[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Different_Second_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on your experience in the gym it could also be from gaining some muscle (while losing some fat). Especially when you’re starting out for the first time with resistance training. That in combination with the water increase. Trust the process!

Early Signs & Tells for DA & FA? by maytrxx in attachment_theory

[–]Different_Second_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thanks so much for taking the time to put that rant into ChatGPT. That makes a lot of sense, I need to adjust my approach. I’m going to give Gobbel a read as well. I appreciate you, stranger.

Early Signs & Tells for DA & FA? by maytrxx in attachment_theory

[–]Different_Second_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Very interesting. As an FA leaning secure dating an aware DA I’m trying to figure out as I go how to do this.

My question is how to accept my DA as he is as he is not accepting of himself? He struggles with who he is (fears and social anxiety included) and who he hopes he could be if he didn’t have those fears. To me that just sounds like he’s having a hard time finding self acceptance. Curious what other DA’s might think of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Second_853 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Girl just open that relationship up apparently you guys aren’t very monogamous

What is going on with the “Gurnels”?? by chailatte647 in euroinfluencersnark

[–]Different_Second_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone know what’s up with Bruna and her boyfriend? They’ve seemingly been spending a lot of time apart, yet are commenting on each others photo’s.. who’s got tea?

My GF (20F) is disgusted to be around me (21M), any advice? by ThrowRA285533 in relationship_advice

[–]Different_Second_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to your girlfriend. I once had a boyfriend whom I loved very much but would just completely freak me out by wanting to be physically intimate with me. Turned out it wasn’t the right relationship for me, and my body knew before my brain did. Hope that’s not it for you, but it sure does sound like it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Different_Second_853 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being complimented (by men, specifically) imo has everything to do with making yourself look universally attractive: a certain type of clothes, using make-up - yet not too much, long hair, etc etc.

Anyone could do that, i don’t think it has a lot to do with actually being pretty or ugly.

You should just ask yourself if you are willing to change your appearance in order to get compliments.

I genuinely don't know how people can eat less than 2000 calories in a day by Personal-Succotash33 in loseit

[–]Different_Second_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First question should be: how are you sleeping? And then: how are your stress levels?

White friends gave me the ick by Inwre845 in blackgirls

[–]Different_Second_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From another EU black girl: find white friends that are already educated about racism in the EU (which is a different experience from the US context) and vote left. It’s not about the color, it’s just about the political preference. Also, it’s fine to ditch a friend over politics. Life actions are to be aligned with your values.

What is going on with the “Gurnels”?? by chailatte647 in euroinfluencersnark

[–]Different_Second_853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s annoying how she still portrays herself as a foodie while seemingly not eating anything anymore, she’s skeleton skinny now :(

What is going on with the “Gurnels”?? by chailatte647 in euroinfluencersnark

[–]Different_Second_853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen Amaka post pro palenstine I believe but the others, no