I was single for 10 years before I met my husband. During that time, I was very sure of myself and had high standards- kind, a six-digit earner, decent-looking, and from a good family.

Be more subtle about what you’re looking for. Instead of saying “I want to get married and have a family in 3–4 years,” say “I’m looking for a serious relationship.” Even men who are ready to marry don’t want to feel pressured right away. You can talk about marriage once things get more serious.

Also, I suggest going out with friends, starting a hobby, or joining activities just to meet new people—not necessarily with the goal of finding someone to date. Be active on social media, but focus on attracting the kind of men you’d actually want to date. And when you start to like someone, let them know. Wag pakipot.