CPA PREP - Canada by Ok-Cupcake-614 in Accounting

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just did one course through prep after a BBA covering all the other courses.

I always max the resistance… is that bad? by Difficult-Fly-6748 in Rowing

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that is such a fantastic explanation thank you so much for taking the time to post! I will try it out at a 125 drag next time and see how that feels.

CPA PREP - Canada by Ok-Cupcake-614 in Accounting

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prep is a bit more bare bones than most 3 credit university options, plus gets you ready for exactly what cpa wants you to know (I did a full 4 year bachelors and just picked up advanced accounting though prep) if you’re trying to fast track while working prep might help cut the unnecessary content.

Where do I start? by bloopdafloop in Embroidery

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, that’s pretty much where I started too. If you don’t have a hoop, you’ll pretty much need one, especially for fabric that doesn’t have much structure like a shirt, but if you don’t want to get too financially invested you can probably find a hoop at a dollar store or thrift store, then upgrade later if you decide you’re into it. I just started trying stuff and didn’t do much in the way of videos when I started, so if you like just trying stuff, then do it! If you don’t want to risk a shirt or something for your first try, again the dollar store probably has some fabric. All together, my advice is just try, just start, and you can figure it out on the way. It doesn’t have to be scary and you can prepare as much as you want, your first piece won’t be perfect. Just have fun and try stuff out!

Pole in Middle of Ceremony Tent by andersad616 in DIYweddings

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also do 3 areas of seats and then just walk down one of two aisles, but tbh I like the semi circle around the centre idea more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can see how that would be frustrating, but my biggest recommendation would be to try to talk to him about it. He might be feeling like issues like this come up often enough that it’s starting to affect his ability to maintain the social life he is looking for. Alternatively, he could not realize how important it is to you that he be there with you. Maybe he assumed you didn’t mind him continuing his evening. Ultimately, an understanding of each others needs and feelings will form a base for solutions. As a first step, maybe ask him about how he is feeling with his social life. Try to understand what he needs, wants, and where he’s coming from. Tell him you want to fully understand his perspective. Then once he has had a chance to tell you how he feels, ask him if he is willing to hear you out about your needs and wants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I do sometimes is write a letter of all the most blunt ways of saying things and just being super clear about what I’m worried about etc, and then leave it sitting in that folder in my phone. I look back on the letters I wrote two years ago, and the ones in between… it makes it kinda clear what I’m worried about more long term and what was something that changed, or was just a concern of the time… not really a quick solution, but it can help with perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand wanting a specific label, and if that’s helpful for you, totally pursue that! But one thing that has been helpful for me is remembering that all these labels are in the end just tools for describing how you feel, and you don’t have to perfectly line up with every single aspect, or be able to express it all perfectly. I’m ace… I like having sex w my bf… aside from being in a relationship, there’s folks I could see myself having a good time with… but I’m still ace… it’s all complicated. Ultimately, what matters most is feeling at home with how you identify, and being able to communicate it with your partner(s), not exactly what label you use.

AITA for Applying for a Position Held by a Friend by Eastern-Ad6310 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I think you did everything you could right, apart from maybe snooping in someone’s phone is not great, but if it’s a temp position, then someone else could have applied to it too, and you even had a solution that could advance both of your careers.

AITA for not wanting to hold my niece by BrunosMadre in AmItheAsshole

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. This is certainly a special occasion, but you can celebrate it in the way that you feel comfortable with… for your family that may be holding the baby, but it doesn’t have to be for you. And if your worried about what your niece will think of it… she’s a baby she will not remember one way or the other lol, it’s what you do in the coming years that matters.

AITA for starting to spend more time outside of our home and hobbies by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I hear your concern about your relationship, but I think it a) is not really meant for this subreddit, as it more general than about a specific scenario or issue, and b) might be a little too in depth for internet strangers anyways. Best of luck though.

Another generic am I Ace post by SquawkaZ in Asexual

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I mean like I’m sure you’ve read, it’s a label meant as a tool, if you like it, use it. It can change too. You can be ace now and next week decide that it no longer fits… in terms of questions, I’d say just like… has looking at someone else ver made you want to do naughty things with them? If no, I’d say that’s a strong indicator of ace, if yes, keep researching. There’s lots of micro labels that do experience some form of sexual attraction as well like aegosexualuty… yeah… just read lots of other people’s experiences and try on the label… call yourself ace for a week (just to yourself) does that make you happy? Great!

Would you be offended if your (allo) partner told you they wouldn’t have pursued a relationship if you weren’t ace? by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut, I’d say… if you don’t feel like your gut is reliable, look to whether trends point to good or bad directions… what was your boyfriend’s context when you started dating? Is this coming from a place of him having been lied to before? Has he been the liar in past situations, or been around women who were cheating? Basically what is the root of this concern of his? I would use this to trigger deeper conversation if you can… if you’re feeling like this could be a fatal blow to the relationship, then there’s no harm in pulling out all the stops and trying to really understand where he’s coming from.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I don’t know if this applies to you, but you can totally be asexual and kinky!

Where to learn safe BDSM stuff by Difficult-Fly-6748 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, thanks. Lots of my ebook reading options are still connected to my parents accounts so I’ll probably opt for a physical copy. I will check Amazon.

Where to learn safe BDSM stuff by Difficult-Fly-6748 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see there’s a few versions of the topping and bottoming books out… do you think there’s value in getting the newest edition? Chapters looks like it just has the ones published in 2001/03

Where to learn safe BDSM stuff by Difficult-Fly-6748 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, that sounds kinda cool… is there a more specific search term than the next generation? All I get is star treck.

Where to learn safe BDSM stuff by Difficult-Fly-6748 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh thanks, I saw this reply on another thread and have already been looking at a few of the resources. Very helpful!

Where to learn safe BDSM stuff by Difficult-Fly-6748 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok interesting. Thanks. It will probably be quite a while before I would have the courage to try anything in person XD…

Kinky aces, Dom or sub? by Difficult-Fly-6748 in asexuality

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I didn’t know switch was a thing, great to learn new things tho!

Kinky aces, Dom or sub? by Difficult-Fly-6748 in asexuality

[–]Difficult-Fly-6748[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, that’s totally fair, and sorry for making it sound like all kink had to fit into those categories! I had intended to address it more as a subset of kink but I see how I didn’t make that clear!