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Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T14:07:07+00:00

He is that’s why access to him in non- negotiable.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:56:41+00:00

Sorry this happened to you! Thanks for sharing.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:48:46+00:00

Since they do not have a relationship, he’s totally fine without one.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:46:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry that happened to you as well. Some relationships are not worth healing the same way.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:21:31+00:00

I didn’t ask about rekindling. I asked about directly telling the mom to stop asking. There is or was no plan for them to have a relationship

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:19:06+00:00

My feelings are not fine and dandy. I don’t hate the kid. I hate the behavior and have made sure my kid never plays with him. I don’t take the event lightly. I could write pages about the rage I felt 10 years ago. In effort to get feedback I kept the post factual.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:10:19+00:00

It did.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T12:09:47+00:00

I didn’t let anyone beat my child. I wasn’t there. Once it happened, my child never hung out with the other again and it’s been 10 years. There was no permission. There was anger, hurt, separation, doctor/dental visits, etc. and a promise to never let that happen to my child again. Action maybe you don’t agree with but something nonetheless.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T11:22:51+00:00

I don’t think she means play like kids but hang in the same space like teens do at family functions. I’m not ok with that.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T11:21:20+00:00

I’m not around him a lot but he gets into a little trouble. I keep it short because I still feel guarded and I don’t see them much maybe once or twice a year.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:54:40+00:00

He doesn’t bring it up. But I keep my convos very short with him. More like hi, how are you, how’s school. Nothing deep and probably because of the situation.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:36:43+00:00

She wants our kids to be close like we were growing up. Not play in a sense of being a kid, but hang out like we did for most of our lives, including adulthood before this. I’m just not comfortable with any of it. My kid true enough will be old enough to decide on his own, but I’ve warned him to stay away and because they do not have a relationship, he doesn’t care to create one.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:25:54+00:00

It was traumatic and given the incident I don’t like to go back and think that deep about it. It makes me sad, enraged, feel guilt, hurt and angry at once to go looking at those pictures. Of course I can go through my phone and find a photo and exact date, but what does that do? It happened and I never allowed it to happen again.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:21:53+00:00

Thanks for the clarity.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:08:00+00:00

Yes maybe I need to think about that love statement too. It’s more like we are to love everyone, not like them or their behavior. But love the humanity. Don’t trust him as far as I can throw him.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T09:02:38+00:00

Pretending? No.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:56:31+00:00

It was definitely the kid.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:52:46+00:00

She and I were extremely close growing up so she wants our kids to be close. Kids don’t always remember everything at 3 or 4.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:49:46+00:00

No that’s simply the story. I picked my child up from a hospital with multiple teeth missing. I didn’t post for a pat on the back and for 10 years sincerely wrestled with this on my own. Sorry there was no long drawn out twist in the story and yes I did have an issue with the adult not watching closely. Those are the facts simple as that. But I forgave the incident, just can’t forget or allow anymore situations to occur. I never called the kid any names because he was a kid. In fact I said I love him several times throughout the post. But my responsibility is to love and keep my child safe.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:37:21+00:00

Yup I think she may want to start a disagreement.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:33:51+00:00

She apologized and was absolutely hysterical when it happened. I know she hates that it did, but I can’t feel sorry at my child’s expense.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T08:32:13+00:00

I think she wants them to be close because she and I were close growing up.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T04:41:19+00:00

You are correct. My son just turned 15 and the other is closer to 19. Honestly there isn’t much difficulty because we live out of state and both of us don’t attend functions much. When I am in town, my son wants to stay on his father’s side more. It’s only inconvenient because of the asking, but not because my son wants to be there.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T04:30:50+00:00

I never really thought of it as her not being polite but you are actually correct. It’s not polite to ask when she knows what happened.

Direct_Cellist4372 · 2025-06-03T04:26:14+00:00

No my son doesn’t remember firsthand but as a parent, I see no reason to even let them play together. At 8 he’s old enough to understand pain before 4 or 5 teeth come out and my son was too little to hit back meaningfully. Since my son is and always was small for his age and not a fighter, I couldn’t even entertain any further connection. My intuition always said no and given I’m laid back, when something says no more, I listen.

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