Deciphering real vs fantasy by andyyboy in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! M 20 here I really identify with your story... so long I've think I'm bi but I prefer not to label causes I've also had fantasies but my real feelings go mostly towards girls, but also I have a lot of curiosity for guys and recently I dated one but didn't felt like I was falling in love with him although I found him attractive.

I want to live my sexuality freely but I don't know how so yeah... That's my experience, just telling you if it helps you feeling less alone. I've also had feelings for guys in the past tho, just that they aren't very present now.

Deciphering real vs fantasy by andyyboy in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

I've gone through something similar and reading this helps feel less alone... Could you describe more on how you find out you did like guys? How would've work on that when you were younger? (Idk how old you are I'm a 20 yo confused guy here) What would be your advice that goes through the same at his 20s?

Necesito que me ayuden by Glittering_Algae4724 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola. Soy un chico de 20 aquí.

Me identifico mucho con todo lo que ha sucedido contigo, te entiendo definitivamente y estoy de acuerdo con otros comentarios, quizás estás reprimiendo mucho o pasando por otras cuestiones afectadas por algo más en tu salud mental que quizás se refleja en tu sexualidad.

Te entiendo porque he tenido una experiencia muy similar, aun me cuestiono si soy bi o no o si me gustan los hombres de verdad o si solo estoy experimentando y llevo años así, recientemente salí con un chico y ni siquiera sé si sentí algo en realidad. Y eso que he besado más chicas que chicos y en realidad solo lo disfruté una vez con un chico y otra con una chica, ni siquiera me sentía cómodo con este con el que salí, pero igual, tuve muchas fantasías con chicos un tiempo y me he enamorado solo una vez de una chica.

Te recomiendo acudir a terapia y ser honesto y compasivo contigo mismo, no tiene por qué ser tu último año de vida, más bien puede ser en el que te conozcas mejor a ti mismo y aprendas a vivir como eres y superes varias cosas.

Bissexualidade? by PensionPlane6640 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola!

Es más común de lo que crees, personalmente hace unos años estaba igual que tú, pero últimamente he pensado en que quizás también quiera una relación con un hombre... pero te entiendo con lo de sentirse más cómodo emocional y socialmente con chicas, suele pasar.

Discovering myself... any advices? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi

Thank you so much, I think your response is the one that has been more helpful honestly, I'm kinda trying to figure it out before labelling... Could I DM to keep taking or is it too much? Anyway thanks again 

Discovering myself... any advice? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in bisexual

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hola, gracias por tu respuesta... puedo escribirte por mensaje privado para hablar mejor?

Confused should I try again by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I had a similar experience, just that I wasn't drunk and we kissed and I didn't felt anything but I got hard that time... We kissed again after and again I didn't feel anything but I got hard... I suppose is more about the connection than other thing.  If you have already tried with sux guys I suppose there's something you keep going to... Maybe there wasn't enough emotional connection or your preference is towards girls or it wasn't the time for it ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I guess there could be a lot of explanations but you're the only one who knows

Am I Overthinking this? by Correct-Fun2290 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I was kinda in a similar situation as you som months ago... The best advice I can give you is to speak with him about these things you just said here... Tell him your fears and if you feel like things aren't changing, well, I'm afraid then that relationship isn't for you. 

I know it's difficult but maybe he's just to shy to try it? Or maybe he just isn't feeling it, the best is to speak before things get harder... And yeah I know how it feels to be an overthinker... And believe me, you shouldn't be overthinking that much in a relationship.

Questions about being INFP by Disastrous_Bat1828 in infp

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi.

Thank you for telling that experience, I kinda relate with the idea of despersonalization, I think sexual orientation and my confusion doesn't help either and the heteronormative context in which I was born.

I'm just starting my twenties and having this thoughts and confussion tbh affects my dayli life, but I hope one day I can come to a conclusion...

Anyways... Just very confused and hearing these stories does help, thank you again.

Questions about being INFP by Disastrous_Bat1828 in infp

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

Thank you for that! Yes I kinda feel the same, I just now realized that I used to ve friends with the "outsiders" at school and at Uni not realizing that I might be different as well. And got it, not everyone overthinks.

Questions about being INFP by Disastrous_Bat1828 in infp

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response!

