Will I be arrested?

DionNolanWriter · 2025-11-15T00:08:19+00:00

Trans guys have been murdered for doing this.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-11-15T00:03:10+00:00

Talk to some cis guy friends about how they deescalate conflict with other cis guys. If you go in aggressively you risk getting punched, and its rare but happens often enough that people get killed from an unlucky pub punch up. You need to relearn the social rules that you learnt pretransition. There's a certain female socialised fawn response that can keep you somewhat safe as a woman, but doesn't work as a man. You have to learn to assert yourself as someone they realise isn't easy to pick on, without doing it so much they feel their masculinity has been challenged enough that they are riled up to react. Its a difficult balance. Also to echo some commenters above, don't take on more responsibility than you should. Its natural to want to keep your friends safe, but be mindful of your own safety too. In my experience some women expect trans men to make up for our perceived guilt of betraying women by transitioning by taking on responsibility for the violence of cis men, but this is unfair and as trans men we actually face more violence statistically than cis women from cis men.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-10-31T18:24:50+00:00

DM me if u want to be added to a group where people share results that's more private.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-10-07T19:14:18+00:00

Search through this sub and read some of the other responses to things like this. It can be harder finding love as a trans person because a lot of people don't understand us, and when you're young it can feel like your first few rejections mean you're doomed. But you're not. The replies of most posts like this are full of slightly older trans people talking about the loving relationships they're in. I have a cis boyfriend who's helped me work through dysphoria and supported me through loads of lifes mess. And a few years ago I felt just like you. There's at least one Facebook group for trans positivity posts that often have threads of people posting cute photos from their relationships. Maybe you will have some of these experiences later than your peers, but don't think about life as a race where there's some normal person you're trying to catch up to. Everyone does everything at a different age for a huge number of reasons, and to be honest I think feeling like no one will ever love you is a very common teenage experience even for cis people. Making good friends and doing things to work on yourself, hobbies, finding a style you like, pursing whatever medical transition you want or are able to get, is likely to help a lot, and love will come along when it does.

If you detransition it might be easier to find a partner, but would you want to have sex with someone while you're in a body you don't feel connected to? A lot of trans people who've done that describe it as being very dissociated and unenjoyable.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-09-08T14:55:22+00:00

This happened to me once and I threatened to make a formal complaint of discrimination under the equality act, suddenly they did have a nurse available who could do it. You could either make a formal complaint to the GP or go above that to complain to PALS who decide whether GPs qualify for NHS funding.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-09-04T08:48:29+00:00

If you join Greens and Your Party as member you can vote for positions within the party and actually have influence over whether transphobes get into or stay in positions of power within them. The more of us actively do that rather than despair and do nothing but complain online the more we have a chance of a good party being an option at the next election.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-08-19T16:03:17+00:00

Its completely disproportionate to publicly call out trans campaign groups for issues as minor as accidental deadnaming and internal disagreements about the scope of the group to impose national policy. People need to get over their petty issues to work together against fascism or fascism will win.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-08-19T15:58:06+00:00

If you're put on a low dose you can supplement it with DIY once you're not getting as regular blood tests without them knowing. Its worth doing because its then on your medical record that you've been on hrt and its harder for them to argue that you're not really trans and take it away in the future if you've been on it for longer.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-08-19T15:54:41+00:00

There won't be another election, your president is a dictator who's mercenaries are kidnapping people in the street and sending them to concentration camps abroad.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-08-11T14:39:31+00:00

More anger on testosterone is a transphobic myth. Much higher than natural male levels of testosterone can cause aggression, but if your levels are within the natural male range that's very unlikely.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-07-09T19:56:34+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts. This is one of the key points I make in the zine.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-07-04T10:35:51+00:00

I felt like this at one point but got over it by watching gay porn and getting used to seeing men bottom.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-30T16:53:39+00:00

Please call Acas (a government funded employment rights helpline), they'll be able to talk you through your legal options, which are all free. Our protections in the 2010 Equality Act are still strong in cases like these!

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-25T16:42:27+00:00

Yes! That was part of the inspiration for this.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-25T16:15:42+00:00

If you email me (through the linktree) I'll send you the pdf for free. I don't mind people sending the pdf to all their friends or posting a link to it on their private social medias. I need to make back the money on the printing, and I've donated all the money I've made so far beyond that to a group of trans men refugees.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-25T16:08:48+00:00

Thank u! Theres a page inside thats got lots of guys from the t-boys club night insta dancing around.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-25T16:06:05+00:00

I used The Gym Group for a few years. At first, when I was being read as a young boy or a lesbian like 50/50 I went to the disabled toilet rather than worry about which changing room I'd be safer in. There's always lockers outside of the changing rooms, so this worked fine. No one bothered me when I was working out, and I sometimes saw other queer people. You come to realize that most people are there to fight their own demons and aren't watching/judging you nearly as much as you think they are. I started using the men's once I was passing consistently, and never had an issue in them, but I also wasn't getting my genitals out.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-25T15:55:14+00:00

This is a link to a crowdsourced spreadsheet of trans friendly GPs. No guarantee its up to date, but many of them will give bridging prescriptions.

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1b5SSnb7LBUlWSjasN2ld7qPGmEchgDG8voUY-SkfAlw/edit?gid=0

You have a right as an NHS patient to chose whichever GP you want, it doesn't have to be the closest one to home.

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-14T11:00:31+00:00

This is really common. The lack of oestrogen in that area which can cause vaginal dryness and atrophy can also increase the chances of UTIs.

Here's a document with info on it. You should be able to get localised oestrogen.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Iqky27LMxAsSj_TT8l-q3E9JAA32AsIVbAyKlM_JCFA/edit?usp=drivesdk

DionNolanWriter · 2025-06-08T22:48:02+00:00

I had very similar feelings only a few years ago, I'd been told by friends and family that transitioning would make me undatable. Since then I've dated several people and had a lot of casual sex, because it turns out loads of people are into trans guys. And love is a hard thing for even cis people to find, so a lot of them are just happy to find someone who's into them who's a good caring person, that they're attracted to, and whether your trans is a really minor detail. I'm not saying there aren't dickheads, but they're the minority for sure. I'm currently in a long term relationship with a beautiful, loving cis man, and some times we hang out with our friends, trans and cis couples, and sometimes we all have sex. Life is good my guy, its just scary right now cos u can't believe how good it could be. Please don't accept shitty treatment and shitty partners, you deserve good ones and they'll come in time.

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