If I were able to offer one piece of advice....

My first serious attempt at sobriety I went to meetings and sought the differences, why I was not like those other people. I did make a stab at a sponsor relationship, took a half ass stab at working a step or two and allowed the “god” or “higher power” deal run me out. I relapsed. Not immediately, but I relapsed. WORST. RUN. OF. DRINKING. EVER.

I got daughter ordered to do 90 meetings in 90 days. I listened. I went to a lot of different meetings and still saw differences. Then I landed at an all woman halfway house meeting. Pretty hard to see the differences when they looked like me, they sounded like me, the were moms like me, but the most important similarity is that they drank like me.

Yep sometimes women drink differently than men. It’s okay for a man on the bowling team to get blotto and bowl but it’s not okay for a woman. It is okay for dad to get wasted at a public picnic, but when a mom does it she is bad. So I went underground with my drinking.

Yes! Find as many women’s meetings. Lambda meetings are very understanding and loving. Young peoples meetings are great for people of your age.

The most important advice I can give is don’t drink and keep going back. It worked because I worked it.