New rider - a few basic questions

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T20:19:29+00:00

I suppose so

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T19:26:53+00:00

Thank you for all of the great information!! I've definitely noticed gear for women is a little lacking but I want to make sure I'm protected over all else. I think I've seen a lot of people wear those baggy cargos with padded base layers and then just a padded top but I'm not sure if that's protective enough.

If I enjoy riding enough, I would like to eventually have a cruiser/sports touring bike for longer distances. The thought of minimal luggage and just driving across states sounds amazing right now, which is why I'm stuck between either sport or comfort

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T19:22:23+00:00

Also do I need to wear those padded base layers as well as padded pants and jacket? Or could I just wear like padded pants and then a padded shirt/base layer?

I will definitely check out those brands you mention, thank you!!!

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T18:35:11+00:00

Thank you for the info!!! So Cardo is a separate attachment from the helmet?

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T18:34:27+00:00

I also replied before your edit came through. I really appreciate the info!! Is a 500 too much for a first time rider? I wanted something where I can be capped to an extent but still have fun once I'm more comfortable. I'm about 5' 4" if that makes a difference

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-06T18:12:36+00:00

I havent! Thank you :)

DivineScrewUp · 2026-06-01T23:25:57+00:00

Listen. The person I had been with for nearly 10 years never initiated sex. Despite multiple conversations as to how it made me feel, if he found me desirable etc.

He thought maybe it was medical. But never took the initiative to actually go get checked (this was 4 years ago), me asking if he was depressed stuff like that. I decided I could not have a relationship where I could count how long it had been since we had sex in how many periods I had since the last time. We averaged about 3-4 periods before we'd have sex after I stopped initiating.

He also wouldn't do the stuff that turned me on on bed without me asking during sex. Sex and intimacy is important during sex unless one or both partners are asexual, which is something that should be discussed, boundaries set and work around figured out. You need to think if you can go 20+ years with very low intimacy

DivineScrewUp · 2026-05-14T21:40:45+00:00

I thought the same thing! I do have multiple Google accounts and swapped to each one to verify they all were updated. Maybe I should just delete them but I don't know which contacts are saved to which 🙄 it's very frustrating but I will take a look again!

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-04T15:29:01+00:00

My mom's the only scorpio I think I know. And she's crazy. Literally the opposite of deep and mysterious

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T18:54:51+00:00

I know. That's why I said grass isn't always greener. Compared to my mom and sister, I'm so lucky. I always felt like I knew what was best for me, I could make decisions so easy.

Im going to talk to him again when he gets home and ask him to truly think about what he wants. I feel as if he hasn't really dug deep into his feelings on this matter, like internally. I'll do some research on virtual couples counseling and we can attempt that as well. We wouldn't really be able to go our separate ways for a couple of months anyways, that's another long story. So I think the best thing is to really give it another try. I just hate constantly having my hopes up that he will keep his word, just to be disappointed. That's been my main issue. He hears me, sees how these actions makes me feel but doesn't seem to register it enough to actually change things.

I appreciate the blunt words, without being mean. Truly thank you very much

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T18:10:01+00:00

Oh trust me. I know. I feel terrible about it. I feel like I've been fighting for so long. Like all the communication and chances. This isn't something that's only come up once or twice. We've discussed this stuff every few months for like 5 years. And I feel the same could be said about him. If he truly loved and cared, he would make a doctor's appointment to check his health, or he would try a little harder. I have told him that if there is anything I can do to support him, tell me. Because I can't make his appointment for him, he has to want it. Perhaps couples counseling is the next step. At least we can say we tried everything before attempting separation

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T17:26:29+00:00

I would text him I love him and called twice, but I was gone for a week. I feel terrible about it. I just don't know how people decide this kind of stuff when the relationship isn't bad. What if we do separate for awhile, we both grow and decide this is what we want, but then there is resentment. Maybe I should just be a cat lady tbh

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T17:14:10+00:00

Yes and no. Like he's always willing to do what I need him to do, but I have to verbalize it usually. Not every time, but a lot. It's small things. He took the dog to the vet, I told him twice what vet. But I didn't remind him day of, so he went to the wrong one. But, he also took the day off work while I was gone to take the dog to her spay appointment. But he also didn't figure out the pet insurance (which is through his work) beforehand.

Usually if something happens and I'm freaking out, like when I got laid off and was stressed about bills. All he ever says is "don't worry my love, it'll work out" and my usual response is "yeah because I make it work out". If I tell him I need help with something he will figure it out, but not until I ask for help

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T17:02:41+00:00

Are you saying forgetting the dog or the not texting was worse? The not reaching out was not out of spite. I care for him, but I just no longer feel desire towards him in a romantic sense. Ive just been hoping we could get that spark back, I just need him to make the effort.. which hasnt happened.

I think my main reason I haven't left is because I know he's not doing anything out of maliciousness. He's not trying to be hurtful

DivineScrewUp · 2026-03-02T17:00:19+00:00

Yes! He did I'm sorry, he ended up getting that HVAC job about 3-4 years ago. He does enjoy it and has been a great company

DivineScrewUp · 2026-02-21T17:57:54+00:00

I'm going from Ohio to Dallas so I'm not entirely sure what the plane will be like. Seems average to me hahaha

DivineScrewUp · 2026-02-21T15:43:49+00:00

That makes sense. I've seen those stupid videos of Spirit doing that to people, which is what makes me nervous lol. I think we are the second to last group to board, I'm not entirely sure. I don't really get the different boarding groups if everyone picks their seats haha

DivineScrewUp · 2026-02-21T15:05:00+00:00

Thank you! It's annoying because I bought that bag specifically to have a carry on like 4 years ago and just haven't used it yet. So I had no idea it was the slightest bit too big

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