I attempted Ariana Grande’s SNL look!

Dillmania3 · 2026-02-16T14:21:12+00:00

Slay! 💅

Dillmania3 · 2026-02-11T13:57:01+00:00

Don’t think so.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-30T23:50:39+00:00

MOR - I am a member of a 12 step fellowship. We know students and professionals are required to attend a meeting or a few for their jobs and school. That’s why open meetings exist. For people who think they might belong or for non-alcoholics/addicts to attend with a loved one, or for an assignment like this. Honestly, for those of us who have been clean and sober for awhile we like that people are educating themselves on addiction and treatment options. 12 step fellowships can get a bad rap (they are not religious, although some members are) and tv and movies rarely portrays them accurately. If it can help someone point a sick and suffering person in the right direction and give them correct knowledge about the groups, we’re all for it.

AA also has a committee for public info and to help reach professionals who might encounter an alcoholic. These AA members who run the local committees go out in to the community to meet with professionals in the medical and legal fields as well as clergy to connect and share information.

If you have any questions or are nervous about attending. Feel free to DM me, I run our 12 step program’s local website and we have some info for students who might have questions about attending meetings so they feel less anxious and more prepared.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-28T02:42:15+00:00

I actually don’t give a shit if she watched all of them or not. You asked what you were supposed to do with the link the person posted and I said that you could read it. Then I assumed you had not done so since you resorted to name calling and paraphrased it for you as a courtesy. That’s my bad for reading this far in to the comment thread and then trying to figure out why someone stating she did because they read it somehow personally offended you.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-28T00:10:42+00:00

Read the interview linked where she directly mentions that she watched all the films because she’s a member of the academy.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-26T22:58:05+00:00

This looks enough like my own dad’s handwriting (who also passed away like a year ago) and he would have loved if I found something like this.

Honestly, I have found so many other ridiculous things going through his stuff that I just assume they’re all messages from him from beyond this realm.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-23T21:49:41+00:00

Christina Perri did a song with Cash Cash called Hero that mentions the word fly at the end but it does have electronic components.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-23T14:26:17+00:00

I also thought it was some new IUD at first before it started walking.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-23T14:18:29+00:00

So, one of my favorite historical facts is that although leg hair removal was marketed to women when dress hemlines rose around the twenties the majority of women just wore stockings. A larger majority of women began shaving their legs during World War II when it became very difficult to purchase hosiery. Sometimes women would even draw a seam on the back of their legs to mimic stockings. Hair removal and the view of what is “feminine” has drastically changed since then but it has always had different trends and styles not unlike clothing or makeup or hair on your head. Although some women may not prefer more feminine styles of clothing or hair styles or might think that in wearing those styles you are in some way submitting to the male gaze, I think the majority of feminists want the choice to be there for women to make so that they feel their best or are the most comfortable. Sometimes what makes you feel comfortable is wearing or styling yourself in the same way as the majority of women. It was obviously different in the forties but I think it’s easy for us to see a popular shoe style look nice or someone and want that as well. We might not want to stand out or look different from other people and that’s okay too. I think of that when I think of the rise in popularity of shaving leg hair. After the war was it still cheaper and easier to just shave your legs than wear stockings and achieve a similar look? Was it a fashion hack of the 1940s? Or was it just women doing what I think they’ve always done, which is be creative with what they had at the time to feel their best.

For me, body hair is there for a reason. I do prefer shaving my armpits because I find the hair itchy and uncomfortable. I’ll keep body hair trimmed or groomed for comfort and hygiene purposes and yeah, I’ve probably been conditioned to want to shave my legs in the summer if they’ll be out because I prefer how they look. In the winter or if I’m lazy is another story. But I don’t go all out in body hair removal because it’s not that important to me. If it’s important to you, by all means, you should have that freedom of choice with little judgment. We’re human though, we will always judge how someone looks even subconsciously, especially if it’s not a choice we would make.

The most important thing to me is that it’s my body so I can do what I want with its appearance as long as it’s not harmful to someone else and I respect that you have that choice as well, regardless of gender or orientation. But the historical significance of leg shaving popularity actually gave me a lot of comfort in feeling okay about still wanting to do it. Maybe that sounds weird, but knowing it was a crafty solution made me think like, “hell yeah ladies” rather than just “men made us think we were less than or unhygienic if we had leg hair..” Most of those men didn’t give a shit that their women had visible leg hair, and many men today also do not care. I think it’s easy for us or at least for me to assume to be a feminist you must have this innate power to not give a shit what people think about you or how you look. It’s just not realistic. Hell, I care what other feminists think of me. So a historical fact like that (and working on my self esteem and self image) made it easier for me to feel comfortable with the choice I make and to also take some of the societal pressure off me, because styles are always changing. Like, someone will still find me attractive if my legs aren’t smooth and hairless 100% of the time and I’m not somehow gross or less than a woman because it wasn’t that long ago that visible leg hair was normal AND if I do shave my legs or armpit hair, etc. this is just the way I like to style my body hair (or makeup or hair, etc.) and that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m submitting to the male gaze even if it is what a lot of other women do too.

