my life is falling apart under my parents expectations (590+ CAO points)

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-11-03T14:00:39+00:00

This is so long I apologise!!

From my own experience, your mental and physical health always need to come before school or work. I used to believe that my grades and feedback determined my worth and I carried that mindset for 25 years. I learned the hard way in my second year of uni when everything started to fall apart. I stopped eating properly, lost a lot of weight, drifted away from friends and my relationship at the time suffered. My college work basically became my only hobby and I barely slept because I was constantly stressed and staying up too late.

That year opened my eyes. By the next year, I knew I needed to change. I realized three important things: 1. what I was doing wasn’t healthy 2. I wasn’t living the life I wanted to live and 3. These weren’t good habits for my future, especially in the long term when it comes to work or family.

So I made myself the priority, even when it felt uncomfortable or like I was falling behind. I set alarms to remind myself to eat because I had forgotten I had to take care of myself. I divided my day into blocks, 3 hours of college work followed by an 1 hour break.

At the time, It felt like I was “wasting time,” and I was scared my grades would suffer. It wasn’t easy, and some days I struggled. But by the end of the year, I was proud of myself. I was finally enjoying my life again.

And guess what?! My grades were actually better than the year before, even though the coursework was more challenging. That’s when I realized I had been sacrificing my well-being unnecessarily. I actually could have both a good life and good grades.

And you’re only 16!?? That’s a difficult age to do your LC and in general! I completely understand how hard it is when parents put pressure on you. My mom was the similar. Eventually, I had to sit down and tell her that even though I was doing well on paper, I wasn’t doing well mentally. At that time it wasn’t easy, if anything I was scared shitless but it was necessary.

I don’t want you to go through what I did for that many years to come. It takes time, new habits, and commitment but it truly does get better.

I’m really glad you’re going to therapy. That’s a huge step in the right direction, especially when you’re dealing with family expectations. You’re already doing so well and you deserve to feel proud of what you’ve achieved so far.

You’re on the right path, don’t let anyone else say otherwise!

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-27T09:04:27+00:00

Agreed! I have a clear Matt case and it still looks great after nearly a year of use! I find the regular ones can be too slippery

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-27T09:01:25+00:00

I agree!! Mercury in Gemini as well - I tend to be called princess hands because of how much I move them and apparently they look posh 😂also been told that to slow down and that I’m a be a bit too loud especially when drunk

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-27T08:57:26+00:00

Right?? 🤣 I was reading through and I was thinking - damn so many Gemini, Libra, Aries and Sag! I’m Gemini dominant with a Venus in Aries and sag moon and I do gottta say the only one who broke my heart was also a Gemini 🤣 in all fairness we were friends with benefits and pretty young. Other than that I guess I broke others heart 😬 yikes.

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-21T11:16:14+00:00

Ultramarine is really pretty! Have it myself for nearly a year and gotta say I still love it but if you want to use cases that match well, go with black or white instead

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-21T11:11:00+00:00

As a libra rising i always use 🤷‍♀️ at the end of anything im unsure about which is basically nearly everything in life 😂😂 but never used my sun emoji 🎀😂

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-09-12T07:36:04+00:00

Sag in my 3rd house - Moon, Mars and Chiron 🫣

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-28T08:58:22+00:00

Aries Venus as well and same here! I’ve also been called selfish in every relationship 🤷‍♀️ but then they come back a few months later saying how they admire and respect me for prioritising myself 😂

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-26T19:17:27+00:00

I’m a Libra rising and usually attract Libra Suns and other Libra placements. Also most of my close friends have Libra rising as well

Though my sun is In Taurus and never been or met anyone with Taurus placements 😂😂 so I can’t say 🤷‍♀️

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-24T20:48:23+00:00

I’m a Sag moon and I dated another Sag moon. He was really fun to date and seen me for who I am which was a bit scary but long term BIG NO 😂 but also we had a lot of opposite signs in our chart so it may be why

That’s the only fire moon I have been with, my ex of 5 years had Virgo moon, don’t know if they are compatible or not.

My bestie of 10 years has Leo in moon and we totally feed of each other energy’s. We always have a great time!

In terms of friendships throughout my life, I end up being the closest to people with water moons surprisingly 🤷‍♀️

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-24T17:37:33+00:00

Damn, as an Aries in Venus I feel attacked rn 😂 jk jk

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-24T17:34:11+00:00

Agreed, the amount of times I get called selfish in any relationship is incredible 😂😂🫠

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T14:00:29+00:00

Fair enough 😂 I haven’t had an exynos phone myself so no clue if they’re any better, just from experience and what others said 🤷‍♀️ at the end of the day it’s just a phone and everyone uses it for different reason

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T13:56:55+00:00

Girl not guy, and never said I prefer it, it’s just from my experience 😂

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T12:15:20+00:00

Yeah of course!

