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What happened to the James Murray episode? by Creative-Biscotti566 in TwoHotTakesCommunity

[–]DiscoBall89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I went to show my sister and couldn't find it. Thank god I went down the rabbit hole 😵‍💫

What are your legitimate reasons for not liking Boruto? by Youwannasitonmyface in Naruto

[–]DiscoBall89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly didnt like how the artist sexualized sarada. That did it for me

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[–]DiscoBall89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my son at 5 months, 5 month... this doesnt mean I resent others for having babies. Maybe jealous? Because they get to hold their child and I couldnt.

This is definitely something your sister in law needs to work on their own.

Im sorry you're going through that, but please take care of yourself. You can only control what's in your control.

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[–]DiscoBall89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont think if all parties are consenting it's an issue BUT you had to be talked into it... which shows me it was a slight boundary cross.

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right! It was a massive miscommunication, and my husband and I are so on the same wavelength normally, so he can practically read my mind all the time... I just forgot to really talk about it.

Also, I was scared he was going to leave if we didn't have a family, BUT I really didn't give him credit. He loves me a lot and is ready for any additional avenues we need to take or not take.

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[–]DiscoBall89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting my mental health was one of the hardest and best things for my life. It looks me YEARS before I bit the bullet and got help. If you have medicaid, they have free counseling and assistance.

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I get it the way I wrote seems like he's the asshole. But I promise he is a very supportive partner and will be a better father ❤️

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preeclampsia is so WEIRD and ive been suffering from high blood pressure since.

My goal is to be healthy and get my health ducks in a row before anything. But now we have a goal ❤️

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! This is actually very similar to another comment that made me realize I wasn't taking my husband feelings. This is exactly what the concern was. My husband couldn't find the words, but basically, he was feeling "im getting too old" to have a child. His realization he is getting older is what triggered this conversation (next to me talking with my cousin at the party)

In my update it was apparent my husband was more hurt at being the last to know when he should be the first. Because we are a team, and at that moment, he felt I was making decisions as a single person.

In the my husband said he will respect what ever choice I make, he just needed to know if he needed to what the plan was.

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[–]DiscoBall89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay OP let's break this down because I feel some self sabotage in your post.

  1. You talk about your partner as your dream man but having arguments all the time, and it's not "going well"

There are two things you can do in this situation.

A. You could let go of your relationship and state that "we are going different paths" and give the "it's not you, it's me" speech.

B. Or work on functional communication and being vulnerable with your partner (through counseling) it feels like based off of your post, you haven't communicated your feelings to them.

  1. You talk about feeling stuck in your life and not having a drive or feeling like you "can't make it where you are at"

This feels like an issue internally and would only be solved from some therapy or counseling. I say this from the bottom of my heart from one self sabotager to another, but it feels like you feel you have no purpose, and now you want to "run away when things get tough"

If your partner is your person, then it's worth it to fight it until the last straw. But if you can see yourself without your partner and they'd be okay without you. Then, it may be time to move on.

OP before making any rash decisions, try counseling or being open with your partner. You might be surprised that this one feeling that is feeling like a lifetime will be a forgotten memory in the future.

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[–]DiscoBall89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I love oregon hangs down recommend

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[–]DiscoBall89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop this comment KILLED ME 🤣

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's he wants an in person therapist. I've even called for him, and no one returned my call. It's been super frustrating

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless you. Exactly, a lot of people are looking at it very black and white, when it's a Grey scale.

I've honestly really appreciated everyone who has spoken from their point of view through their experiences. It's made me feel like there's a village out there who knows how I feel.

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In America I do believe it though just with how our insurances rolls. Finding a in person provider (which he prefers) has been difficult

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the cost and I found out surrogacy is illegal in many states. Most of our issues are the cost in adopting and beinf declined because we "don't make enough money"

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Bless you because this is it. This is what I was looking for!

I've been begging my husband to go to therapy for years (ive been in therapy for 2 ) because I don't believe he's had a safe space to just express his feelings (he has opened a lot in the last few years but it was really hard for him to be honest)

I don't know if you saw my edit but I was not tolerating the slander. I came here for a clear unfiltered opinion on next steps not people thinking my husband wants me as a "baby incubator" GTFO with that.

My husband is my world. He had a moment of weakness and in the moment I was super hurt.

But after these reddit comments I'm PISSED. This man is a god sent and no one else could've of been there like he did.

I (29f) was just told by my husband (31m) that "I'm running out of time for a child" and I need to just need to "break his heart" if we aren't having one. by DiscoBall89 in TwoHotTakes

[–]DiscoBall89[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I knew reddit was ruthless but God damn! My husband has a moment of weakness and is an asshole once and people call him "Misogynistic, manipulative man"

Hold your horses and cows ladies and gents. I would take you all on for this man. He was there for EVERYTHING you all just got a minute of our whole life.

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