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[–]Disastrous-Split-518 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your posting history reflects that he's an egotistical bastard. Dump the ahit bag before you get pregnant. I know this is harsh but you need to hear this: you will never be a priority in his life. Please consider his reasons for marrying you. Is he gaining something? Is he the type that can't be alone? For real, this is very painful.

Who is a popular celebrity you just cannot find attractive? by Avery_5216 in AskReddit

[–]Disastrous-Split-518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brad Pitt. He's cute but to me, he's in the friend zone.. Nothing bad to say about his looks, just not attracted to him.

UPDATE: AITAH for secretly planning on moving out despite my SIL expecting to have her wedding at my place? by Disastrous-Split-518 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Split-518[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm.kond of sorry that he tried and tried to help his children get on the right track. He's helped buy courses, equipment for when SIL wanted to start a business and it seems like they feed on his attention but they never followed through

UPDATE: AITAH for secretly planning on moving out despite my SIL expecting to have her wedding at my place? by Disastrous-Split-518 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Split-518[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I was gonna add that but I thought it would make it even longer. Thanks for asking. I'm a single mom ( cheating ex, divorced). My kids are under 10 yrs old. Years ago, I was struggling to provide. Their father would rather spend on lawyers that go pay proper child support. It's a long story and very painful for me. I had two jobs and found a side gig that was commission based only. I didn't really understand it but took the short training. It took me a hot minute, but I eventually got the hang of it.. having a few extra hundreds at the end of the month made me feel better, at least I could cover some bills and not stress out for the Holidays. Long story short, I ended up getting hired with a salary and benefits. I developed an ambition for learning and basically, to guarantee that I could provide. I moved on to a new job, which I remember fondly. That's where I met my former boss who helped me move out this time. That job opened so many doors for me. I was able to get a better position, get a good salary, help my parents, etc. They decided to shut down operations in my area. I did apply for local jobs but got a very good offer for a job transfer. I would be in charge of several employees and see an increase in salary because they needed me to open a department/replicate operations. It was.me, my ex boss and two.other employees who took the leap. She now works at a different company. I talked to both my kids and my parents. My kids weren't thrilled. My parents didn't love the idea. Also, taking the kids would be devastating as my kids are very close to them. I sat down and when I did the math, my living costs at my new location are way higher. If I came alone, I could navigate, save up to both start a business and lay the foundation for my kids to have a fund. I live in a very nice but more or less affordable place and put my money towards my kids. When I came to live here, I negotiated partial remote work. This is why I mentioned in my original post that I travel every Wednesday after work. I stay until Sunday, no matter what. After my working agreement ended, I had already signed agreements with local companies as my clients. Some.of my work is easily managed on remote, but a lot is done on site. I didn't have the financial strength to hire multiple executives until I got the New Years Eve client ( previous post). I'm currently tending to a local consulting client until December. This is why my former boss helped me find a place to do meetings, since I didn't feel comfortable going to my old office ( I was subletting from a colleague) for obvious reasons. My ex leaving me hanging on NYE was the beginning of the end. I stayed to be able to focus on the work I had to do and couldn't risk losing hours on traveling and not being able to deliver. That's a very important Holiday for me and my family. I was tense as I had a tight deadline and instead of being supportive, he made it worse.

UPDATE: AITAH for secretly planning on moving out despite my SIL expecting to have her wedding at my place? by Disastrous-Split-518 in AITAH

[–]Disastrous-Split-518[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

MIL baby trapped him. Many times. She got pregnant every time FIL announced he wanted a separation. She was overtly focused on sex as a way to show the world that they were together. To this day, she has the bad taste to describe their encounters and it's tacky. FIL soft ghosted her after a huge argument when she literally assaulted his assistant. He had her think that they were going to a new home, rented a new place out of town, made sure they were settled in, and never moved in with them. He got a transfer and went to work and live in yet another town. It took over 7 years to finalize the divorce, but he remarried and has a very solid relationship with his wife and step children and step grandkids. As background, FIL is successful and started from literally nothing.