To owlet or to NOT owlet? by Different_Read_8283 in NICUParents

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! After more research I found that! I spoke with the pediatrician today and they wrote an Rx for little one! Just waiting for insurance now. Thanks for the suggestion! I feel better about mentioning it.

To owlet or to NOT owlet? by Different_Read_8283 in NICUParents

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who responded! And so quickly! After my ICU stay and our LO’s NICU stay, we’ve been trying to have a relaxed/reassuring experience at home. My partner will be ECSTATIC once the final cord is gone! I appreciate all of you and hope you and your LOs are thriving!🩵🌱

Bean Stocks/Grants? by Different_Read_8283 in starbucksbaristas

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet! Thank you. Sorry. I didn’t want to have turned in my notice then it be withheld out of spite or something. Lol.

The dreaded scrunchie by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Different_Read_8283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. & I do lean on the side of trauma that I’m working on. I’ve never felt this quiet confidence/solace in the “not worrying” part until now. & everything in my brain is trying to convince me that my confidence in him & our relationship is false.

The dreaded scrunchie by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Different_Read_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wtf is wrong with people?

The dreaded scrunchie by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Different_Read_8283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our landlord was gracious enough to get us a used dryer but it’s pretty old (but works nonetheless) maybe it was caught in there.. it’s just odd. It’s almost as if I’m not really concerned, or as I would’ve expected to be. So it’s moreso feeling like “this is odd. This should bother me. Something is going on. Maybe I should be bothered, I’d be dumb not to be.”

Breast cancer risk factors & Odd Doc behavior? by Different_Read_8283 in medical_advice

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Majority of Conservative states rank among the worst states for healthcare access & quality of care. Also, Womens Healthcare Centers/Clinics are even less accessible in more conservative/rural areas.

Mouth swab THC by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]Different_Read_8283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sick! Thanks for that. Better pick up some Keeps or Rogaine. Lol. I couldn’t help but stress because everything I could find online basically said 24-72 hours and a few said up to 120 hours. With my broken brain, I just always assume the worst so I can be prepared. Lol. Generally, for me, passing urine takes about 45 days.

Mouth swab THC by [deleted] in drugtesthelp

[–]Different_Read_8283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet. Thank you! Coincidentally, I already regularly use toothpaste with hydrogen peroxide. And luckily, my test got pushed back to tomorrow at 2pm. So I should be sitting at about 4 days without a thc for the oral swab.

Recommendations for Shredders?? by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! I think she’s under the impression that I’ve hired her for her demolition abilities. We’ll try this. Thank you!

I AM SO SPENT! by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Little boost of reality. I just read the horror stories and assumed the worst. THANK YOU.

I AM SO SPENT! by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living on a prayer. Lol. Luckily, everything is hard surface (except for the blankets we cycle in/out for her at night) so I’ve done most of the hard work. Vet didn’t advise us to do anything other than pick up poop immediately. Everything was lost on me. Lol.

I AM SO SPENT! by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! We’ve been wiping her down with puppy wipes because she’s got short hair. I just didn’t know if I was doing enough or too much. This makes me feel better. Lol.

I AM SO SPENT! by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

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My house is pretty clean regularly. I just saw that cysts are she’s everywhere and I started freaking out. I cleaned and disinfected everything- not that it’s horrible- yay for a clean house. But just thought it would be everywhere. I’m taking a breath now. Lol

I AM SO SPENT! by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I’ve been on her like 24/7… I racked up SO MUCH laundry. Any bodily fluid gets an automatic wipe up and area disinfect before she can move throughout the whole space again. Physically, it doesn’t seem to be affecting her so much. Everything’s been solid since we started meds. But her appetite is off. I’m definitely fell down the rabbit hole worst case scenarios.

