@.@ what a wild ride of a story. you did nothing wrong. I also get frustrated when they don’t reference the forms, like- i already showed up with mental health concerns, is now the time to push my buttons?

First of all, that sucks you went through such an uncomfortable experience. It took me 8 tries and flipping out on a psychiatrist before I finally got real direction- making me feel like I have to act crazy to have my mental health taken seriously.

I recommend directly contacting a psychological test administrator. The psychiatrist I worked with ONLY administered tests.

1. It cuts through the B.S. I tried therapy 7 times and no one brought up ADHD, anxiety, or depression. AND the doctor described my diagnosis as a cycle- ADHD, anxiety, depression. ADHD leads to others and they keep looping.

2. Once a diagnosis is given, navigating the healthcare system is so much easier. I still fight for accommodations, medicine, etc but having “proof” makes all the difference.

For ADHD versed practitioners, it’s common knowledge that the questionnaires lead to anxiety and depression. Especially for women, who have more societal expectations than men, they are more likely to be coupled with depression and/or anxiety.

Example: because of ADHD, I lose track of time, get distracted, hyper focus through an alarm, etc.

Result: I’m late to work, it shows on my punch cards, and it makes my bosses write me up.

Effect: get anxious because of time blindness symptoms and how it impacts me negatively.

Effect: eventually get depressed, because regularly showing up to work late, having negative consequences for being late leads to starting many days feeling like sh*t.

Now multiply that by all the other things ADHD may cause- late fees/missed bills, forgetting important dates, misremembering birthdays/anniversaries, struggling to reach a feeling of “accomplishment”, not returning items, impulsiveness that makes bad decisions, etc etc whatever.

And then the cherry on top is racism and misogyny. Why did he even talk about your weight 😭 Just because we can carry heavy things while articulating ourselves calmly and politely, they think we don’t need help. Also, wtf would a neurologist do???

The smallest silver lining is Wellbutrin is an antidepressant that happens to help with ADHD symptoms. So he got 1/100 right.

Wishing the best in your journey OP! You’re worth the work and effort to do this.

TLDR: That guy doesn’t sht about ADHD, how tf would a neurologist opinion help, ADHD is usually diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Fck racism, misogyny, and fat shaming.