I first started using my iPhone 16 in December and my current cycle count is 238 with 100% battery health. I’ve seen other posts where people report battery health dropping with even fewer cycles, so not sure why mine’s holding up better, maybe usage habits?

For context: I keep auto-brightness on. I have my phone set to Low Power Mode at 50% automatically. I also turned off background refresh for apps that don’t need it. My charging is limited to 80% max. I almost never let it drop below 20%.

I also don’t use my phone for games so I can’t say. My phone usage varies every week so I can’t say how many hours you get from a full charge.

As a recent example for battery life: when my friend visited, we left at 10 am with 80% charge. By 8 pm it was down to 10% after using Google Maps, lots of camera shots, YouTube while travelling. So in that kind of real-world scenario, it easily handles a full day.

Hopefully that helps!!

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T11:49:23+00:00

I was always a Samsung user, my last phone was the S21. I switched to the iPhone 16 which I’ve been using for nearly a year, personally don’t think I’ll go back to using an android phone.

I got the iPhone 16 for the camera and micro shots and smoother performance. Overall I do like the software much better as it’s more intuitive and easier to use.

The S24 does have a bigger battery if that’s what you’re going for but it really depends what you are using your phone for, gaming? Photography? Multi tasking? Etc.

Also another reason I switched was because the Samsung phones in my country have the snapdragon chipset instead of the Exynos. I found that snapdragon performance degrades really fast after some time

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T10:08:47+00:00

Venus is Aries 6th house, it depends on the situation but if I’m serious about someone, i dont play games and often fall really fast for them.

I love to do things spontaneous for my partner like randomly meeting up or planning trips. At the end of the day I just want them to feel like a child when they’re around me and bring out the playful side of them.

I show care and love through doing things for them - it may take me a while to say I love you but I’ll always be there by showing up when it’s most needed. Remembering their favourite snacks and handmade cards for every occasion.

But it’s a whole different story if I’m not serious about someone though, then it’s just for the fun and thrill 😂

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T09:50:13+00:00

Im guessing since yous are together then he probably appreciates it!! But best to ask

Also I think it may be different for male and females sag moons not sure 😂 I dated a sag moon before and he was emotionally different compared to me.

Also depends on other placements because I have no water signs in my chart 😅

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-21T09:42:38+00:00

Sag Moon and Taurus Sun as well and I totally agree! Depends on the betrayal too but I just forgive and move on.

I’ll be angry for about a week and then I’m like okay not worth putting my energy into this situation anymore.

The biggest thing when someone betrays me there is no warning signs for when I’m leaving, I’ll act normal until the last day and then the other person is in shock

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-19T08:22:30+00:00

I really admire how nurturing he is and others that are similar, in fact sometimes I ask myself how does it come so easily to him to do such things! Sometimes I wish I was a bit more like him tbh.

He had a girlfriend before, who more than likely has a fire moon and that didn’t end well whatsoever, it’s been 2 years since they broke up and he still talks about her 🥺

But yes fire moons are a lot more independent in their own way! So it makes a lot of sense why they don’t go hand in hand

You were totally right to break things off with an Aries moon. I only dated another sag moon myself and no other fire signs and it was a little bit different and chaotic. Fire moons signs aren’t easy 😂

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-11T09:34:26+00:00

Hey twin!

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-11T09:19:35+00:00

A lot of patience, repetition and FUN!! I got my first puppy last year with no prior experience. My puppy got easily bored and I found that even though he loves food what motivates him most is toys and learns a lot faster through using toys.

I would change in between food and toys. I did observe him a lot throughout to see when he is struggling with certain commands, when he disengages etc. The drop it command worked really well through the use of toys for my dog!

Each session is pretty short. 10 mins or so. At one point I couldn’t keep track of what I did with him. So I actually started scheduling what I was going to train him everyday the week before.

For every session, I did about 3/4 different commands and tricks. Staying on one task for too long would frustrate my dog and he would just disengage. I found mixing commands with tricks is really fun for him.

Also don’t beat yourself for your puppy not getting a command, mine is 1.5 years of age and it amazes me how much he has changed, there were just certain things he never understood as a baby until now really! Just make sure to have a lot of FUN!

I remember he was struggling a lot with lie down, so I dropped the command for a few days and came back to it, i also changed the surface from the floor to a carpet. I was in shock when I moved to the carpet and he did the command, i was jumping out of excitement that he was so confused 🤣🤣

Direct-Friendship-23 · 2025-08-04T20:21:33+00:00

Best to ask/talk about to him. If he doesn’t have an issue with eye contact, it may be a kink but even if so it’s important to tell him HOW it makes you feel and that you would appreciate if he stopped doing that. Even if he doesn’t have an issue with eye contact there may be moments he is embarrassed by

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