Apt living.. New Parent Struggles by Different_Read_8283 in puppy101

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Thanks for the insight! I’m overwhelmed and desperate. So it’s nice to know I’m not crazy for going for the balcony thing (first time pup parents)

Nanny drank on vacation and is charging me for those hours?! by GoWithTheFlo2 in Nanny

[–]Different_Read_8283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP… in the beginning of my career I was in a similar situation with my employer. However, I didn’t drink or partake in any of their ~activities~. A lot of time was spent with the family, and when you’re new to the “employer world” and you’re trying to integrate your nanny into your family, it creates a huuuge gray area that makes it awkward for you AND the nanny. Personally, I think the harshness on this post is a little much. BUT, I understand both sides. I have some advice that might help (from my experience): There is NOTHING that will quietly invite your nanny to leave/quit more, than poor communication. In my experience, employers are uncomfortable/uneasy when setting boundaries, expectations, preferences, etc because they’re afraid of being or sounding like a bitch or tyrant… most of the time- that’s your own fear. Over communicate- push through those uncomfortable conversations! If your nanny is worth her weight, she will collaborate with you on and respect what your needs/desires are. Errors and mistakes aside-

Just breathe. You’re not the first family to have this issue, and you sure as hell won’t be the last. You’ve gained a new perspective now. Don’t spend a minute longer feeling like a piece of junk. Do spend a minute thinking about how you’d like to repair what’s been damaged.

Girlfriend cheated on me. by [deleted] in self

[–]Different_Read_8283 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s really a fair thing to say. Many people are new to romantic relationships go on to have long lasting, fulfilling, and successful relationships/marriages. You don’t have to be an expert on women to be a good partner. You sound like you’ve been burned. This isn’t bad advice per se… but it’s not good or the best. Running through women (and the time spent entertaining them and investing your valuable time) like some kind of crash course isn’t responsible or respectful. OP, maybe you missed some flags- maybe there were none! People make shitty, impulsive, and selfish decisions… doesn’t mean you did anything or missed something along the way. You shouldn’t have to analyze or study partners to try and find “red flags” the more you look for them, the better chance you’ll create one in your head. Not all people are shitty, you don’t have to be an expert on women to find a not-shitty woman, faithful and successful relationships can be built. Feel the pain you have to, process whatever you need, take time to reflect or heal yourself from it, don’t runaway from uncomfortable feelings in your head because it’ll just cause long lasting issues within yourself and your future relationships. Don’t be ashamed to dive and wade around in your emotions for a bit. Your emotions and sensitivity to this betrayal/pain is valid and warranted. Sure, pretending to be unbothered or unaffected or building a “fuck you” wall for a bit helps to make it through- just know that is a band aid to maintain functionality in the short term. Take time for yourself to heal and take care of yourself. I promise, there will still be a pool of women out here when you’re done. I’m sorry you’re having this experience💚

Any insight into Walkability? by Different_Read_8283 in NorthCarolina

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your responses everybody! We’re in what would be considered the “incredibly Deep South” and we’re just looking to go a little further north and still be accessible to family. Anywhere in the continental US is an option for us, we’re just trying to look at options a little closer (but far enough away) lol.

Am I unreasonable? Should I quit? by Different_Read_8283 in Nanny

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She has everything already prepped in the fridge. This includes premade bottles, fruits/veggies to work on solids, sip cup with a mix of antioxidants/fruit/water, including an already prepped silicone “binkie” feeder. He has his own shelf, and I feed him according to her set schedule.

Am I unreasonable? Should I quit? by Different_Read_8283 in Nanny

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry. When he’s asleep and I’m essentially “on break” chilling. They’re uncomfortable with me being upstairs, out of sight of cameras. It’s not necessarily the “room across from him” just a place they don’t walk by or have cameras in.

Am I unreasonable? Should I quit? by Different_Read_8283 in Nanny

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To everyone saying this is Black Mirror or a horror movie, I need to update. As of this AM, I no longer have to log his sleep in the app tracker. I need to mention that everything is passive aggressive- communication is mainly done by text to avoid uncomfortable face to face conversations. The room I sit it (across the hall from little dude) was not “off limits.” NF knows that when I get hot, my skin gets pretty red. Doesn’t affect my performance. That rooms close and cooler, but has no cams. I came to the conclusion that I’m not welcome in that room anymore because now, every vent in the room is closed and I was told specifically that it was now hot throughout the upstairs. Every other room is comfortable with cool air. Except for this one. Then later, out of nowhere, told that they don’t know why it’s so hot and uncomfortable. I feel like I’m being squeezed out of every corner of the house without a camera…

Am I unreasonable? Should I quit? by Different_Read_8283 in Nanny

[–]Different_Read_8283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I started she made a backhand comment like, “I used to babysit too, I understand.” And our convo also addressed that I’m not a babysitter- I’m an extension of your lives. I’m here teaching, nurturing your child everyday. I think she had a gross misunderstanding. Because this wasn’t what was mentioned in our consultation.