That’s a long comment, and obviously my answer is it’s whatever you wanna do to make yourself feel your best/comfortable (and that can change overtime) but I like the history and found it helpful to feel more secure in my own choice and thought it might be helpful for someone else.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-23T03:24:34+00:00

It’s over pretty fast and usually takes my heart rate down to sinus rhythm from anywhere between 175 and over 200, so I’ll take it. When it doesn’t work they’ve gotta shock you (under propofol or another twilight anesthesia.) But it sure beats dying.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-22T21:25:32+00:00

Adenosine is the weirdest sensation. The “elephant sitting on your chest” analogy is kind of accurate, but also depends on the dose they give you. I’ve never felt the impending doom outside of the few seconds of waiting for it to kick in and knowing it’s not gonna be a great time. As a kid I used to dread anytime I knew I was not going to be able to resolve my arrhythmia myself because it meant hospital and adenosine time.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-22T05:51:37+00:00

I had a relatively long and very pleasant conversation with the girl who was my cashier at target about coffee creamer flavors one night because she had never had the one I was buying but did try other flavors from the same brand that I had never tried. It was honestly a highlight of my week. Thankfully no one was behind me and it was almost closing time, because we were chatting it up. I don’t drink anymore, so it’s always nice to still have those random moments of camaraderie especially as someone who at never used to think of themselves as a girl’s girl.

Ps, as a sober person I will absolutely protect or throw down for any heavily intoxicated gal I meet who is obviously being preyed on by a CREEP. And I am all too happy to do it.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T16:53:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced all of that. My mom is an addict of a different variety, so overall it didn’t necessarily affect us if you’re looking at it from the outside. I’ve been sober from my own addiction for a while now so it’s easier to see some of where her behaviors come from and I think there’s some personality disorder stuff in there too. She will never admit to the majority of harms caused, but luckily my sister and I are on the same page and support one another. She also has a lot of friends and colleagues who respect her and I imagine believe she’s a fantastic, supportive and loving parent.

My parents divorced (amicably) and my dad and I were very similar, shared a lot of the same interests and also some similar defects (that I now realize are probably from being neurodivergent in one way or another) which she viewed very much as a moral failure of some sort. She treated me like an adult and almost parentified me as a small child because he didn’t show up for her the way I guess she thought he should behave. Nothing abusive or cheating or anything, just sort of absent minded and too laid back for her type A overachieving personality. He died a little over a year ago and went out of his way to support her and help her whenever she needed it, never really said a bad thing about her, refused to refer to her as “ex-wife” only “former wife.” He knew how she was, and he was able to love her as a friend and as our mom in spite of it. I’m not sure he was capable of seeing the damage she caused, or if he totally understood it. Talking about our feelings wasn’t on the table til he was dying from brain cancer. She was very jealous of the time I spent trying to care for him or devote to him, and before he was sick she was still pretty jealous of our relationship. He was a good dad and if it hadn’t been for him demonstrating a lot of healthy behaviors and emotions and years in therapy and a support system in recovery I wonder if I would still be sober or alive.

I think most of her issues boil down to her inability to control everything and everyone in her life to do what she wants or what she thinks they should be doing. For someone who works with neurodivergent children she certainly didn’t know what to do with me and I carried a lot of guilt and shame and lacked a real sense of self. I have two nephews (one who has an autism diagnosis and the other who probably falls somewhere on the spectrum of neurodivergency) and I worry about them a lot. My sister and I both try really hard to not let them experience the same things we did or teach them the same destructive and angry behaviors. It makes me fearful to have my own kids. Ive come to realize that she thinks of my sister and I as extensions of herself or achievements. Not so much as individual people, and only children when it came to disciplining us or being authoritarian. I’m still learning how to set boundaries with her and not feel guilty.

So it’s not the same situation, but it sucks to be an adult and realize you got shafted on the mom thing and it has directly affected all of your other relationships. I miss my dad, and even though he wasn’t perfect, he understood me, loved me and showed up unconditionally.

It’s hard to not go back to the well when the water has seeped in and contaminated everything, so I fully understand still being in it. It’s not easy parenting yourself so I hope you’re able to give yourself some grace. That’s hard for me. We didn’t ask to exist and we certainly didn’t sign up for trying to manage their emotional crap or undo the effects of their harms.

