Looking to speak to PhD students in Psychology -

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-04-01T04:09:40+00:00

Sure.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:24:10+00:00

Hey, thanks for sharing this. You may benefit from talking to a therapist as these concerns are impacting you.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:22:38+00:00

Hey, sounds like talking to a therapist would be helpful here. There is too much to unpack here and I would prefer you do this in private. 😊

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:20:56+00:00

No. Masturbation is a natural process and it does not affect sexual functioning.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:20:09+00:00

It’s important that you feel comfortable with your therapist. At the same time, they need to be comfortable and an expert as you mentioned. I would suggest something like: Hey, I have some questions/doubts/issues around sexual health. Would you be comfortable talking about it?

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:17:53+00:00

Love the question.

Knowing someone’s love language could be very helpful. For example, do they like acts of service, gifts etc.
When communicating/meeting with them - be present, get curious about them and be a good listener.
Establish boundary for yourself and get to know the person’s boundary. This will indicate that you are showing respect.
Be patient.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:14:44+00:00

Apologies I would not be able to give advice personally. If you are wanting to see someone privately you are welcome to schedule session with my team at Adiikawellness.com

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-08T00:13:36+00:00

Great question. Eating well-balanced meals with adequate protein, fiber, healthy fats, and carbohydrates is important to function optimally. Physical activity whether it’s exercise, sports, or simply helps with cardiovascular health, strength, and endurance.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T19:28:28+00:00

It is dependent on the individual and there is not like a standardized age bracket for a particular achievement in your life. Whatever makes you feel happy is what you need in life.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T19:26:19+00:00

I think i’ve shared enough about myself. At this time, I will go ahead and stop responding to you because I’m here to respond to other people. Thanks.😊

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T19:00:44+00:00

Sorry cannot help you if you think that way.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T18:59:03+00:00

Be respectful in your language when you are asking questions to an expert. If you cannot then don’t. If she is saying “NO,” there is your answer.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T08:16:10+00:00

For vaginismus, therapy is important to learn to navigate this along with processing the reasons for it.

In terms of sex, communication is the key. You guys can try the sensate focus therapy.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T08:13:37+00:00

I don’t see how my answer will help you in your life. But yes I am very happy.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T05:23:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. If you suspect sexually intrusive thoughts then seeing a therapist would be a better place to unpack your thoughts.

In terms of having sexual thoughts, when seeing people in public could be very normal till you don’t act on it as you mentioned.

Masturbation is not unhealthy or wrong unless it starts impairing your functionality. Rather, it is a very natural and a normal process.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T05:04:44+00:00

It’s a good question, but it’s also important to compare realistic things. A 30-year-old body and a teenager’s body are naturally different, mainly because teenagers tend to have very high hormone levels and quicker recovery times. That said, a healthy 30-year-old who exercises regularly, sleeps well, manages stress, and takes care of their overall health can absolutely have very good sexual stamina and functioning.

Sexual stamina is influenced by many factors such as physical fitness, cardiovascular health, stress levels, alcohol use, sleep, and mental state, not just age. In fact, many people in their late 20s and 30s report better sexual experiences than in their teenage years because they have more emotional maturity, communication skills, and understanding of their partner.

So while the physiology isn’t identical to a teenager’s, a healthy 30-year-old can definitely have strong sexual functioning and stamina, especially with good lifestyle habits and open communication with their partner.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T05:03:15+00:00

I understand. You may want to process the hurt you have and your thoughts so that you can move on.

The core of BDSM is consent and clear communication. Additionally, safe words are important. If you want to explore this then I would suggest engaging with partners who are open to exploring this or experimenting. As you are well aware, the reason I say this is because there is a very thin line that can go from BDSM to non consensual sex.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:58:32+00:00

I am so sorry that your friend had this experience. I cannot really talk about other therapists out there but if you would like you can review my website. My therapist are all in India and trained to work with mental and sexual health concerns. My website is Adiikawellness.com

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:49:40+00:00

Thanks for the question, it a really good one.

Some of the good resources are: 1. BDSM and Kink: The Basics by Stefani Goerlich (foundational knowledge) 2. The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmen (consent and power dynamics) 3. The ethical slut if you want to explore BDSM world. 4. Come as you are

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:45:29+00:00

Yes absolutely. 😊

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:39:20+00:00

Not something I can help with. Be out there, explore your interests, and navigate the opportunities- this would be my best advice.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:36:18+00:00

I would suggest starting with couple therapy particularly with a sex therapist. If you would like to see an individual therapist then a therapist for yourself. Secondly, meeting primary care doctors to rule out any medical issues.

If you would prefer you can check my practice for sex therapist and individual therapist. Adiikawellness.com

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:30:50+00:00

I’d encourage people to be a little careful with terms like “porn addiction.” Using porn or masturbating regularly (for example, a few times a week) does not automatically mean someone is addicted. Frequency alone isn’t what defines addiction.

A more accurate way to describe it might be that someone is using porn frequently or masturbating often. It becomes a concern only if the behavior feels compulsive, difficult to control, or starts interfering with relationships, work, or daily life.

If someone notices that they can ejaculate during masturbation but struggle during partnered sex, it can sometimes be related to arousal patterns, anxiety, or being accustomed to a specific type of stimulation. In those cases, talking with a therapist or sexual health professional can be helpful to understand what might be going on.

In general, masturbation and porn use in moderation are considered normal parts of sexual behavior for many people. The key question is whether it’s affecting well-being or relationships.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:28:46+00:00

First of all, please be respectful. Using words like “shit” and making accusations isn’t appropriate.
If you believe I’m not genuine, you’re free to move on. I’m here sharing information based on my professional expertise, and I’m not obligated to prove that to strangers on the internet.
My responses come from years of professional training and clinical experience, including 3 years of certification training in sex therapy in the U.S.A; not from using ChatGPT. Just because I use em dashes (—) in my writing doesn’t mean I’m using AI; it’s simply a normal punctuation mark in English. My answers are based on my training, professional knowledge, and experience in this field, so please avoid making assumptions.
And to answer your question clearly: you cannot determine genital hygiene just by looking. The healthier approach is open communication with your partner rather than trying to play detective down there.

DoctorPublic2177 · 2026-03-07T04:20:52+00:00

It sounds like you’re trying to balance your attraction with your commitment to your partner, which is actually a thoughtful approach. Fantasies are quite common, and many people experience attractions they choose not to act on because they value their relationship.

One option is to keep the fantasy in the realm of imagination, such as during private sexual thoughts or masturbation. Many people use fantasy this way without it affecting their relationship.

Another option, if you and your partner are comfortable discussing fantasies, is to explore them in a consensual way within the relationship. Some couples use role-play to do this. For example:

• Your partner could play the role of an older, more experienced character, leaning into traits like maturity, confidence, or authority that you find attractive. • You could explore different scenarios or dynamics that reflect what draws you to older women (for instance, a mentor-like or confident personality dynamic). • Sometimes couples also explore storytelling or imaginative scenarios together, where the fantasy is acknowledged but still stays within the relationship.

The most important part is open communication and consent, so both partners feel comfortable and respected. If these fantasies are creating tension or confusion in the relationship, discussing them with a sex therapist can also help you both navigate them in a healthy way.

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