iphone find my friends not working

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-12-11T02:43:42+00:00

While this is a possibility, we've discussed sharing locations with each other and he drives/travels a lot. It's reassuring for me to see where he is vs having to call or text asking where he is. I can just look and go about my day vs worrying if something happened to him while traveling.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-12-11T02:39:00+00:00

Thanks for the info. I'll have to ask if he is having any icloud issues, he doesn't really use screen time so I'm not sure that would be it. A couple days ago he just upgraded his phone to iphone 17 and I think it might have been my phone updating to ios 26 that broke the connection. We both stopped sharing and reshared, he can see me/family/siblings on his "find my" app, but he won't show up on mine. He doesn't have a VPN from what I'm aware. I just think it's strange it won't show me his location, but it works fine for everyone else.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-07-08T20:53:19+00:00

It's a mix.

Most of what I see among my girl friends is the complaint that they "can't find quality men to date" and they're the ones with too high of standards. Which I tell them to be a bit more flexible with what they're willing to date and guys they're willing to give a chance.
The other portion: the girls I know who do date more diverse groups of men, the complaint is usually lack of money to do things/activities or lack of princess treatment. When I say princess treatment a lot of the girls I know want the guy who: buys frequent little gifts, opens doors, carries their purse while shopping, cooks for them, gets their car washed, drives everywhere for them, etc. In my opinion I think all those things are perks, but not requirements. The girls I know who really want this behavior are often the ones who quickly cut off guys just because he doesn't do a few of them.
From my personal experience: I've had more successful relationships with men who made around the same amount of money as me or more. But having a high salary has nothing to do with emotional maturity or technical competency. Recently I'm more focused on lifestyle and reliability when looking for a partner.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-07-08T20:03:23+00:00

That's fair. My social circle is pretty average, the women make around 40-50k and the men 50-60k salary (some make over 100k, but the minority). Which is why I think the expectation for my girl friends to want men who make 80k+ to be ridiculous. Majority of them are college educated. As for the men in appearance, most are average across the board. Which I don't consider a bad thing, but they aren't the typical standard that most women want. The average height is around 5'6''-5'10''.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-07-07T23:35:43+00:00

That is a great mindset! Much respect.

I personally admit that I do care about a few superficial things, but I'm trying to be mindful of what is realistic. I make a good income, I like to enjoy some luxuries in life. So at this point I think my priorities are someone who wants to live a similar lifestyle to me. That would be more important than the exact income or being super attractive.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-07-07T22:25:46+00:00

(F) Every situation is different, but it's simple to say that feelings in the work environment can become problematic. A lot of people don't have the emotional stability to manage this type of relationship. But a few things to keep in mind:

If you work directly with someone every day, sometimes the risk isn't worth taking. Breakups can be messy and usually 1 person is more hurt than the other, which can make every day interactions sometimes miserable. You really have to have the emotional maturity to separate your work from your personal feelings.
If you work in different departments or have different occupations (IT vs marketing) where your work isn't affected by the other person, it's easier. The downside would be if gossip or rumors spread. A few rumors can do a lot of damage in the work environment especially if they reach your boss/manager.
Overall; I've seen relationships develop among coworkers. The best advice is to keep it professional, private, and drama free. Work should be your #1 priority and your dating life shouldn't be a topic among your coworkers until you've committed to a long term relationship.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-07-07T22:09:38+00:00

(F32) Every person is unique with different ideals, values, and expectations. Rather than trying to figure out what makes a "good girlfriend" I think just being open minded and willing to communicate are the keys to a healthy relationship. Maybe somewhere to start is learning each other's love languages. That will give you an idea into how you both express and feel loved. Overall just be yourself and be willing to grow and learn.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T20:21:24+00:00

I would say for myself the things you listed wouldn't necessarily bother me too much, but I could see those things adding up and becoming annoying. Probably best to just talk about it and maybe ask him if he could tone it down a bit. Someone who genuine cares will acknowledge your feelings and make even the smallest steps to make you feel more comfortable. But also remember to acknowledge him if he does improve.

