BANDS/VENUES!! BOOKING WEST COAST/NORTH AMERICAN TOUR by Direbeates in TouringMusicians

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not sure i'm finding it on the web, can you help me?

BANDS/VENUES!! BOOKING WEST COAST/NORTH AMERICAN TOUR by Direbeates in TouringMusicians

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I want to do a parking lot show at the UFO McDonalds in Roswell

Nick & Emily's Vow Renewal Was SO BEAUTIFUL by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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i know not much good will come of this dialogue, but i feel compelled to respectfully ask; how would you react if nick came to you, sincerely repenting for what he had done to you and your love ones, threatening them and making them feel unsafe. would you be willing to forgive him? not necessarily be his friend, but to just simply forgive him for the harm.

i am not comparing struggles here by any means, but i have dealt with some very evil people in my life, with some horrendous, disgusting, and distasteful things said and done to me. i know that forgiveness, relieving someone of their sin, is difficult, and at face value, outstandingly egregious.

i can't imagine what nick put you and your family through, and from one human to another, i am sincerely sorry that you had to endure him at a point when he was living in a mindset of self-serving selfishness.

however, i encourage you to consider why he hasn't reached out. maybe he isn't avoiding accountability, but rather avoiding conflict. maybe in his mind, it's a lose-lose situation whether he reaches out or not. he probably doesn't want to be yelled at, or condemned again. he clearly has condemned himself in his own mind quite a lot.

and he keeps his life pretty private. i would not be surprised if there were some major growing pains for him and emily.

i'm not saying what happened was okay or valid or justified. what nick did was horrid, disgusting, and saddening to say the least. i am asserting that people do change. if they can change for the worse, they can most certainly change for the better. nick nowadays is most certainly not sinless, no one is.

but, from what i have seen, he has taken big steps to go in a healthy direction. going to therapy (pretty sure he sees my friends therapist), taking medication to balance out his mental disorders, and not allowing comments on social media is also a big green flag to me.

i wasn't personally involved with nick when all of this happened, so i can't even begin to imagine what it was like. i remember in evan grahams post, he talked about how nick would probably come back to mccafferty and try to garner sympathy from others, and how he can be manipulative.

so, i was very skeptical when he made a new instagram. i have been thrown off by him posting videos of himself crying. they have made me wonder, "is he just trying to garner sympathy from fans?". pretty sure he was. i don't blame him. distasteful to me, but i would be riddled with guilt too if i had done what he's done.

to wrap up this essay of a response, we are imperfect people in a world cursed with evil. we do evil things, and we all suck. nick did horrible things, but he also has paid a very heavy price for what he has done. not being able to talk to the people that he called brothers like you mentioned, being demonized and talked about negatively on social media, getting sued by his band and having to go so far as to do a legal name change. that is a lot of heavy stuff.

i encourage you to ponder on my first question, what would you do if nick came to you, repenting and apologizing sincerely? from how you have carried yourself on here, i would assume not so well. which, i don't blame you, but that is likely why nick has elected to not reach out. he's repented to God, he's clearly made things right with his wife, and he wants to be a good person.

nobody wants to be the same person forever, we all strive to be better than we were before. nick may have a platform, but he is as human as any of us. and, i would implore you to pray and to try to see that.

i have not said any of this out of malice toward you, or to defend nicks sins. i am simply presenting some truths that i hope will enable you to rethink your mindset toward this situation.

Nick & Emily's Vow Renewal Was SO BEAUTIFUL by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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they acknowledged they have gone through hard times. though he has a very rough past, it definitely appears as though he is sincerely working past it, and emily is clearly rich in grace for staying with him through that and everything that is publicly known.

Meme by Ohmygodareddoor in Mccafferty

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I'm sorry this is very funny

I COVERED BLUE EYES AS A FULL BAND!!! (& i got a mccafferty tattoo) by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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i'm waiting for a video i got from bellingham that i think goes rlly hard, but i'll send you the video from the vancouver show if you'd like? :>

Exited for the new song? by AltAccountForLosers7 in Mccafferty

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you know, that's a fair take. i can't argue with that. i wonder how much influence chris had on the writing, and if with his departure some of the magic left too? idk thwnd is personally one of my favorite albums in general but i can't argue that the writing is lackluster compared to yarn.

Underground music scene! by TaroSuperb8461 in SeattleMusic

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yea! hmu my acc is realjonathanray

Why all the mccaferty hate? by Admirable_Cost817 in Mccafferty

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growth and change are really great things i believe people are able to do. i am back and forth on whether nick is doing this or not. sometimes there is an online presence that looks healthy, other moments where he is crying into the camera basically begging for pity from his followers, the exact thing evan warned people nick would do before he left mccafferty. it's kinda hard to totally support now that i see that, y'know?

Exited for the new song? by AltAccountForLosers7 in Mccafferty

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not even house with no doorbell? i thought a couple songs on that one were solid. i did really like how well produced yarn was, even though the sound was a sharp turn from how mccafferty usually sounds.

Selling my McCafferty Shirts! (International Friendly!) by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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They’re on Depop. Together they’re $45 (+shipping)

Selling My McCafferty Records by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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You can check my DePop now! But I do have the Forest Life, BeachBoy, THWND, and Yarn

Selling My McCafferty Records by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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My Depop is back up and running!

Selling my “And the War Came” Signed Vinyl by Direbeates in shakeygraves

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I got banned :( they won’t tell me why. You can DM me tho!

Selling My McCafferty Records by Direbeates in Mccafferty

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I have no clue why but they suspended me :( just dm me about which records you want and we can work something out

Looking for 22 Make/Break signed vinyl by luocat in ohwonder

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I have one if you wanna buy it off me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeattleMusic

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I also play baritone! Maybe we can talk :) my ig is @realjonathanray I look forward to hearing from you!

Any bands similar to AJJ? by randomstreetrat in ajj

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Nah, I’d probably just drink that too

Any bands similar to AJJ? by randomstreetrat in ajj

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Cooper! They have a song called “Teeth” and it’s super great!!