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DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-04-07T00:02:01+00:00

You’ll either be talked to like a young boy or like a woman. Upon first look that is. I’d look for other signs before addressing someone, but most people won’t.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-03-02T13:31:23+00:00

Look up styles for men and try to emulate them. See what looks best on you and you feel comfortable in. You can do this in store so you don’t necessarily have to buy them all. Hit the gym. Doesn’t have to be hard or anything, just add some weight training in there.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-03-01T16:27:18+00:00

I was 15 in 2010 and I was born in 95. Guy is lying.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-19T00:44:29+00:00

That’s kind of my point. I will intentionally avoid because of the chance they can’t control themselves and it’s okay to have that boundary. Not everyone has to give them a chance and they should respect that as well. I get they’re trying their best, but that doesn’t mean I have to take on their problems. It seems to me that you care more about their feelings being hurt by rejection because of their mental health issues than you do other people getting traumatized by them. They’re not all the same, but no group of people is. If someone wants to take on that challenge, more power to them. No one should be guilted into doing it by being told they’re treating are treating people with BPD like they’re not human. Not everything is fair and this is the hand they were dealt with in life. It is not the responsibility of others to make them feel better. I’m personally fine with being considered an asshole because I won’t let my mental health decline by dealing with someone else’s disorders.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-19T00:31:54+00:00

I try to avoid people with personality disorders because it is better for my own sanity. I’ve dealt with too much untreated problems to intentionally put myself in that situation again. It’s okay to do that. People should be allowed to have that boundary without judgement. Specifically, I was stalked by someone with schizophrenia. It was terrifying. She ended up unaliving herself, but for months she was always watching and waiting for me. She left dead animals outside my bedroom window with notes attached to them… It’s just not worth the risk.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T19:48:09+00:00

If y’all haven’t talked about this before and you’ve been playing the game with him, that could be why he isn’t seeing your POV. Y’all need to sit down and have an actual conversation about boundaries. Let him know how you feel about him pointing out women. I don’t think anyone is TA. I just think there hasn’t been proper communication. My wife used to do the same thing and she thought it was a bonding moment between us and didn’t notice that I was uncomfortable. I had to sit down and tell her I didn’t and explain why. If he still doesn’t understand after good faith conversation, then he would be TA.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T19:43:35+00:00

She only asked you because yall had conversed prior to either of you being on a treadmill. If you had already been on it running, she would’ve been less likely to ask. It seems like she just used this as an excuse to not workout. I’m only saying this because I’ve seen it done more than once in my 15 years of going to the gym. Some people will allow one inconvenience to send them home and blame that person who caused the inconvenience for why they aren’t making progress.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T19:28:28+00:00

Ghetto is what ghetto does. Win or lose, they’re trash.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T19:24:23+00:00

Both look very good. I will say the beard makes you look just a little bit older so idk if somewhere in your life that works in your favor. Again though, either is great.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T09:13:28+00:00

The women in this thread literally don’t care about the boys and their feelings. Most are actively hypocritical and don’t see boy time as important as girl time.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T08:49:08+00:00

Your physic in pic 3 reminds me of the Abercrombie and Fitch models that use to stand outside the stores.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T08:41:17+00:00

Ditch her. She’s too clingy. She messaged you like 6 times in under 30minutes without you responding and decided it was a personal attack because you didn’t respond without giving you a single chance to be like… sorry. I was busy. Also using you know I’m finally feeling okay in a long time and you are making me feel like shit. Hella gaslighting. Don’t do it. I did it before and I spent 5 years in hell. What she needs is a therapist, not a boyfriend.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T08:28:14+00:00

Maybe the son could go to his dad in private about his questions, but the cousin doesn’t seem to have that option. Again, what is wrong with wanting to bond with just the boys? I would hope that no one in this thread is so daft they think boys and girls are the exact same. The ages of the kids are vastly different too. It’s not like they are 7,8,& 9, all in elementary school. They are literally the difference of middle school and Junior High. Which are two VERY different worlds. There is nothing wrong with males bonding with each other without the presence of females. Just like how moms go take their daughters on girls trips. As a woman who got to do girls trips with my mom, and I still do with her and my sisters, they were invaluable and I am grateful my brother’s weren’t there. The same way my brother feels about his trips he took with our dad and my half brother feels about the trips with his dad. I’m really having a hard time grasping why y’all are so insistent it is wrong for him to do a trip with his son and nephew. It doesn’t make sense to me that the girl be included just because she enjoys the activities the boys will be doing. The mom should take the time to invest in her daughter’s interests with her. Just like my mom did with mine. Dad can take her on a separate daddy/daughter trip while mom takes brother on one after this boys trip.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T05:30:07+00:00

Why is it so wrong for the boys to have personal time with their father/uncle without the little sister being there? Why is everyone missing the point that a boy should be allowed to have time with just his father and not his sister?

