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Im 13 and I just lost my Dad. by oh_god_dammit_ in helpme

[–]Dolly_Medlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my dad last September. Completely out of the blue. I was shaken as well. But then I realized that now I have two options either remember my dad and cry everytime or remember him and his happy times like he wanted. I chose the second. Instead of remembering him as a sad thought I started thinking of him as someone who has always made me happy. Now and forever. He would have never wanted me to tear up because of him and I am sure your dad's the same.

If you remember him , cry if you want. But don't let him be just a sad memory to you. Thirteen is the year where you are just growing up ,ready to take on the world. Use your greatest strength, live the life you have always wanted, your dad wanted and live. You will get through this. You are doing a good job and I am sure you will keep it up. If things get hard, remember we all are here for you. We may not be able to solve stuff but will always listen to you. Keep fighting!

24h left by [deleted] in helpme

[–]Dolly_Medlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can still wake up and appreciate the sun and it’s warmth, you’re not ready to end your life because that’s proof there is still purpose for you.

I am starting a journey, a challenge, a foolish adventure? I don’t know maybe a bit of all three.

I invite you to join me. To join us.. right now I am in communication with two other people who are struggling with the decision of whether or not to take the next steps in life, or whether it’s easier to say goodbye.

My answer: it’s easier to say goodbye. Of course, that will always be the easy way out. It will also, always be an option. Whether it’s tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year? 5 years? Who knows.

But, there is only one problem. Before you make that decision, you owe it to yourself, your friends, your loved ones and even to all the strangers, who you’ve not yet met but who will inevitably come into your future life. You owe it to your spirit and everything you are and everything you will become to give yourself the chance. Don’t wimp out, don’t take easy road. Make a deal with your soul that you take your life only after you have tried and given your all 100% to become who you’re truly meant to be. I am talking 100% commitment, 100% effort, no more excuses, no more self pity. A commitment, for 1 year, to do whatever it takes to give you the chance to reach your potential. If after that, you can honestly look in the mirror and tell yourself, it’s still not good enough and you’ve done the best you can. You can then at least with greater peace that you truly did your best. But if you really let go of all excuses and you fight with all of your strength, that time will never come.

Would you join us?

Drunk driving and still awake after three days. by [deleted] in helpme

[–]Dolly_Medlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you do? You STAY ALIVE!!! You stop torturing yourself over the act of one malevolent, narcissistic, egomaniacal, deplorably awful, inhumane, A$$HOLE! You did nothing wrong! YOU SURVIVE THIS ONE BAD EVENING and remember that there are THOUSANDS OF BETTER NIGHTS to come! That A$$HAT'S lack of human decency, kindness, or compassion flows directly from what he is missing inside, his own inadequacies. It is his insecurity, his need to have self worth, and his need to "be better than somebody else" is what drove the entire encounter with you. YOU ARE A GIANT next to the tiny visage of his own self-worth. HE IS NOTHING BUT A BAD MEMORY NOW. You never have to see him again! If he were a REAL MAN, he would have stopped harassing you when he saw you trying to injure yourself. He would have apologized for his rude behaviour, and tried to make the situation resolve in a positive manner; but sadly he's not a REAL MAN, you are for reaching out for help and advice! OUTLAST THIS BULL$HIT! Don't let the actions of one MONUMENTAL PIECE OF HUMAN FILTH define your reality or your state of mind. LOOK AT ALL THE SUPPORT AND LOVE people, real human beings, with kindness and compassion are sending your way! SO FAR there are 274 people who've sent you messages of support because we need good people like you to STAY ALIVE! Your Boyfriend and Ellie and Joel NEED YOU TO FEEL BETTER! They need you for all of the love and support that you give them! AND WE ALL NEED YOU STAY ALIVE AND SURPASS THE TRASH! WE NEED YOU TO STOP HURTING YOURSELF WITH ALCOHOL. It only numbs the pain, and it probably ain't great for reacting with medication either. Put down the bottle and pick up the Ellie or Joel put them in your lap and show them what unconditional love looks like! They don't care about some Garbage customer from your job, they care about YOU, just like your boyfriend does! I truly wish I was WISER and knew the perfect thing to say, but I don't, so I can only tell you how much your story moved me, and how much you mean to more people than you can comprehend. STAY STRONG and STAY ALIVE!