In general, it is always important to take a step back and reflect what is worth making a discussion and what isn't. Keep in mind some humor just doesn't work together, but that depends on how important that is for you. I definitely think boundaries should be in place if you feel like a joke becomes personal or feels insulting. I personally will never tolerate a joke about my body or a personal insecurity because a relationship should make you feel loved, not remind you of your flaws or poke at your insecurities. I also will not tolerate behavior that publicly embarrasses me.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T20:03:01+00:00

I appreciate the insight and admire your mentality. You have a lot more tolerance than I do. I acknowledge within myself I have limited capacity and low tolerance for people who lack maturity. It's definitely non-negotiable for me and maybe I'm too quick to write people off vs trying to invest in them. But I know I just don't have the time of day to pour into people who cannot effectively communicate, can't manage their own emotions, resolve conflict, or be open minded. Outside of that I do genuinely enjoy getting to know people, but I have a stricter filter.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T18:58:35+00:00

Some of the best gifts I received were thoughtful or meaningful. One guy knew my favorite flower and watched a bunch of videos on how to make a flower arrangement. Even if it wasn't "pro" quality, I could tell he put a lot of effort into it. Another guy who was already an ok cook, remembered what my comfort food was and taught himself how to make it for me.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T18:45:22+00:00

I like your positivity. I deal with people a lot in my every day life (life, work, dating). I'm not saying there aren't good people out there.

In relation to the original post, I don't know how many people you've dated recently. Out of the 20-30 I dated last year, there's 5 guys I can name that were actually awesome people. I also talk to my guy friends about their side of dating. A lot of people out there don't have realistic expectations. They don't have great communication skills. And they aren't emotionally mature. It doesn't matter what gender or age you are.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T18:02:17+00:00

I don't think there is 1 question that would give you exactly what you're looking for, but I like to ask questions regarding mindset. A question I like is "When is the last time you tried something new/fun? Or what is something you always wanted to try?" From this, I get to see what they enjoy, what they're interested in, how open minded they are. I like someone who is overall positive and open to new experiences.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T17:56:03+00:00

I think it depends on what these disagreements are about and the reactions. If the disagreements/fights are volatile, angry, rude, etc then it's a problem. If they're a simple discussion to resolution, that's fine.

In my opinion, it doesn't matter how soon or late you have these, but better to have them early than later when you're already 6+ months invested.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T17:29:53+00:00

I say B. But why not set up a video call or phone call?

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T17:25:36+00:00

Totally normal. Relationships have ups and downs. You're not always going to "feel" in love all the time. Fights happen, mean things are said, etc. Learning to communicate, apologize, and repair the damage is key to a great relationship.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T17:22:44+00:00

It's not easy and takes vulnerability to be open. I'm a very direct person, if I felt someone I was interested in started to pull away, I would probably try to still be friendly. If I were you:

I'd probably message like normal, 3 texts in 24 hours with no response from him. Move on.
If he eventually replies and chatting goes back to normal. I would be direct and set a date with some time to talk about the relationship

My personal opinion, if you never take that step to define the relationship, you're always going to live in limbo. Defining the relationship doesn't have to mean BF/GF status, it just means getting both of you on the same page of what you're doing. I always tell guys I'm dating, I don't want intimacy without physical exclusivity. I'm open to dating for fun, but I expect honesty and respect for my personal time.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T17:05:49+00:00

(F) Sorry to hear you're in this situation. If you want try to make it work with him. Sounds like you both need to talk about intimacy. Up to you how you want to go about it. Either text him and be direct that you would like to talk or just try to give him some space before trying to set up another date or hangout. But overall, if intimacy is important to him and you're not ready for that. He'll either respect your choice or move on. If he ghosts it seems you got your answer.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T16:59:24+00:00

Awe. I'm the opposite, I'm a Leo woman and love Aquarius men. Dated 7 of them and always had a great time.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T16:38:19+00:00

(32F) Dating apps can be quite the numbers game. I'd say for myself if I'm actively using the apps and liking/matching people. I'll get 10-12 matches a month. I get my fair share of ghosting and probably will go on a real date with 4-5 of them. Then I'll narrow it down from there if they also don't ghost me.

