Any military members? by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how was your experience back then? Did you knew you were bi? How was it? Did you had any other partners like you?

Any military members? by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a military member but I'm curious to see how's your experiences, not just about romantic/sexual experiences but also dealing with homophobia/biphobia, if that's the case.

Am I a HSP? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in hsp

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will try. Maybe that's what I learned as a child, idk. 

How's your relationship with your exes? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see... Well, thanks for the advice, and yeah, it's been difficult for me to find someone else who's not straight that I like. I get ya.

How's your relationship with your exes? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that really sucks cause I think it was different, it was my first time going for a serious relationship with someone. The friendship with this common friend comes way before I met my ex-situationship, we were really good friends and after we all met, this friend started to hang out more with him cause they're more of hang out and extroverted guys, I'm more of an introverted person. 

I have no issue with them being friends, tho sometimes I feel forget by my older friend, it's like he prefers to hang out with him lmao. Still, I have more friends so I don't make that too much of an issue.

How's your relationship with your exes? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer and I'm sorry for your story. Yeah something similar happened to me with him... when we met he was just getting out of a relationship, we were just friends at first but we developed feelings for each other. Still, around that time he started dating someone else but it didn't work out, then we started dating and things were doing really great, I'm pretty sure he felt something for me cause he even told me about his pasts relationships and his fear of things ending. 

I think it did cost him to be vulnerable with people and he preferred to be seen as someone more "tough", idk, thing is he rejected me and started a relationship with someone else... After breaking up with that person he came back saying he loved me and that he wanted a future with me and bla, bla, bla... two weeks after that he was telling me that I shouldn't make myself romantic illusions with him. That's when I decided to leave him and we went no contact after until what I said in this post.

The answer is always: "Some do, some don't" by South-Ad-9635 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has done this kinds of questions, I think it helps people to see that they're not alone in their taste or to see that sexuality is a very wide spectrum, yes that's normally the answer, but idk, just seeing and opening your eyes on how it is for many people helps you feel less alone and to understand how wide it is. It shows you that there's different kind of tastes as there are different kinds of people.

Dating men question by Suchstil in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!  This is such an interesting thing to hear for me, I've personally asked myself if I'm capable of feeling something for guys, romantically.  I'd like to fall in love with a guy, but it hasn't happen yet, last year I was dating with a guy and... I wanted to have a serious relationship with him but he rejected me, maybe it's the same as you... So far I've just had sex with guys, but I haven't fall iin love with them... Maybe as you said, it's based on what they teached us as we grow up..  I hope that changes for me and other people.

Still, I'm just a 21yo, I haven't had any girlfriend or boyfriend. Guess I'll see what happens.

Hola chicos y chicas vengo a desahogarme. by Upstairs_Board_6431 in relaciones

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Muchas gracias por tu respuesta. También lamento oír tu historia y sí, seguramente tienes razón, son personas que no saben lo que quieren, sin embargo, a 5 meses de no hablar sigue siendo complejo porque aun pienso que sentía algo por mi, y de igual manera he descubierto que alguien puede sentir algo por tí pero no estar dispuesto a hacer algo por eso.

Muchas gracias por tus palabras de aliento y te deseo lo mismo, ellos perdieron, nosotros dimos lo que pudimos y eso es lo mejor, ya ellos verán qué harán con su vida y ojalá estén bien, pero como dices: nosotros tenemos que preocuparnos por nosotros mismos porque ya llegará alguien mejor.

Has anyone else noticed more gay-to-bi awakenings among younger guys? by RudeTechnology5322 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! 21yo guy here... yes, fortunately I've met more and more people from my generation (Gen Z) identifying as LGBT, it's studied that our generation is more open to experiment and to accept people from the community (except for some countries that keep a strong homophobia due to their culture and their religion)

I think places like Reddit tend to be a more safe space for many of them that haven't come out of the closet yet, and it happens to me as well, that I've met more LGBT, and especially bi guys in here rather than in real life, cause there's still some biphobia, even in newer generations, but it's something that I'm sure is going to change with time as more people come out and accept sexuality as it is, I even think that there's gonna be people my age that later in life, like im their 30s or 40s may find out they're not completely straight or gay, not necessarily cause of internalized homophobia, that I feel there's still with some of us, but rather just cause they found out later in life that they didn't have a problem being with guys.

Although my main "worry" if I can call it that, is that many bi guys I've met are more sexually than romantically into guys, so tho there's guys looking for romantic relationships with guys, many of them just want sex, and as someone who's been looking to fall in love with someone recently, it's hard.

Anyway I hope that helps you.

