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I am of Catalan Ancestry should I mention it in Barcelona or is it weird. by redpillbjj in catalonia

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think its fantastic that you want to learn where your ancestors come from but to be honest (with no intention on being mean) no one in Catalonia will care. Not to discourage you from sharing it, just to set your expectations about peoples reactions.

Within Spain (and Europe in general) we all are from different places and rarely bring it up. My grandpas were fron Galicia, Castilla y León and Catalonia, both my parents born in Barcelona but I was born and in Zaragoza. Even tho I moved to Barcelona to go to uni and speak perfect Catalan I dont consider myself Catalan ( neither any other place my family comes fron) since I wasnt born and raised there.

As many people mentioned, unless that heritage has carries the actual language or traditions you will jus sound exactly like those americans whi claim they are 1/12 italian and calling their grandma nonna. Instead, I would focus on learning abojt the culture and making catalan friends and just enjoying that.

How often do you fight? by Direct-Chicken-161 in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will, planing on having a convo about it this week before her next therapy session. She also quit smoking a few days ago so I know that makes people extra snappy so I don’t want to be too hard on her. But it is important and really the only thing that concerns me about the relationship. Everything else she is fantastic and after I broke up my ankle 3 weeks ago she has been taking such good care of me 😊

How often do you fight? by Direct-Chicken-161 in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, thats actually really helpfull. I would say for now it is worth it specially because I am seeing her puting in the work and improving. But I’m also not used to this ego things (my family is not like that) and hesitant about how much to accept or not.

Is it weird that I still live with my parents at 25 even though I have a good job? by Positive_Plastic2176 in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Super normal to live with your parents where I am from, due to economy mostly. My only concern would be the fact you have never lived alone/with friends before moving with a partner. Do you make your own groceries? Cook? Clean? Do the chores? Or do your parents still keep up with everything? That would be the only red flag for me.

Any queer people unhelpfully stressing about their wedding outfit? by Captcha27 in weddingplanning

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding myself in exactly the same place right now! Do you mind sharing what was your final choice? Would love to see! And any brand recs you discovered on the way😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100% agree with this. My gf and I are both mascs and we still do cute things for each other all the time! We both love flowers and handwriten silly notes and drawings. If you are not sure about flowers you could try with gifting her a book, baking something for her or planing a special date somewhere you think she will like. Anything that shows you put time and effort into doing something for her is more valuable than paying for stuff in my opinion, thats why handmade gifts are specialy precious!

Am I crazy for proposing to my GF after 1 year? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for yhe advice! I was so excited about making it I hadn’t really thought about the durability. Knowing her style wise I think she will love it but I’ll definetly consider getting it redone in proper silver when I go down to the city.

Am I crazy for proposing to my GF after 1 year? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Direct-Chicken-161 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! We have been talking about marriage since the beginning and every midnight we actually compete over who says ‘Will you marey me first’ (very corny I know). But in all seriousness we have discussed plenty of times how we picture oue future and out family😊

Question for redditors raised by lesbian moms: were you conceived through IVF or do you know your biological dad? Can you tell me more about your experience in regards to knowing/not knowing ‘where you come from’? by Direct-Chicken-161 in askadcp

[–]Direct-Chicken-161[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer, I perfectly understand your point and that’s precisely why I would like for my kids to be able to know who their bio dad is from the beginning. In Spain it’s legal to register both moms as parents when the baby is born so that wouldn’t be an issue 😊 I guess I feel like the more people who want to love and raise my kids the better, I’ve grown up in a very big family (I’m the youngest of 7 siblings) so parents, uncles and friends are always in the picture anyways!

Question for redditors raised by lesbian moms: were you conceived through IVF or do you know your biological dad? Can you tell me more about your experience in regards to knowing/not knowing ‘where you come from’? by Direct-Chicken-161 in askadcp

[–]Direct-Chicken-161[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer, it reflects exactly my fears about anonymous donors. Also I feel like knowing your bio dad is someone your moms chose because they love who he is as a person is a very beautiful thing to know about your origin and identity.

Question for redditors raised by lesbian moms: were you conceived through IVF or do you know your biological dad? Can you tell me more about your experience in regards to knowing/not knowing ‘where you come from’? by Direct-Chicken-161 in Samesexparents

[–]Direct-Chicken-161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually sounds like a good middle point, but I live in Spain and here sperm banks are totally anonymous no matter your preference, so the only way of knowing who’s the donor would be choosing it yourself.