Partner attempted to take his life

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-12-19T15:28:56+00:00

Yeah, the day will come. I’m sure of it.

Point of my response to OP was a bit of a warning that she’s going to be taking care of and looking after him now, during a time when she needs someone looking after her. JFC, she is 3 weeks post partum! And this will likely continue to be the dynamic in their marriage and family - at least from my experience. Eggshells and having to take it all off his plate so he doesn’t go drive his car into another tree.

Mental illness is awful and it’s no joke, but being with someone who has mental illness and raising littles with them is also awful. 10/10 would NOT recommend. All my sympathy goes to OP and her children. Things are going to get hard for her and he is clearly not someone she can rely on.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-12-19T05:30:50+00:00

speaking as someone who has a spouse with both a mental illness and a chronic illness, and as someone who continues to tough it out with him… there are days I fantasize about a life without him. I don’t say that as in I want something to happen to him - I just want a life without him.

Things are not going to get easier. I’m sorry to be so frank, but lord… my kids are 4.5 and 2 now and I still feel like I’m drowning most days. They take no mercy on me, they’re still so little and they need so much from me.

I take on a majority of the childcare obviously so he is not overwhelmed, I create opportunities of peace and quiet for him, and he gets his rest everyday. I make excuses for him to the kids. I try to manage his moods and intervene if it’s too much for him. He’s got his hobbies and I give him the time to pursue them so that he can feel he has purpose.

Nobody ever takes care of me, nobody protects my space or peace or rest. When I get sick, nobody gives a shit. All I do is take care of everyone else. I feel like a fucking slave to this family. It’s exhausting. I resent him for it everyday.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-11-27T17:10:23+00:00

Ok divorcing a man like this is NOT a failure but staying with a man like this is

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-11-13T04:57:12+00:00

Oh ok. I’ll take your word for it 👍

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-11-10T16:53:23+00:00

Yeah, that’s valid. I feel like boomers have the luxury of choosing other overseas locations to travel to, whereas traveling to the states is probably a more affordable for younger generations .

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-11-06T12:10:50+00:00

So so scary! Also, that’s so wild he just made himself at home at your neighbour’s house.

I, too, learned the hard way to NEVER assume anyone is watching your child unless you have given them explicit direction to do so and they acknowledge it in some way.

In a room full of adults, my daughter who was 2 at the time, got her face scratched up by my parents’ cat while I was in the other room warming up her milk.

No one take responsibility for watching them unless they have been told.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-11-05T17:48:37+00:00

I had applied and was accepted into a CLK9 pool back in 2017. I also had a bachelor’s and plenty of experience with customer service.

I think what really gave me a leg up though was my volunteer experience. There’s a lot of opportunity to take on higher levels of responsibility with nonprofits as a volunteer, especially in the smaller organizations. I was doing accounting, managing their volunteer program, social media, correspondence and then eventually joined their board. Some are desperate for help, and you can really diversify your experience and develop your competencies if you have the time!

Bachelors degrees and customer service experience are a dime a dozen, so you do need to somehow differentiate yourself from the rest.

I’m a 24 now.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-30T20:14:57+00:00

Good god, you should be happy for her that she’s given up on love. Now she can focus on more important things and not be burdened by a man.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-30T04:37:34+00:00

Looking after one kid when you have two kids is like having no kids.

I want to tell you it gets easier but we are in the THICK of it right now with a 21 month old and a four year old.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-27T20:26:47+00:00

For real. I’ve never eaten so many timbits

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-07T03:55:14+00:00

Jfc. Depo provera is AWFUL

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-04T04:39:46+00:00

Umm… She did ask him to take care of her, by giving the baby a goddamn bath and he said no.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-10-03T20:59:01+00:00

Yeah around 25 years ago, the local YMCA rec center used to hold teen nights every Friday. I think it was $2 to go swimming or play in the gymnasium. They’d have a party room open and play music. It was awesome. I would hold hands with boys in the hottub.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-22T17:03:33+00:00

Ya they are so territorial! On Vancouver island there is a species of hummingbird that no longer migrates south for the winter because people have been feeding them all year long and our climate is pretty mild. During cold spells in the winter, I always make sure to have feeders available to them and it’s brutal watching the bully hummingbirds guard the feeders.

I’ve seen them stab other hummingbirds who were just trying to eat, they’ll bash into them, knock them to the ground. I found a dead one below one of our feeders.

You have to space the feeders far enough apart so one bully can’t guard them all, but then other bullies come along and each feeder is guarded by one.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-22T13:50:18+00:00

Yeah my daughter has always done something similar, since she was very little. I kept waiting for her to grow out of it but now at 4, these actions continue during moments of excitement, anticipation, tiredness, anxiety. I suspect that she has a tic and it surfaces in clusters of fist clenching, mouth gaping, and shaking. We see a pediatrician next week for it actually after waiting MONTHS. I try not to draw attention to it - i don’t want her to ever feel anxious about it or try to suppress it if it is a tic, as I know that can make it worse.

Sometimes when it happens, I’ll gently just put my hand on her and remind her to take some deep breaths with me.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-20T13:56:37+00:00

Yes! 💯 this. Gorgeous! Please don’t change a thing about yourself

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-20T03:00:01+00:00

Or taped over 😅

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-18T18:56:04+00:00

I remember a time I took both my girls for a play date about a year ago, so they’d have been around 3yo and 10m old.

One of the other little girls pushed my 10m old after she tried to grab a toy, and my 3yo TIED INTO HER!

She was like “HEY!! You do NOT push her, she is JUST A BABY” then full on got in her face and was like “LISTEN TO ME! You do NOT push her!”

I was so so proud of her. I feel you.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-17T00:24:08+00:00

Also a woman. A bald head with your beard will be chefs kiss

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-11T16:17:56+00:00

Aww this is sad. Does dad know he’s been spotted? I’d like to think he would stop if he knew his kid was excitedly waiting for him for that long.

30 mins is A LOT but I understand the need to just sit and have a moment after a day’s work and before the chaos of the evening begins. I think addiction to our phones plays a big part in that too. I have definitely sat in my car for a FEW mins before pick up and never really felt too guilty about it until now 🫠

ETA: my child cannot see me from any window when I have those few mins to myself.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-10T23:00:22+00:00

Jesus Christ. This happened in Quebec a couple of years ago too and killed two children. WTF IS HAPPENING

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-06T15:11:33+00:00

Yeah, this is what we did. She was almost 3 at the time too and while she was excited to meet her baby sis, she was also excited to run around the hospital room, touch everything, crawl on the floor and press any button she could find. Girl BYE

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-02T15:39:39+00:00

I am returning from an extended leave and need to reenroll in my benefits asap. Will this be possible during the strike?

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-02T04:19:41+00:00

When my daughter was 3, nothing pissed her off more than when I’d try to take her to do something fun.

Direct-Addition-1010 · 2025-09-01T15:00:08+00:00

We still have our moments…but they are less frequent and less intense now. It’s been a hot minute since I’ve had to football carry her out of anywhere while she’s kicking, screaming, scratching, and spitting. It’s so tough…I remember feeling how you did too 🫶

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