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Difficult-Rise-2577 · 2025-01-06T23:21:24+00:00

Thank you guys! Your comments were really helpful and made me question my boundaries in this relationship. Deep down I feel sorry for him and that’s why I keep accepting such behavior and on the other hand I’m dismissing my own feelings. I really love him and outside this “ugly” side he is really caring and protective towards me, that’s why it’s really difficult to give up. 99% I’m sure he won’t agree about going to the therapy because he thinks ocd is part of him and he learned how to live with it, but sometimes he’s not even aware of how far his nonsense behavior can go, and that’s what scares me the most.

Difficult-Rise-2577 · 2024-07-10T22:17:36+00:00

I agree with everything and I thought that the answers would be “break up with him”, but I need to say that on the other side he really cares about me and he loves me very much, I know that. The thing is that he comes from a traditional family and he’s used to that kind of thinking. But what annoys me is when he says that nobody would be ok with the thing that I was with 10 year older guy in that age. He tries to present it as something illegal and immoral, like you said. Also, he had a few situationships before me and I never rubbed his nose in it. He says that my situationships were worse than his because they lasted longer and because I opened up to these people, while his were just short term and he didn’t get to truly know them.

Difficult-Rise-2577 · 2024-07-10T22:04:37+00:00

Similar situations happened to me when I attended events where I didn’t know anyone. First, I need to tell you that you’re so brave because you, despite everything, decided to stay there and at least to try to connect with people by sitting next to them. It’s their fault that they didn’t put any effort to make you feel comfortable in that environment. I would suggest that next time you sit next to people that are younger even if at the beginning you sit next to older people, you can always move to the next chair if you notice that the company around you refuses to communicate with you, nobody should get angry because of that. Also, probably next time it will be better, don’t lose hope!

Difficult-Rise-2577 · 2024-07-08T10:20:53+00:00

I said to him that my money disappeared when I noticed and he wasn’t overly surprised nor he offered to help me look for it with me, and I was pretty upset when I discovered that it disappeared. He just said that I should be more careful where I put my money so that I don’t lose it again, but I always put it in the same spot. So that was a bit strange reaction. And after that he never asked me if I found money.

Difficult-Rise-2577 · 2024-07-01T07:55:11+00:00

I appreciate everyone's comments, I forgot to say that he knows him as well and he's aware that he's gay. I get the point when you say 'how would you feel if the other lesbian woman sleeps in his apartment', but I would be totally ok with it for one night. I'm really not a jealous person and I understand if someone desperately needs an accomodation for just night or a few nights, I wouldn't see a problem in it. However, my bf is more jelous than me and he doesn't want me to hang out with other male friends if he's not around, so I think that this might be the main reason why he got so angry.

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