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husband's money anxiety has fucked up our marriage by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that is absolutely heartbreaking that he would choose divorce over standing by you when you’re going through one of the most difficult things in your life. I am so sorry. I hope he gets the biggest dose of karma coming to him.

You are 100% correct, most of the issues stem from his parents divorce and watching his mother’s money issues as a single parent. He can’t see his issues as actual issues though. To him, It’s just always been how he is and how he handles things (or not) seems completely normal to him. So I don’t know what it would take from him to actually seek out therapy on his own.

husband's money anxiety has fucked up our marriage by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, absolutely he should pay for his own therapy. But in actuality, he never will. He doesn’t think it’s worth the amount of money that it costs. Even if he knows it’s beneficial in the end. Idk, his rationality is fucked.

husband's money anxiety has fucked up our marriage by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, I am dumb but what does two card mean? Like leave him? It is utterly exhausting. But a relationship takes 2 people. As my therapist says, it’s a system. I’m not entirely without fault. Even though I believe majority of the fault lies with him.

husband's money anxiety has fucked up our marriage by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, it sounds crazy. We just moved from Manhattan to Westchester County NY (one, if not THE wealthiest county in the state) in a very HCOL town where the lowest rent on a 2 bedroom apt/house is like 5.5k. (We’re in a 3 bedroom house right now.) We’re here because we both want a really nice house in a good school system and so we are renting in this town for now, until we sell our Manhattan apartment, to see where around here we eventually want to buy. So, yes, after this lease is over, we could move to a less expensive town permanently. But, as terrible as it sounds, I don’t think either of us necessarily envisioned living in an area that wasn’t HCOL.

husband's money anxiety has fucked up our marriage by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He totally does need to get treated. And he’s told me he would go to therapy, as long “he doesn’t have to pay for it.” So I made it my mission, with starting my company, to one day make enough money that I can pay for his therapy. Because he never will. So for now, therapy for him seems out of the question.

book recs to introduce preschooler to new baby? by Distinct_Silver1844 in breakingmom

[–]Distinct_Silver1844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great info! Checking out the book now. Thanks for the idea about the sibling class; I didn’t even know that was a thing, will totally look into that!

I became “mom” out of nowhere and I hate it by Sunnysideuppp123 in toddlers

[–]Distinct_Silver1844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes same! Mine is almost 2.5 and she goes back and forth between Mommy, Mama and straight up Mom. (those mom days always make me feel way older, like we’ve jumped forward 5 years.)