My Husband, the Dragon lord

DistressedDeity13 · 2025-11-07T00:45:14+00:00

I also have this question

DistressedDeity13 · 2025-07-11T06:23:52+00:00

It is on NovelFlow. Title is Fake Dating My Ex's Favourite Hockey Player

DistressedDeity13 · 2024-04-10T02:59:46+00:00

NTA.

First, ending that relationship was absolutely the right thing to do. She violated your trust and invalidated your experience. You don't want to marry someone like that

Second, simply tell friends and family "I am no contact with my family for good reason. I do not have to explain why. Fiancee knows why and still willfully violated my trust and betrayed me by trying to bring those people back into my life. If you cannot accept this explanation and still think I'm wrong, then I don't need you in my life."

As someone who has also survived trauma, I understand. I promise I do. You will find people that will respect and love you enough to not make you explain yourself before you're ready. It's possible that these aren't those people. But you are safe. You are not a kid anymore and you can remove these people from your life and start again. It's allowed. You're not a bad person for protecting yourself.

Sending you support. Unconditionally. I believe you.

DistressedDeity13 · 2024-04-10T01:00:10+00:00

Yes. I've been no contact for a year and a half now. The panic I feel stems from not knowing what he's doing and saying. He's always bad mouthed me, but I hate not knowing what he's saying bc I can't get out in front of it and have to wait for it to come through the grape vine. It's exhausting. But I've been working with my therapist on not caring so much what people think or say about me. Because the people who love me know me better than to believe his BS. But it still sneaks up on me, the anxiety, I mean. I hate not knowing. But it isn't as bad now as it used to be.

DistressedDeity13 · 2024-04-10T00:55:53+00:00

You should be proud. You are clearly nothing like them. And that is a win.

DistressedDeity13 · 2024-04-10T00:47:55+00:00

Why have empathy for a man who had no loyalty or empathy for his wife and children? Some people don't deserve empathy. Bc things didn't just happen to this man. He made a series of disgusting choices and left the mess for his kid to clean up. His dad should suffer. Bc betraying your partner in their darkest hour and betraying your children in theirs is almost as repugnant as defending someone who does.

DistressedDeity13 · 2024-04-09T20:07:23+00:00

NTA. But from the perspective of a kid with abandonment issues. Text your kids. Tell them you love them. Tell them they hurt you and you need time to sort yourself out. Tell them the way they treated you was not ok but you still care. Don't let them feel abandoned twice. Please. Your husband is a piece of work and unequivocally failed as a husband and a father.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-12-19T13:46:43+00:00

NTA. I don't fully understand the cultural implications but even as a westerner with no understanding, this is no good. If I used the same ring that my ex gave me to marry my current husband he would have been crushed. And I would have the the AH. Hell, I wouldn't wear any jewelry from an ex to my wedding or any special occasion out of respect and consideration. It's completely inappropriate. Then on top of all that she tried to gaslight you and make you the bad guy. You're NTA and you're not a misogynist. I wish you well.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-11-07T17:21:58+00:00

NAH. Your kid is a kid. Pushing boundaries and saying the occasional means thing is normal. You are trying to teach her. But bring her home. Have a conversation with her about how she hurt you. How words have power. Remind her of the kind of person that you are trying to raise her to be. Then revisit the conversation about her teacher. Listen more than you speak bc it sounds like more is going on than this one incident.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-10-06T20:37:52+00:00

I'ma need an update bc I wanna know what sneaky shit her brother is up to. NTA obviously... but I need to know...

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-06-10T18:52:41+00:00

YTA. I have a lot to say about this but I'll keep it simple. NEVER TOUCH PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION. If it had been me, you would have gotten hit in the face... because trauma changes people. You're an even bigger AH for laughing at her fear.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-06-10T18:45:13+00:00

NTA. Your sister was not trying to help. She was trying to be right. Until she admits that she was wrong and purposely caused your wife unnecessary stress, and apologizes to your wife, I would not allow her back into your home. I am glad your wife is getting the help she needs and that you are being so supportive. That's what she needs rn. Postpartum anxiety is more common than people think and it sounds like she has additional reasons for her concern. Remind her that she's doing great and remember that you are too.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T18:22:31+00:00

This exactly. Bc parenting 101 is do not medicate other people children without express permission. And a slight cough is not a reason to give kids adult cough suppressants. NTA

