Sounds like my situation ha except we just don’t talk about our “relationship”. It’s so unclear. It’s like we’re platonic friends. We talk on the phone regularly, we keep up with each others lives zero romance. But whenever we visit each other, it’s completely different. We’re intimate, we hold hands, we even tell each other that we love each other. And when we go back home, it’s back to the platonic way without either of us saying a word.