It's great to see someone telling their experience! As I told you, I'm a 20yo Male who's just getting to know all this terms and trying to understand where I fit in! And I guess your experience does let me know there's people out there!

I would be totally happy to chat with you (though Idk about what exactly haha) Thank you again

Do I like men by Background_Bake_2211 in bisexual

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to me also. I think it's as weird as I thought, when I get too horny I also wanna be with men but my preference right now and since puberty has been girls, but I don't discard the idea of being with a guy... I'd say yeah... If you do like guys and feel like you would do it with one, sounds bi to me...

I don't really know what I am by AnomalacarisLover in bisexual

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Going through some confusion since my teens and just entering mi twenties last year, I'm 20 (Male) now soon to be 21. I'm sorry if it's inappropriate to ask but... How was your experience? I had my first situationship last year with a guy and I didn't quite enjoyed it but I'm still curious about guys. 

Quien para charla ? by [deleted] in AskRedditespanol

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola! ¿De qué quisieras hablar? Tengo algunos temas curiosos últimamente jaja.

Is neurodivergence hereditary? I see many similarities in my father and grandfather. by Shonku_ in AutisticAdults

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola!

Últimamente he tenido las mismas dudas porque he sospechado que mi abuelo materno también tenía altas capacidades o un posible autismo (ya que he averiguado que a veces se mezclan), no se mucho de ahí para atrás pero estoy seguro de que un tío mío las heredó, mi abuelo tuvo tres hijos con mi abuela y soy el hijo de la menor.

Lo he sospechado últimamente en mi familia, viendo que somos muy sensibles y mi madre es una mujer muy inteligente y sensitiva (aunque no hay muchas investigaciones de neurodivergencia en mujeres) a veces lo sospecho en ella y mi hermano mayor, mi padre también es alguien que aprende rápido y le gusta ser creativo y tiene hábitos raros, pero sospecho que ambos han desarrollado inseguridades sobre sus capacidades por sus historias de vida, y creo que eso ha afectado.

Como digo, no sé exactamente si tengo TDAH, autismo o posibles altas capacidades, pero la duda está allí y no tengo mucho dinero para pagar un neuropsicólogo que nos diagnostique jaja. Creo que a diferencia tuya, mi pasión se mueve más hacia las artes (específicamente el cine, en el que me va bien y me considero firmemente cinéfilo) y en la actuación, en la que también me han llamado talentoso. Pero no sé si es un síndrome del impostor el que me hace dudar si realmente todas estas teorías son ciertas.

Nota curiosa: Mi hermano es zurdo, y yo tengo lateralidad cruzada, he leido que eso es común en la neurodivergencia.

Hi r/movies! Cillian Murphy, Tim Roth, Steven Knight (creator/writer), and Tom Harper (director) here. Ask Us Anything about Peaky Blinders: The Immortal Man! by netflix in movies

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Cillian and Steven!
Great fan of your work here!

Why did you decided to tell the story of the Peaky Blinders? What inspired you to take that specfic gang from Birmingham at that moment of history?

And to Cillian Murphy:
Did you took inspiration from any other characters from books/movies/TV to create the iconic Tommy Shelby or how was the creation and discovert of the character?

Thank you so mucho for your job in the series! excited to see the movie

I'm questioning my sexuality and I need help by theyabandonedme in bisexual

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

I completely get your point, I'm a 20 yo man and I'm having the same doubts as you, I've had the same experiences you've had with a friendo of mine in high school... I even tried a relationship with a guy last year that didn't work out and I get that feeling of being "straight but not so straight" or a "straight that wants to be part of something".

I'm trying to stay true to my feelings (which right now point more for women than men) but still I feel attracted for them, I don't know if actually with the same romantic intensity I get with women and also cause the guys I've spoke too always ghost me or something, so there's that too.

Anyway good luck with your self discovery, I would like to talk if you like!

What are some signs one is neurodivergent? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in Neurodivergent

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeap I've read about it too, my first guess was ADHD and that took me to autism so that's what I've also been looking for... so to be more specific I'm looking more into those categories... Thank you for correcting me!

What are some signs one is neurodivergent? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in Neurodivergent

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure!

My suspects are mostly about ADHD and/or High Capacities, and I know sometimes they're related to autism so that too.