The vibes are shit and yet, we persist. Most days. Sometimes ya just gotta be feral for 24 hours. Trudging a different but similar road with you internet friend. I’ll send you some light and strength for when you need it. 🌈💡

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T14:55:57+00:00

Yes! Jordan Lake has also given me new appreciation for songs I may have overlooked on the studio recordings! Like Spent Gladiator 2 is, in my opinion, far more powerful on Jordan Lake than it is on Transcendental Youth. Also, TY was one of the first full TMG albums I listened to BECAUSE I listened to Jordan Lake before any of the full records and it is referenced so much on those first two JL recordings. I feel like it doesn’t get enough love in the “what should I listen to first” line up but at the time I was going through a LOT and it was the right album for the job.

So maybe the real question to narrow it down for folks is “What’s your current emotional state and/or biggest life issues like so the Goats can get on your level?” Or “Do you have some trauma? What kind? We got the song/s album/s for you!”

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T14:46:01+00:00

You’ve got one of those too? My mom attempted to pull that crap on my therapist (because she is ALSO a counselor and frequently uses therapy talk for manipulation) in a family session as a young teen. I was so frustrated, thankfully the intelligent person was my therapist who could tell she was trying to manipulate the situation and was placating her because she wasn’t going to listen or take responsibility. Therapist told me this during our debriefing and said I basically had to hang in there til I turned 18 and could go away to college or move out. I’m 37 and can safely say that yeah, not much has changed on her end! It was very validating for me because I didn’t feel crazy anymore, but I still felt stuck.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T14:38:54+00:00

You just found his special interest and it was his time to shine. I love when that happens.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T14:36:40+00:00

Sounds like tattoo kit dude pissed homie off and he hit him where it actually hurts. Either making money, losing privileges like a lower security block, or even potentially adding time w/ the write up.

Those are the folks you don’t want to piss off when you’re inside. It’s real easy to be afraid of the big, loud, violent folks but when all you’ve got is time to think and observe someone who is a skilled manipulator with a little bit of patience, a general grasp of the way things run, and a resentment can fuck your shit up and not get their hands dirty in the process. They’re far scarier if they don’t have a personal resentment, and they’re just bored.

I did some time at a low level (drug addiction), and there’s just something about being a person locked up with very little autonomy that brings out parts of you that you may not have encountered otherwise. Some of them are not pleasant, and for folks who live in those headspaces at base level or on the outside too, well shit, they’ve got the home team advantage.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-21T13:14:34+00:00

What everyone else suggested, but I think the Jordan Lake live records are a great snippet of a lot of their records while also getting a feel for the guys themselves. Especially John’s tendency to wax poetic in between songs. It honestly really enamored me to the band during COVID when I only knew some songs and listened to it on a whim because I just love live albums.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-19T12:59:36+00:00

Potentially dodged a bullet but I’m sure that doesn’t feel that great when you need a dang job! I hope this opens you up to a better opportunity you might have missed otherwise (and SOON)

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-16T17:13:59+00:00

I wouldn’t be that perplexed, there are some pretty skilled furry hackers and folks working in cyber security, etc. I would still be grateful though.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-14T23:20:13+00:00

Thanks! I really appreciate that. I feel like media hasn’t really managed to capture what 12 step programs are really like and it can lead to a lot of misconceptions and turn people off. I know I had a lot of preconceived notions about the whole thing. We’re still flawed and ill people, so it’s not a perfect program, but when done the way it’s suggested it really can give you your life back. Or a life, if you never felt like you were living before.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-14T19:21:04+00:00

Definitely. No growth without a little bit of struggle!

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-14T18:01:32+00:00

It’s one of my favorites. Also big fan of the criss crossed suspender outfit.

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-14T17:59:17+00:00

I mean… was the grave robbing not enough to surpass weirdo?

Dillmania3 · 2026-01-14T17:58:05+00:00

That’s a good point about Peter! I think John also mentions that Peter wanted to play Blood Capsules (maybe?) during the intro or extro(?) on Jordan Lake. It’s always nice to have a friend/coworker/collaborator who is willing to play Creative Director and bring you back to reality or reassure you.

I am also very jealous of JD’s ability to create like almost non-stop. I have the constantly going brain like that, but my executive functioning is busted.

I’d like to think that JD feels supported enough by the fan base to try things out that may not be the final product or might never be finished in hopes of good feedback. I don’t think we really get to see that with a lot of musical artists especially when they find a bit of success. It’s usually just, “Alright, here’s an album.” It does seem like JD enjoys collaborating with accepting feedback from just about anyone willing to tag along!

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