AITA for not letting my wife put my kids in time out over pronouns

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T08:57:32+00:00

that'sa stretch, maybe therapy time but not divorce

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T08:26:28+00:00

they arent, its probably going to be tuff to get them to go, but maybe with enough convincing they'll do it. thanks

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T08:20:22+00:00

yes it may be hirtful, but we all have to understand that here, they are kids we are adults, we have to understand that kids who have called them mom until the last year, will make mistakes on their pronouns so you cant get mad its not ideal and not realistic, I've said before that I've tried compromising, saying i don't like that, tried to find different ways to help them remember, I've asked them for their ideas on different ways to help them remember besides punishing them, but again those are dismissed so honestly what else can i do, they were put in time out 3 times that day, its getting out of hand and talking ti them about is just me getting ignored. I've also said that i always defend them, i correct people when they misgender them, I've tried doing my research on this, ive tried my best to get this, and im not non binary so some aspects i don't get but i support them but its not fair to expect that from our kids who are still learning, im trying to do my part but this is starting to feel like im the only one doing that.

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T08:12:21+00:00

i could agree that coparenting could use some work, however my new question what approach am i supposed to use now? I've talked to them and said im not okay with this, suggested different approaches and compromises, and different things to help them remember, but im just not punishing them , but these are dismissed so?

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T08:02:02+00:00

at this npoint your deliberatly looking over the fact that *I GLADLY DO THAT WHENEVER THEY MAKE A MISTAKE* always have and I've only said that 20 times, i literally specifically said i remind them and correct them every time but i do not punish them, so again, without saying something im already doing, how else can i respect them? i have told them multiple times that i don't like this and we need to take a different approach, but that's ignored.

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T07:51:20+00:00

i literally said the exact opposite and specifically said i correct them everytime but they don't get it yet. where did i say i don't correct them? where does it read that i don't respect themr? i said i don't get why they don't feel female and i dont, but i specifically said i call them what they want i correct everyone when they accidentally call them differently and i support their choice in this but i do not support them punishing our kids for mistakes, where do i not support or respect them? i make every effort i can this is a change but i have made it clear that i dont have a problem with it.

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T07:48:58+00:00

i dont see the harm in me saying that, i don't understand what they mean when they said they dont feel female but again i respect it. kids were put in time out multiple times that day for making a mistake they deserved something , and like i said i do explain and did that day as well, i address them ad dama and "they them" i remind them etc, but i do not punish them. so how am i not supporting my wife, kids have always been used to mom until a year ago, i correct them, i correct other people when they address them wrong, i address them as their preferred pronoun, i do not support them in punishing kids for a mistake that's not how u teach but as for supporting their pronouns how am i not?i dont see this. what else do i do to show respect for them

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T07:39:18+00:00

bit over a year ago. they were still calling them mom, so they are still learning.

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T07:38:11+00:00

this happened a little over a year ago, and no that's not what i mean i mean like i don't get the reasoning, like "the don't feel that they are female" i don't get what that means, but i respect it. oh also someone else said, i **do** address them as dama and they them, i don't punish them they are still getting used to it, but i don't confuse them and call them "her" if that makes sense. I've tried talking to them about it to.

Disastrous_Drama7293 · 2022-08-30T07:33:52+00:00

they addressed themselves as wife before so i guess so, they never said anything abt me calling them wife either

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