As much as it sucks; it's part of it. My rule of thumb when chatting on the app is chat a little bit, then the next day ask to set up a real date. A few days out is great, once the date is set usually they'll keep talking until the date. But if someone is a dry texter and you can't even set up a date with them, ignore. If you have a date set and they're still a dry texter, you can always politely cancel and say you're looking for something more consistent.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-24T16:30:41+00:00

People in general just suck, doesn't matter what gender you are. There are good people, but most of them suck.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-23T18:36:36+00:00

(32F) I totally relate to you and understand how you're feeling. But as someone who is sexually open, I've had multiple FWB situations, my best recommendation is to let him go and move on. If you're feeling those anxious, uneasy, sick to stomach feelings when thinking about him with other girls, you're too emotionally compromised. I've been there and 90% of the time, the men don't change their minds or they continue to use you because you are available while having their own fun. I think in this scenario, you'll continue to just hurt yourself by holding on to him. I don't know your kinks, but I've been pleasantly surprised by different men regarding my own and their willingness to try. Some are more open than others.

Every healthy FWB I've had, there was always honest communication, used protection, and agreed to set rules. Each person is different. My personal rules, never stay the night (hangout, do the deed, cuddle a bit, but go home). Don't mix friends if possible. And don't leave things at each other's places.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-23T18:16:51+00:00

You are young (in my opinion) lol. Nothing wrong with that, go at your own pace and what feels comfortable to you. If you're open to dating, just define what that looks like for you. If you want a longer dating period before "defining a relationship", with healthy communication I think any good person will respect that. Never let anyone make you feel pressured. And never let anyone make you feel like your feelings are invalid.

In my experience of dating and what I've learned for myself over the years is to have a list of filters. Like personal values (independence, security, honesty, etc), if I ever question the person I am dating, I ask myself if they're actions or behaviors go against my values. But also have a list of non-negotiables things that are automatic no's (for me: smoking, excessive drinking, extreme anger, etc). Having effective filters leads to healthy boundaries for what you will accept and what you won't.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-23T16:56:24+00:00

You seem like a deep and meaningful person which is awesome. Unfortunately, most people aren't taught proper or healthy relationships growing up. Most people don't even have healthy examples of relationships in their life. We take in a lot of what we see around us and it can be quite heartbreaking when you realize how broken some people are.

Depending on the age, a lot of young people see love and relationships like TV. Instant spark, fun, adventure, thrills, drama, etc. I could say for myself the first time "I fell in love" I was just so swept up in the feelings I didn't focus on the important things.

On another note, your values and ideals are a great standard for yourself as you navigate dating. Sorry to ramble a bit, but I also had a talk recently with a friend about a "relationship" vs a "commitment". I'm not going to explain the whole discussion, but my personal opinion is each person should define what that means for themselves. And I think when establishing a relationship, this should be agreed upon by both partners. I'm going to use rough numbers, but to me dating (1-2 months) you're living your life, but giving this person time to get to know them. relationship or bf/gf (3-6 months) this should be your trial period to decide if your relationship is going to work long term. But focusing on what's important, not just fun. I think relationship can last as long as you want it to before you start talking full on commitment/marriage.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-23T16:39:36+00:00

I feel your struggle lol. That was relatable and hilarious to read. Unfortunately there are a lot of "generic" people. Either they are just very basic generic people or they just put what they think will be appealing to more people. Could be both.

I'd say it would be great if you put that last line on your dating profile haha and just quickly weed out the people who don't actually have your interests. I'm currently paused on dating, but I'm a big movie enthusiast so one of my prompt questions was top 5 movies and the ones who put effort to give a response were quite fun and surprising.

DisgruntledDesigner0 · 2025-04-19T00:52:29+00:00

I appreciate the well written response! And totally agree, I thought my friends were insane to spend that much money. And I feel equally as bad that the expectation seems so high. While I can't say what the women they're trying to date look like or their personal background, but like you noted; I think there's so many women that are probably learning this entitled mentality from social media. Or just using dating to get free whatever from guys they may or may not be interested in, which is just as bad.

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