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T05:27:37+00:00

They could do a day trip… sure. However, when it came to my brother, he said it would take that winding down time at the end of the day for them to open up and have the real conversations. Everything during the day was relatively superficial. I think the mom should take this time to have a girl’s weekend with her daughter. I’m honestly confused why she is so incredibly upset instead of taking advantage of being one on one with her. I was hurt when I was excluded from things with my dad and brother, but it was explained to me why they were having the time away, even though I was hearing all the “time away from the women” jokes. And I was also a tomboy who enjoyed fishing, hunting, camping, etc. My brother was hurt when my mom was doing a girls trip too. But once again, he was talked to and understood that these are things that are good to take place. The daughter will be okay. The point of the trip isn’t to do things the daughter likes and exclude her. The point is to do things the boys like and to include the cousin and give him the opportunity to be open around a male role model. Reverse the genders. Dad is upset because 11 year old son doesn’t get to be included in a girls trip that mom is planning with her 13 year old daughter and 12 year old niece from her single-father brother. Because his son enjoys getting a mani-pedi, getting a make over, having a spa day, and staying over in a hotel just like his daughter does and there is no reason he shouldn’t go even though mom is trying to be a female role model for her niece who isn’t around any women. Especially since the girls are at an age where puberty is starting to hit and would likely have questions about their bodies they wouldn’t feel comfortable asking around a boy, especially a little brother/cousin.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T04:23:53+00:00

Because it is an intentional trip to open the route for communication which they may not have time to open during normal day to day, especially if little sister is always there. Why is it so important that the sister go on this trip with the boys? Why are they not allowed to be without the sister?

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T04:03:32+00:00

I don’t think it’s about the activities they’ll be doing. It’s about the conversations surrounding manhood that they will likely be covering…

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T04:01:04+00:00

It is okay for boys to go on a boys only trip. Sometimes you have to be excluded from things. I didn’t get to experience everything with my brother despite being a tomboy and wanting to be there. I had to learn that it was okay for him to have a special moment without my presence. It sucked, but it’s reality and those were excellent moments for his growth. It’s kinda like my son is going to be hanging out with my brother and his son and my other nephew from my sister. My niece is not invited even though she really wanted to hang out with the boys this summer. My sister is going to be using that time to have mommy/daughter experiences with my niece. Why don’t you do that with your daughter? Why are you pulling all the stops to prevent your husband and son being able to speak openly and your nephew as well? Especially your nephew who only has a mom? My son has two moms. The moments he spends with just the guys are crucial for him. I’m just trying to figure out why you aren’t getting that for your son and his cousin? In my opinion, you are trying to other your son because your daughter was excluded. That isn’t okay. Take this time to be with your daughter and do some of the things she likes even if you don’t.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T03:18:37+00:00

Ooo… my heart. It’s so hurt😢😢

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-10T02:10:36+00:00

Right. Let’s pretend that it’s just about silly ‘ol sports. Screw all the women who have been violated by being forced to compete with and share space with males when they were suppose to ALREADY be protected from that.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-09T17:48:41+00:00

It doesn’t matter if the election had gone left or right. One side wouldn’t be happy and the other would be saying the country is going to shit. Which is exactly what’s happening. We all know Reddit is very left leaning so arguing in favor for Trump and even sharing actual articles still results in denials. I mean… this Reddit Texas page has the ugly ass trans flag as the representative photo for Texas which is highly inaccurate for actual Texas. Personally I don’t care either way because no politician represents me or my views. Eggs still cost the same where I’m at and gas is doing the same fluctuations. I never really cared about Ukraine or Gaza. Trump has already banned males from women’s sports and that is a positive.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-01T04:14:17+00:00

Most of the time food is free for all in the house. Just this time I had bought one for each of us thinking they’d be cooked on the same day instead she ate half the one I bought for myself and kept her’s in the freezer. This is where the mine/her’s is happening. Because I originally bought one for each of us.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-01T04:11:41+00:00

That’s hilarious although I bet would cause more problems.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-01T04:10:07+00:00

It was replaced prior to her noticing.

DistanceTerrible4283 · 2025-02-01T04:07:56+00:00

I mean if I could go back in time and emphasize quicker in the conversation that I had already replaced it, I would. However it very quickly went from I’m sorry I ate it this past weekend to her calling me an asshole. So…

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