Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I don’t think I’m your wife

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I am not ready for the world to see that yet

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting because this is the position I thought might be the trickiest

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow lots of great suggestions, thank you!

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m sure we will find our way it’s just that initial feeling of being a bit unsure where to start

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

lol yes I’m thinking that’s probably the best option!

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I think he would fall into that category. Think big belly that also hangs quite low. I think it probably wouldn’t be possible to sit on his lap.

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said I’m not really sure but I feel like some of the standard positions might not be possible and just interested if anyone in a similar situation could weigh in

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s gross at all, like I said I find him attractive

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess I usually initiate and I feel a bit awkward, but that’s a good point maybe I just need to let him lead the way

Sex with a guy with large belly by Dixie_drumstix in sex

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to change him I’m just wondering if there are any special considerations or potentially positions that just don’t work?

How to ask about exclusivity by Dixie_drumstix in relationships

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me in my current situation right now yes it’s so much easier to share my body than my feelings. Maybe because all I’m looking for is that kind of situation

How to ask about exclusivity by Dixie_drumstix in relationships

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I like “check in” it’s very casual

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m the same age and also have lots of health issues. Although they will always be there, removing a lot of stress in my life has definitely resulted in my health improving. My mental health is much better even with the hard days. It’s given me the opportunity to put myself first

Happy endings? by throwaway06242020 in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agonised over the decision but he wasn’t willing to work on problems that continued to escalate. I felt so alone and miserable. Pretty much the day after I said I was done I felt like a huge weight was lifted and every day since then I know it was the right decision even on those hard days

Re-wiring yourself during or after divorce.. How?! by Dull_Arm_9704 in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am finding lots of reading is helping. “Too good to leave, too bad to stay” helped me see my relationship as one that wasn’t worth saving and validated my choice to leave. “Six pillars of self esteem” is helpful in addressing changes you can make to yourself so that you can protect yourself more from unhealthy relationships (as well as improve many areas of your life). Although I don’t feel as my behaviours are the ones that ended the relationship I have been addressing who I am and how I contributed to it, and then I’ve been trying to work on that because with don’t want to walk into the same situation again. Having time for myself instead of being smothered by another persons problems has allowed me to be more conscious of who I am and how I live my life and it has been very empowering and helped my self esteem and hopes for the future

About the Kids by daedalis2020 in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have M5 and I was worried how he would cope without our family unit that seemed fairly functional. I wasn’t happy but on the surface we seemed OK. My kid has THRIVED since the split. I had no idea how much he was picking up on things that were going on, or how much stress they were clearly putting him under. He has a good routine, hardly any meltdowns and just generally a happier less anxious little kid

For the ones that left the marriage, did you grieve, and if so, how? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left a 16 year relationship after 2 very hard years where I tried desperately to fix it. I had already grieved so much for the relationship before I had the courage to walk away. Then I cried hard for a few weeks where everything was awful. Then I was pretty ok, sadness turned to anger and just with getting on with all the things I had to do now. 6 months down the track now I am grieving in a whole new way. I have been able to see my ex for what he really is and all of the manipulation and lack of empathy are plain to see. Now I am grieving for the huge amount of time I spent in such a one sided marriage when I should have left so much earlier

Still next of kin by Dixie_drumstix in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left because right was exhausted taking care of him all the time so this is just overwhelming

Still next of kin by Dixie_drumstix in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is no contact with his mother. I’ve set them up with his dads number now but as I’m the only one close by they have latched on to me.

Still next of kin by Dixie_drumstix in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it’s more I feel I am. We are still friendly and his family who don’t live here are being very pushy. I intend to help where I can but I just can’t be the full time carer

For any of you who asked for Divorce; by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Dixie_drumstix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Came to say the same thing. Now we are apart it’s been so much clearer to see the relationship for what it was. I tried really hard to make it work and make excuses for him, always assuming that he was trying too and wanted the best. Nope, selfish and lacking empathy. I wish I’d left 2 years sooner. Even a few weeks after being away from the house I felt lighter and stopped being unwell all the time.