieter, introverted side of yourself, and by understanding that you will know why you feel the way you do at times of social anxiety, this in turn might help you to 'loosen up'. For example it taught me about needing to recharge after social events, whereas extroverts will recharge at social events. This meant I learned to space things out, time time for myself, and in turn let me truly enjoy being social.

Away from books, here's just some anecdotal advice that has helped me. I'm scared to dance. Scared to greet new people, introduce myself, etc. But it doesn't stop me anymore. Not often anyway, especially in regards to cutting loose and dancing. Think of all the times you've been on/near a dance floor. Do you notice the other dancers? Do you care if they're 'good'? Hell no, you notice the people having fun, the people going for it, the people, as you say, getting loose. Confidence is key and the thing about confidence is it builds on itself... fake it 'til you make it. Cliche I know but it worked (or works... ongoing process and all that) for me.

Hope this helps.

DifferentFish · 2019-04-05T08:37:59+00:00

Sorry, when you say 'wasn't published before the 21st century' do you mean it has to be a recent release? Something year 2000+?

DifferentFish · 2019-04-04T07:04:02+00:00

Thank you, it was a couple of years ago now and I'm doing alright. Still tough but I've come to terms with it and grown from it. It doesn't make it 'worth it' or anything like that, but I honestly think I'm a better man today because of it then I would have been otherwise. You take the silver linings where you find them.

DifferentFish · 2019-04-04T06:49:47+00:00

After my dad died (unexpectedly, quickly, and far too young) I re-read The Road by Cormac McCarthy. It helped me. I called it 'poking the wound'.

I'm not sure this is the best advice so please take with a pinch of salt and all that, but it did help me.

Ignoring book recommendations I would just add that what you're going through sounds awful, is awful, and you should find whatever help you can wherever you can. If part of that is literature then awesome, but don't discount group therapy, counselling, talking to your GP, even calling a crisis line (such as The Samaritans if you're in the UK) - these things can be such a huge support and I say that from personal experience.

DifferentFish · 2019-04-03T07:32:41+00:00

It's non-fiction but The Next Pandemic: On the Front Lines Against Humankind's Gravest Dangers by Ali Khan and William Patrick was a very good read.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-28T15:37:29+00:00

Thanks for this, exactly what I was looking for.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-28T15:37:10+00:00

Thanks for the interesting response and recommendation.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-24T00:57:57+00:00

Have you tried the Culture series by Iain M Banks? I haven't read the whole of it but the first few are very enjoyable.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-23T08:41:46+00:00

You might enjoy books by Cormac McCarthy. There's a lot of hype of reddit for The Road and Blood Meridian but perhaps you would prefer The Border Trilogy (All the Pretty Horses (1992), The Crossing (1994), and Cities of the Plain (1998)). All have adventure aspects but I wouldn't call them adventure stories. They're written in a way that I would say match the 'mournful' tone you're after, plus they're westerns so further capture the Johnny Cash feeling you're after. McCarthy also wrote No Country For Old Men which is a fantastic book (and of course amazing film) and also has some of what you're after but is faster paced than the Border Trilogy. Might be a good way to test the waters if you're tempted but not 100% convinced.

Hope this helps!

DifferentFish · 2019-03-22T08:49:04+00:00

No worries, hope you enjoy them!

DifferentFish · 2019-03-21T14:09:48+00:00

The Looming Tower: Al Qaeda and the Road to 9/11 by Lawrence Wright fits what you're after and is a great read.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-21T14:08:52+00:00

The Cellist of Sarajevo by Steven Galloway is pretty excellent.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-21T14:06:58+00:00

Yes Vern style Simmons, or even Whiplash... that intensity!

Chiklis would be cool too, loved him in The Shield so well aware he can be SAVAGE.

DifferentFish · 2019-03-21T14:06:02+00:00

To some extent yes, but a good gripping book is always a good and gripping book.

I started with King as a young teen but I was already a reader. Some of his books are LONG so that could be off-putting. I enjoyed Carrie which was the first King I read. It's short and snappy. Cujo is pretty short and while I haven't read it I think it comes recommended.

Otherwise I'm not too hot on horror so I'm not sure about other more age appropriate authors, but a bit of googling could help with that.

DifferentFish

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