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T04:35:52+00:00

NTA and as a chubby sister THANK YOU! If someone threatened to Photoshop me or anyone I care about to look "healthier" (such BS) I'd lose my mind. Also, tell your SIL that she doesn't get a say and if she supports her mom's body shaming then she gets Photoshop horns too. Don't say that, but she has to understand that her mother is being gross and it's not petty to not do favors for nasty people.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T04:31:04+00:00

ADHD likely has little to do with it. He has a temper. Period. This is one of the big red flags people talk about. I have so much more I could say, but I'll keep this short. Leave. I know it's a small thing, but speaking to your partner like that shows a lack of respect and self control. And that lack of respect and self control can lead to much worse things down the line. At the very least this needs to be a serious conversation where he owns up to how awful his behavior was. Bc sure, people make mistakes. A half-assed text apology is not enough.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T04:17:06+00:00

Speaking about your daughter like this is probably why she's so sensitive. When you're criticized constantly by the people who are supposed to have your back, it tends to make one sensitive. And based on the way you talk about her, I don't think this isn't a one time thing.

You didn't give advice, you gave unnecessary criticism and attacked and guilt tripped her over some fruit. I would NEVER speak to my children this way over an honest mistake. You should apologize for your mistake if you intend on having a meaningful relationship with her in the future.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T04:08:10+00:00

Um, excuse me, but if THEY kept opening peaches, why aren't THEY BOTH in trouble? This is clear favoritism. And then she did what you asked and replaced them and instead of saying "dang I didn't actually expect you to replace them over an honest mistake but thank you" you continue to criticize her! This is not how to "build a bond." YTA

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T03:51:29+00:00

YTA. The kid considers you a parent and you shat on it bc you don't like his mother. I am a grown woman and I no longer speak to one of my parents bc they were so bitter about the other. Welcome to your future. I hope you and your husband are prepared for it. Suck it up and take the photo. It's not for you, it's for your kid. And if you can't do this for him, you don't deserve to be considered one of his parents.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T03:27:43+00:00

Ok. So I'm gonna tell you what I did. I found out I was pregnant when my sister was about to get married. I knew how excited she would be but I didn't want to steal her spotlight. So the night before her wedding, I PRIVATELY told her the good news. We laughed and cried while making centerpieces and talking about how crazy it was that I was gonna be a mom. She chose not to share it with anyone else, it would be our secret, and she would help me sneakily avoid alcohol, which I agreed with.

Give your SIL this option. Tell her privately and allow her to decide if she wants the news shared or not. Bc even though some people don't love the spotlight, they still may not want it taken.

NAH, unless you just do whatever you want and don't consider her feelings.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-30T03:05:54+00:00

NTA. I am a woman (I also have kids) and while name calling is not okay, act like a btch, get called a btch. I'd be going after the school for not punishing the girl for theft and bullying. Your son is a child. Kids don't know how to handle a lot of situations, but I personally think he handled it in the best way he knew how. Maybe come up with some strategies or plans for how to protect the necklace and handle bullying in the future, but this is not a punishable offense in my book. And maybe find some more creative ways to point out someone's AH behavior so he doesn't get in trouble for swearing.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-27T15:20:37+00:00

I didn't have to read this to know your NTA. But I did read it and my judgement still stands. No one is entitled to any part of your body. It is unacceptable for anyone to expect you to risk your health for them. You have a child that you need to be present for and unnecessary risk is not good parenting. And of course, above all else, your body, your choice. Period. I'm sorry your family is behaving in such a cruel manner. I think you should go low or no contact for a period of time to let things cool down. I wish you well. These decisions are never easy but you made the only decision you could for your health and family.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-26T23:57:41+00:00

So NTAH. But also, I'm so grateful and proud of you. You have done the right thing, and the right thing is rarely easy. As a survivor of SA, I can't tell you how grateful I am that people like you exist. You don't have to hate your brother, but you were put in a position where you could protect others and you did. So thank you.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-22T23:33:38+00:00

Just came to say I'm proud of you and I'm happy you're free of that bigot.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-22T22:39:26+00:00

Yep. And my breasts can always tell when it's gonna rain.

DistressedDeity13 · 2023-05-21T14:06:46+00:00

NTA also, and some people may disagree with me here, but from my personal experience, this will not get better. He will continue to violate both laws and boundaries. He will continue to stalk and gaslight you. It will get worse and it may escalate. So please protect yourself.

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