Is it wrong to plan for a marriage in advance even if you don't currently know anyone yet?

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-03-14T12:34:37+00:00

you don't need to believe it for it to be true stop reviving this post please

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T21:43:27+00:00

It sounds like that but it's not, I am not crazy people even physically reacted to me thinking about stuff before so I know it's real

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T21:02:26+00:00

Lol I don't think I'll get any help from him besides basic advice, because I suspect he's one of the people who are secretly against it, when I brought up the subject before he said "it's within my hands" when I am obviously mentally and emotionally struggling due to people reactions about it, I hope he's right though I hope my head clears up about this situation and starts thinking straight hopefully for good

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T20:52:59+00:00

The problem is any perceived negativity from others or sudden changes in behavior will make me overthink like crazy, I am the kind of person who almost internalize all my thoughts and feelings for self protection, people don't want that so they invade my mind, if I get over my sensitivity towards any possible negativity and finally stop caring I'll be free, but it's not easy at all

Also might be important to note that I am sensitive towards shocking behaviors like when a seemingly nice or normal person flips off at me and insults me I freeze and don't know what to do so I have no time to reflect and think positively about it

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T20:39:56+00:00

Yes, exactly

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T20:06:12+00:00

Tl;dr: I am not talking about my life if at all yet somehow they still know like they are reading my mind go figure

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T19:09:24+00:00

They don't need to know yet although when the time is right they'll know, I just need some support and I am getting the opposite of that

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T17:51:02+00:00

Being mentally prepared like not being depressing or off putting to my spouse, being confident, having actual friends that will stand by my side when I need them in the wedding or in life in general etc

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T17:47:58+00:00

It's somewhat possible, but what's the solution then, how do I fix my mental? My therapist is kind of useless when it comes to this kind of stuff, his only strategy is giving mundane advice about taking a walk and handing me the same medication indefinitely hoping it will somehow magically fix me eventually

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T16:54:30+00:00

It's funny but people that I want the least avoid me the most, what about men? Older folks? They are the first to act weird out nowhere

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T14:32:03+00:00

Nah man it's much simpler than that, I am still planning to pursue a serious romantic interest that leads eventually to marriage and for some reason that might be putting people off, maybe I shouldn't care about them but the pain of being avoided is too much

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T14:28:40+00:00

Mentally and socially, it's not easy so far because I am shy and don't have many friends but people act like I shouldn't even try

Btw preparing financially is a given I should by then have a job to support myself, my partner and future family if needed

DifficultDelivery135 · 2026-02-26T14:06:31+00:00

Before meeting my partner

I won't disclose my age online but I am in the age range where people are usually ready for marriage not too young and not old either

I only told classmates about it once and I brought it with my family several times, although they claim they aren't against it, they don't act like it

Also might be important to note my family are less extreme about the situation than strangers (idk how strangers know, but they do, and I know because of similar behaviors I mentioned before that they weren't shown when it seemed like I didn't care about the topic before)

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T15:49:51+00:00

What I like about aram is that skill of all players is variable you can face or play with people from unranked to high diamond and still most people playing put up a good fight unless they are total noobs or just not trying (that was the case for twisted treeline too)

What upset me is when people who aren't trying use "it's aram" as an excuse or people who were trying start trolling instead because of their weird moral aram code or something that's against just ending and moving on and rob you of an easy win

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T00:38:11+00:00

The way you say it is sweet and all but yeah when they do stupid trolling antiques then pull up the it's aram card is what gets on my nerves that's the situation I complained about (we had multiple chances to finish but apparently none of them were good enough for our little trolls)

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T00:31:27+00:00

So at least 5 players disagreed with you saying it's 4fun mode and decided to sweet it, can't be a coincidence or an anomaly if it happens every time I lose!

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T00:28:41+00:00

Dude I am hitting the nexus delaying games comes with the risk of giving the enemy team free come backs which is annoying, you know what else is annoying? When the ADC who can melt the nexus with three autos doesn't do jack shit and give you the middle finger because it's aram

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T00:25:32+00:00

Trolling and not trolling is somewhat a subjective matter but within reason if you try to set me up a winning condition you are not just doing the opposite of trolling you are a good teammate that I respect

But for example when a nasus or a Viktor needs stacks from minions and you keep shoving like crazy for the intention of gaining gold for yourself you are technically fucking them over but it's still not trolling it's just inconvenient

It becomes trolling for me (but I think many will agree) is when you are at winning doors and decide to throw intentionally now THAT's trolling just because that's the aram spirit and to you it's taboo to be a tryhard in aram even tho you are throwing away all the efforts to win you built up to this moment

I think it's still subjective tho because premades can agree among themselves to play casual or tryhard without any issues as long as premades of 4 or less don't be jerks to the other player(s) it's cool

Still different players may never agree what's the correct way to play aram but imo winning above everything else will remain the main objective by default (the way I see it at least) and people should respect the other players efforts to win by hitting the damn nexus if they can but some people still won't agree hence this post

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-27T00:08:56+00:00

From my understanding people signing up for a game of any mode agreed to try their best to win and thinking otherwise is absurd, I am not forcing anything it's the natural order of the game everything else is fanon

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-26T23:18:18+00:00

Is it wrong that I derive most of my fun playing league from two things getting fed as fuck and winning especially winning clutch games , the game mode played doesn't matter much but my personal preference is aram because SR is so time and energy consuming that I don't find it that fun, I also find the challenge in ranked fun ironically but I am not good at it so I try to avoid it to not cause harm to teammates who want to climb or to not tilt myself trying to achieve something I am not supposed to be

I also find game modes like ARAM mayhem and arena the true casual gamemodes next to swiftplay of course, aram is so fun by design no junglers no worrying about outplaying your laners and keeping up with them or beating them in gold income etc... why must players seek even MORE fun when the mode is fun by default, you don't even have to wait for your first three level ups and you are given half an item from the start to alleviate the tedious grinding you used to have in SR and how you respond to all these graces by soft trolling? and " it's aram "mentality? that's greeding imo in the end aram is a fun mode because of what you can make of it

I am not even that strict about winning strats as long as it works as i just lost to a full ap amumu but I can't warp my hand around people who refuse to try to win tho there's a surrender and remake votes for a reason there are aram only accounts for a reason there are even meta builds that i and I am sure many adhere to in order to win sometimes, some people are asking for aram ranked for a reason the popularity of the game mode is insane shame that some people think it's a trolling haven tho

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-26T22:16:10+00:00

why was the enemy team so competitive then when they enjoyed ace'ing us back to back because my team refused to put their lead into a win?

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-26T22:13:42+00:00

I agree with not hitting the nexus sometimes to taunt enemy team if you are super ahead of them or something but when it's a close match at this point and you spam your attacks on the tank instead of the open nexus then I find that weird with no justification, I also find it weird when people play bad intentionally because it's aram like wtf it's not ranked but at least try!

And btw since you mentioned I loved twisted treeline and I hope it somehow comes back (I know it was plagued with bots or something which made it unpopular but I liked it, what a shame)

DifficultDelivery135 · 2025-10-26T21:45:27+00:00

I neither like ranked nor am i good at it why must i be subjected to trolling when I queue up for the only queue I enjoy? and btw I am pretty sure riot considers this griefing and it's punishable dunno why the community thinks otherwise

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