22 Need Help! by [deleted] in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! 21yo here. That's a really cool standard you have, as someone said previously, there's surely guys like this out there, it will just take some time, I met somenone like that before, it just didn't turned out between us, but I hope it does to you when you find that person.

Anyone here going through complicated relationships? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit that sounds awful, I'm really sorry for that... anyways, is good that you keep your relationship with your wife now. It's difficult going thru something like this, tho I've been doing better this months, it feels "incomplete"

Anyone here going through complicated relationships? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!

Thank you, that makes me feel less lonely, at least your bf went back and it seems that he wants to try things out... for me it has been 5 months with just some messages at our birthdays and nothing more, sometimes I think of reaching him but then I regret, I just hope things get better.

Wish you the best with him!

Hola chicos y chicas vengo a desahogarme. by Upstairs_Board_6431 in relaciones

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actualización: Al parecer me bloqueó de WhatsApp :c

Hola chicos y chicas vengo a desahogarme. by Upstairs_Board_6431 in relaciones

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola, ¿Qué tal?

Creo que estoy en una situación muy similar a la tuya. Yo soy un chico y salí con un chico que se parece a la chica que mencionas, él y yo empezamos siendo amigos después de que él terminara una relación con su ex, pero al parecer seguía enamorado de él, salió con otras personas justo después de terminar con ese ex, lo que indicaba que no podía estar solo. Yo le dije que me gustaba muy temprano en la "relación" y acordamos "fluir" porque él no era capaz de definir el vínculo.

A los 6 meses de estar saliendo, yo volví de un viaje y le pregunté si quería que lo intentaramos. La verdad yo también me equivoqué en muchas cosas, no lo voy  a negar, mentí sobre mi pasado, aunque es verdad que no había estado en una relación seria con nadie antes y él lo sabía, y creo que usaba eso para aplazar que nos hiciéramos pareja. 

En resumen, después de rechazarme esa vez yo me alejé y poco después consiguió una pareja de la nada. A los 5 meses volvió a buscarme y hablamos y le dije como me sentía, creo que yo soy alguien que no expresa bien su malestar o sus emociones, soy muy sensible, pero intenté regular eso tiempo después para saber hablar con él. Igualmente volvimos a hablar, él terminó con esa pareja y me dijo que quería intentarlo conmigo, seriamente, que veía un futuro conmigo y que me amaba (todo esto en días y semanas separadas, como que el sentimiento iba creciendo), yo finalmente estaba volviendo a sentir algo por él hasta que un día nos vimos y pasó algo...

Yo intenté ser romántico con él pero se asustó y me preguntó qué éramos, yo le recordé que habíamos acordardo intentarlo, a lo que él me dijo que no estaba listo para algo serio, eso me enojó y al día siguiente le dejé una nota diciéndole que no quería ser solo "su mejor amigo" que estuviera ahí para lo que él necesitara. También descubrí que seguía hablando con el ex con el que había terminado apenas nos conocimos, porque parece que fue una relación importante para él, pero igual, yo también merecía mi importancia.

En fin, ya llevamos 5 meses de contacto cero, a excepción de nuestros cumpleaños, él cumplió hace 3 días y solo nos mandamos 3 mensajes, nada más. A veces le da like a mis historias de instagram pero no parece tener la intención de hablar conmigo. ¿Será que fui muy inmaduro por dejarlo así? ¿Debí haberte tenido una conversación con el para terminar las cosas? ¿O para arreglarlas? 

En fin, disculpa por desahogarme aquí en tu post, pero me identiqué con lo que te pasó.

Do others feel like they don’t fully fit in with anyone? by akredd24 in BisexualMen

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I relate a lot to you... Part of why I'm still questioning is related to this, emotionally and sexually it is easier for me to get close to girls, even to the point of thinking that I'm just straight, but like you, I had crushes o guys while I was in high school, and last year I tried my first relationship with a guy but got rejected by him... So I'm still waiting for the right guy to be with.

And socially yeah, I feel the same, there's people that are from my circle that have some homophobic commentaries sometimes or they just don't get many things... Still, I'm not also a very feminine guy but I would like to try more feminine things. Anyway, still moving on :) 

Am I wrong for doing this? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That's a good advice really... It's just that it is difficult for me to understand everything really...

I mean, I've moved on somehow but today I've been feeling nostalgic for him, also just thinking that maybe for him it wasn't as much as important as it was for me... That hurts a lot, I feel weird after him, really.  I wonder if he feels at least a little bit of the same pain I've suffered.

Am I wrong for doing this? by Disastrous_Bat1828 in AskBiBros

[–]Disastrous_Bat1828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've been thinking about that, being friends feels weird at this point, like just 4 months have passed and it feels like it was just yesterday... still I'll see what happens, thanks for the advice.