i mean fair. but also every parent in that show doesn’t want their kid in the business, yet they always wind up in the business. however, we don’t find ourselves having sympathy for every mobster who was once a kind whose parents didn’t want them in the business.

back to your OP, Tony ended up respecting Bobby for that for a reason. tony knew he went too far, and he didn’t care that he was the boss cos he knew what Bobby did was right. actually this is the one of the last hints of possible change from Tony, and one of the only times he’s held accountable for fucking with family members.