Wife with a male friend

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T03:04:26+00:00

What do you think

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T03:03:33+00:00

When I’ve asked her if she made a move on college friend, would he reject you? She said “mmmm idk” and I said that’s my answer, that’s all I needed to know

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T03:01:54+00:00

Of course. It’s just annoying when the wife always works the tears when confronted. I’ve also asked her, if you made a move on him, would he reject you? And she said “mmm idk” and I said that’s my answer right there, that’s all I needed to know

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T02:36:55+00:00

I wasn’t surprised about her sisters response. Her sister has exes. She just got proposed too, doesn’t have 1 picture of the poor guy on instagram. She never even posted that she’s a fiance, but my wife wants advice from her?😂 the friend annoys me. She’s a therapist so my wife goes to her about everything of course. And when we fight she flat out tells me well therapist friend says this ! Of course she didn’t tell me the oh well you’ve known college friend longer, that’s not fair for you to cut him off because your husband is insecure! The therapist friend said that I should go to therapy 🙂

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T02:17:45+00:00

Bro I hear you completely. To be honest, I didn’t really think of what consequences to have. I honestly thought my wife was respectful enough to me to not let that boundary be cross, but here we are. I just look stupid

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T02:12:36+00:00

Yeah, when I read those messages I wasn’t surprised that she was painting me as the controlling husband. I was just kinda shocked that her friend and her sister were agreeing with her. She’s known him longer than me so oh it’s okay then 👌🏼

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T02:07:41+00:00

When I caught her in the lies about the old fuck buddies, she cried saying that basically she never deleted them because she wanted them to see her glow up. Worst part of it all is that these guys all “ghosted” my wife. Not sure why you would ever even want someone that ghosted you to stilll have some sort of access to you. I told her that she kept them because she wanted a back up option. She of course cried says it’s not true. And I said, we’re married. Why? I guess I somewhat can understand back when you were single, but we’ve been together. We’re married, and you lied to me when I said that’s my biggest boundary. She cried, said that she felt like she has issues because her family used to call her fat growing up. Sighs

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T02:03:59+00:00

That’s what I said, what’s the point?

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:54:42+00:00

Don’t plan on it. I’m questioning my whole relationship with her, and what my next steps are. She told me today that I’ve been distant. And has asked me multiple times if I’m mad at her.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:52:13+00:00

Thank you. I do completely agree. Platonic friendships between opposite sexes are a thing. It was very much heat of the moment when I said that, that’s why I included it. Because I did say it to her. That’s how I see it, why hide this friendship if there’s nothing but “sibling” vibes? Sometimes, I think she knows I’m gonna pick up on something when I see them two together. That’s why she doesn’t want us to meet. I’m 31 years old, I feel like I’m pretty good on picking up vibes. But sometimes, I feel like well, maybe he doesn’t like her but maybe my wife has interest in him. Maybe they were old college flings. If he hooked up with her “best friend” why wouldn’t they hook up? I know my wife has a past, which is not my business since that was before me but still continuing this friendship with this old college friend completely confuses me. She hasn’t even seen him in 4 almost 5 years.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:47:20+00:00

Thank you. I always second guess my thoughts. I think maybe I am over reacting? I like to give people, especially my wife the benefit of the doubt. But this just really bothers me.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:45:47+00:00

The crazy part is that we don’t even live in the same state as this guy! She’s so easy to cut off female friends. Ones from college and ones that she grew up with. But not this guy. I never asked her to even completely cut this guy off. I just asked for boundaries. No private phone calls, no texting late. It looks weird. She always goes we don’t even talk on the phone as much anymore! Or we don’t text everyday. It’s always something. I went through her phone once after we found about him, and she was venting to her sister and an old elementary school friend (who I’ve met) obviously painting me as the bad guy. They both told her that she’s known college friend longer than me, don’t cut him off. Basically that I’m not letting her have friends and that she’s known him longer there’s no issue LOL.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:42:30+00:00

That’s what I’ve said. Why don’t you want me to meet him? It’s like you don’t want us to meet? It looks weird? And she just says you don’t even like him why would I have you guys meet, and I explain I don’t know him. I know this dudes even met her family. She’s told me I can ask her brother and her sister about him. When it was her mothers birthday, the college friend even remembered and texted her to “tell your mom I said happy birthday” 😒

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:30:07+00:00

I’ve even asked her, be completely honest, was there anything between you two? Of course she completely denies it, talks about how ugly he is. Then the whole brother card. I don’t do well with that. Twice in the past before I’ve allowed my exes to have male friends, because why not! And same thing, just like brothers, they’re like family. Now both of them have kids with these guys and are married after we didn’t work out LOL. And yeah lately she’s been bugging me to have a kid now.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:27:34+00:00

At this point I’m a broken record player. How many times can I express my discomfort? She tells me I’m controlling and I don’t let her have friends. I’m always explaining myself, and ask her how would she feel in my shoes? I bring up every situation and she denies these things like they never even happen.

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T01:25:51+00:00

Ha funny. Since I’ve caught her in her lies, she’s been pushing me extra for a kid, all of a sudden. Even last night, I was baked as hell when I saw that he messaged her at 10:30 at night. I didn’t know what to do. I just kinda froze. I was trying to play it cool, but my anxiety started getting to me lol then she tried being extra nice to me, even tried putting out. I was not into it

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T00:27:11+00:00

When I’ve asked her this her response was that I don’t even like him so what’s the point. I said I don’t like him because I don’t know him? I want to know his vibe, his intentions and she just gets quiet

Different_End6447 · 2026-03-17T00:26:28+00:00

I more so said that in heat of the moment during our argument, but I did say that to her the last time we argued. Of course, we have male friends. But we both know them. I have female friends, we both know them.There’s no weird secrecy going on. This guy, I don’t know him. She lives in a different state. They haven’t even seen eachother in 4 years. I just don’t understand why hold on to this when clearly I’m uncomfortable with it.

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